hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[craftymum]

Hey Kat, you may want to skip that birth video at your stage LOL!!
Crazy that you only found out about the midwifes now, we do have a community midwife but I was told she'll only come out to me if I'm not able to go in and see my GP, she will visit me at home after the birth though but that's it so like you I feel a bit neglected in that way too although the midwife in the ulster yesterday told me that they're there 24/7 if I have any worries no matter how simple just to call them rather than sitting at home worrying about it.

 

[craftymum]

Hey Kat, you may want to skip that birth video at your stage LOL!!
Crazy that you only found out about the midwifes now, we do have a community midwife but I was told she'll only come out to me if I'm not able to go in and see my GP, she will visit me at home after the birth though but that's it so like you I feel a bit neglected in that way too although the midwife in the ulster yesterday told me that they're there 24/7 if I have any worries no matter how simple just to call them rather than sitting at home worrying about it. What age was the oldest couple at the classes roughly? You'd have thought there would've been some girls in their 20's there.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

yep i was expecting it to be mostly 20;s.. id say the oldest were defo 40's.. id put the average at late 30's for sure.. and we were almost all first timers too!

 

[claire99991]

i remember when i went to antenatal classes i was around 26 weeks i think with my daughter and they played this video for this lady giving birth there was pure silence in the room all the men looked uncomfy and all the woman's jaws hit the floor and they looked terrifed including me!

craftymum i so no how you feel about spilling your sick and just wanting to cry, you will be so exhausted and fed up everything will make you upset. Im so sorry you have been so poorly it seems so unfair, it might ease up though soon i think mine stopped around 21 weeks. xxx

Our friends are only staying the 1 night and the saterday day so they will just have to put up with me bing sick, there really lovely though so i dont want to cancel, my house i could just cry at my OH said he will do sum housework when he gets in from work tonight which is sweet of him.

I think i have a phobia about being sick, i hate it so much i cry my eyes out and im shouting no no no no just before it comes it sounds quite pathetic but ive always hated it. I think im stopping myself being sick and i need to just let it come up the times i have i have felt so better for being sick, the past 2 nights ive gone to bed clutching towels not moving a inch in bed cos i can feel it all sat in my stomach, it like its not digesting its just sitting there and i can feel it, really hard to explain but my tummy at the top just feels so full like i need to be sick but then i stop myself i wish i could just let it go but i dont really no how after traning myself to stop it.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

claire i was exactly the same at the start.. now i barely even think about it in that way at all. i just had to accept that it was going to be an everyday occurance, and i just went with it. i think i probably got to the point where i hadnt the energy to fight it anymore.. i still hate seeing it, so i hang over the toilet with my eyes closed and my hand on the flusher so i can get rid of it fast, which helps. that and just breathing too... sometimes just the act of getting into a throwing up position at the toilet is enough to tell your brain that its ok to be sick.. dont be scared tho hun.. its not so bad once it actually comes up and you get a bit of a rest from the nausea for a few mins. there were loads of times at the start that i actually made myself sick too... this sounds a bit weird, but sometimes u really need to be sick and ur brain is fighting it too much.. its not pleasant sticking ur fingers down your throat but it does the job if u know what i mean.
big hugs to u all xx

 

[craftymum]

I know what you mean, I hate being sick, I just sit and cry after but it is better to get rid of it as it will give you a bit of relief even if it's only for 5 minutes. I really hope it does stop soon, I know Kat is still throwing up at 35 weeks. I went for my scan yesterday and we nipped into mothercare on the way home, I was absolutely knackered and my back was killing me I just couldn't wait to get home and get back into bed. Tried a few chips the other night and a slice of garlic bread just a small portion from Stephen's tea just to see if something different would stay down but no it all came back up again and it was very unpleasant indeed. I've started eating a taste of ice cream or a solero at nights cos it doesn't hurt my throat as much when I throw everything back up again. I hate the fact that I'm missing out on all this lovely weather, thank God for the internet or I think I would be insane by now!

 

[craftymum]

maybe when this is all over we will never catch any tummy bugs ever again, I think we've done enough chucking up to last a lifetime or 3!

 

[claire99991]

you know ive never had a tummy bug in my life isnt that strange, im 26 this month and never had a tummy bug maybe this is why im so scared of being sick do you think?

have you girls lost any weight with all the sickness, just a question cos i lost 2 stone with my daughter but ive only lost a pound so far! thats the only welcome side effect for me im afraid as a size 14-16 it wouldnt be a bad thing to throw a few pounds up lol gotta think of the positives.

the ice cream is a good idea hun, i had sum mint choc ice cream last night instead of any tea and i love ice lollies and ice pops cos it just turns to water doesnt it,

im going to take your advice and when i feel like i need to be sick im gonna sit at the toilet and just not fight it. xxx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

at my worst i was 2st lighter than when i first got pregnant... ive been slowly putting it back on, but im still a lot smaller than before, im wearing size 12 maternity clothes whereas i was a healthy 14 before, almost all of my pre preg tops still fit, despite my considerable bump! your right, it is the ONE and ONLY advantage of being so ill.. we dont hve baby weight to loose after they come!

the tummy bug thing is bound to be connected. my brother HATES throwing up loads too, so even when he has a tummy bug, he doesnt throw up, it just comes the other end (TMI) its a vicious circle because the fact your never sick means its bound to be more scary when you are.. my dr told me that it actually requires your body to work very hard, releases loads of adrenaline etc, its not an easy thing for your body to do.. maybe you need to sort of train yourself. i know that sounds totally weird, but to my pregnant brain it makes sense lol!

 

[craftymum]

I lost 10lbs but I couldn't even afford to lose this as it left me underweight, I'm normally a size 8-10 and still able to fit into my normal clothes as I've now only just reached the weight I was pre pregnancy, I think it must be due to baby and placenta etc as it's certainly not from what I'm eating. Although all my cropped trousers are very uncomfy as I guess my shape has changed a bit now but maternity stuff is too big I even tried size 6 maternity trousers and they were great apart from the length, they were too short and didn't come in a longer length. I guess that is the only good thing as after this is over we will be able to fit into our jeans again quicker, it's the flabby belly I'm worrying about though as from what I remember it takes ages to shift it! Good thing about being due in October though means there's plenty of time to do it before the summer sets in again.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

oh help ive had period type pains for a few hours now.. PLEASE dont let this be anything yet lol... IM NOT READY!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[craftymum]

OMG hope you're ok!! Keep us posted!

 

[Stilletto_Sam]

Oh Kat! That's definately something starting there! I'm so excited! Please keep us posted. I hope all goes well for you and that labour is short and "sweet". (That's if you don't make it back on here beforehand!)

Louise! Excited for you too that you found out what you're having. I'm dying to ask you but I know you won't tell! Can I ask you, though for future reference how you went about asking the sonographer seeing as there were signs everywhere? I am going for my first proper scan on Friday but I suppose it's too early to ask anyway. I want to know what I'm having this time but Hubs doesn't so there may be a conflict of interest there!

Claire, welcome to the thread! Sorry to see you here if you know what I mean (in the nicest possible way) I don't know if you have read further back re. your stomach not shifting food. I am currently taking Metoclopramide which works by emptying the stomach quickly so there's nothing to bring up, although I suppose you have to enjoy dry retching as a trade-off!!! I've seen you around on other threads but I'm happy to say hello at this late stage and on a thread about being sick. Ah well.

Me? I had a setback this evening before dinner where I was sick-or rather dry heaving. I think I may have been hungry so I'm hoping the spag bol I had for dinner stays down. That's the first time in a week, so fingers crossed that I'm still on the up.


XXX

 

[craftymum]

Hi Sam I'm glad the sickness seems to be easing off for you a bit, I'll keep everything crossed for you.
When I had my 12 week scan it was in a different room but yesterday it was in a special scan room, lights off and all. The sonographer was Dr Holmes and to be honest our first impression was that she looked a bit grumpy but after she'd done all her checks and measurements and showed us what everything was she asked if we had any questions and I said I was so glad that everything was ok as I'd been so worried with being so sick, Stephen then said the one thing we'd like to ask is the one thing we're not allowed to ask and she just said 'would you like to know' we both said yes if you can see it and she went ahead and looked and then just told us. My friend was in after me and she asked and apparantely she wouldn't tell her so I guess she must have felt sorry for me or maybe it's just the way we asked, I don't know but leave it til the very end like we did and see if that makes a difference, they wont be able to see it anyway until your 20 week scan. It is great knowing as it means we know what colour to buy now!

 

[claire99991]

oh help ive had period type pains for a few hours now.. PLEASE dont let this be anything yet lol... IM NOT READY!!!!!!!!!!!!

how u getting on, period cramps were my 1st signs of contractions, after my waters went all over my bed!

sam, yea seen you around a lot as well hun, nice to speak to you glad the sickness is easing, them tablets sound good i think food or drink stays in my stomach for hours and hours and hours.

craftymum its so good the sonofropher took pity and told you what it was, its slighty weird though isnt it that sum hospitals do it and sum dont, when i had my daughter she wouldnt tell me so i paid for a 3d scan to find out what it was, and now i live in a differnt town when i went for my early scan yesterday there was a notice up saying they could tell you the sex of the baby just to be aware that its not 100% accurate. I would love to tell couples if i was a sonogropher what they were having i think it would be so exciting.

 

[claire99991]

forgot to say i was sick about half hour ago but there wasnt a lot there, im going to try and eat a strawberry yoghurt very slowly see if it stays down.

 

[craftymum]

forgot to say i was sick about half hour ago but there wasnt a lot there, im going to try and eat a strawberry yoghurt very slowly see if it stays down.

Hope the yogurt works Claire, I'm off to bed now, just been sick myself. Had a crappy day today. I agree that it's stupid that some hospitals wont tell. I think we have the right to know if we want to.

 

[Stilletto_Sam]

I think the hopitals err on the side of caution in case of lawsuits from getting the sex wrong. I had my other two in the (now demolished) Jubilee Maternity at the City Hospital and their policy was not to tell either. I think I'll pay for a private scan and go on my own at 20 weeks if Hubs doesnt want to know.

Have a good (ish) evening ladies. I'm off to bed as I'm tired too.


XXX

 

[claire99991]

the apprentice, ive taped it and then of to bed for me to xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

hmmm had a long bath and they seem to have eased off a bit... i feel horribly sick tho. fighting with my dinner to keep it down.. just took a cyclazine and settling down to concentrate on the apprentice that i recorded while in the bath! hopefully there wont be any action tonight!

our 20 week scan was in that room too.. but it was a radiographer did it not a dr.. she wasnt for giving anything away at all i think it just depends on who you get on the day but its defo worth asking!

claire.. well done on being sick! sounds mad, but i know its a big deal. hopefully the yoghurt stays down xx