hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[claire99991]

hi girls sorry you didnt get much sleep either of you when you get towards the end it becomes very hard to sleep but the end is in sight of you now! so hang in there not long to go.

craftymum i really hope your gp can change your meds around tomorow there is no way you should have to put up with this for any longer.

i was sick again in bed last night, (well into my bucket next to my bed) and been sick once this morning although there wasnt really anything there just water and now im starving im scared to have lunch but i need to eat sumthing my OH is of work this afternoon and said we can go out sumwhere but im scared to go out incase im sick, but then again it would be nice for my little girl to get out and about for a couple of hours. ARGH i hate being hungry but knowing after im just gonna feel worse for eating. I weighed myself this morning and im 4lb lighter than when i got pregnant but im not to bothered about that.

 

[Rebaby]

Sorry everyone has had a rough night

I am having a good morning! It is so bizzarre but at the minute i seem to have ok days followed by horrible ones

I have managed a cereal bar and drink of water anyway and not been sick at all. I feel tired because i didn't sleep too good either, but i don't even feel sick so far today. I am going to try and get some work done while it lasts, the weather looks nice enough to hang some washing out and we could do with a few bits from the supermarket so i'll attempt that and see how i feel after!

 

[craftymum]

I wasn't sick this morning I actually managed to keep my toast down, though I didn't eat anything else all morning and I didn't have a sip to drink until lunchtime, I really think I'm worse when I drink. Had toast again at lunch but it came up again and I feel like crap. Hope you're right kat as I think I really hurt Stephen last night with the things I said to him, it will be so nice when this is all over to just be able to feel normal again. When we told my MIL about the pram, she actually said that we could keep it for the next one!!! I don't think so this is my 2nd and it will almost certainly be my last, there is no way on this earth I would go through all this again but think they only really care about the baby as she said at least I was halfway there now and they've also started visiting us loads (at least once a fortnight) whereas before they never came near us unless they had bad news or something.

Claire you may end up needing to go in for a few days for a drip especially if you're starting to lose weight, hopefully you will be able to keep yourself hydrated though.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

stephen will understand hun. just grab 2 mins when you arent feeling so bad and reassure him that you still love him and you dont mean the things you say at the min. its hard for the guys too as they are so helpless really... apart from the housework etc theres really nothing that they can do for us

 

[craftymum]

Just spent another half hour throwing up. I think you're right Kat he prob will understand I guess it is hard for them as they can't really understand that it's hard enough with all the normal pregnancy hormones without all this too. It's hard too cos of how things are with Jenna being ill at the minute too as every day is so stressful.
Forgot to mention when I had my wee funny turn in the pram shop, one of the girls bought me a magazine to flick through and would you believe the first page I opened at was a full page spread about hyperemesis!!! I didn't get a chance to read it though and to be honest I don't think I could've read it as I was still fuzzy headed for a while anyway.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

we really are robbed arent we. all through my life ive imagined what its like to be pregnant, to have that glow and wander around work with people touching my belly and asking when im due.. in reality its been just one horrendous experience, with one day of battling after another after another after another. it leaves you depressed, malnourished, lonely and weak as dishwater.. it looses you friends, (and teaches you who the real friends are) and puts a huge strain on your relationships. its really really hard, and worst of all.... it goes on for months. literally the ONLY thing you can do is take it one day at a time.. even one hour at a time, and just ride it out until its over. BIG huge hugs to you..

 

[claire99991]

its hard for our OH to understand at least it sounds like yours try and understand mine has told me that 'morning sickness is in my head and im making myself worse'

WTF!!!! i just walked away i have no energy to fight bk with him, he really doesnt get it at all he doesnt do any housework for me and still expects me to look after our daughter when he is of at the weekends.

Well i was starving at lunchtime so i made lasange salad and garlic bread i know its gonna be totally gross if i bring it bk up but dry crackers is just making me worse well ive kept it down so far.....the evening is deffo worse for me i wont have any tea tonight but at least i know i have had 1 decent meal and fluids it should be enough to keep me going. Need to tackle my housework now before the sickenss kicks bk in, my OH has finished work early but gone for a lie down

 

[NIfirsttimer]

claire thats not fair at all... i bet he wouldnt last a day with it! you should sit him down and force him to read this thread so he knows its defo not in your head... it drove me mad when people said that to me.. as if we would choose to be like this if there was anything we could do about it! if it was in my head id be doing cartwheels down the street naked rather than feeling like this for months!

i was the same as you with food. in the end i just ate what i fancied. if it came back it came back, but sometimes it was the weirdest things that stayed down! fingers crossed ur lasagne is one of those!

 

[craftymum]

Claire that really is unfair even if you weren't sick he should still be pulling his weight while you're pregnant but the fact that you're so sick makes it worse. Definitely talk to him or like Kat says let him read this thread to see that you're not the only one. I am lucky in that Stephen has been great, he does the shopping, the housework and never really complains - when he says he's shattered or has a sore throat or something I'm guilty of being a bit bitchy to him by saying things like I'll swap with you anyday, then he feels bad for complaining, then I feel bad for making him feel guilty. Get him to google hyperemesis too there's an American site called help her and they have loads of info for friends and family - not that any of mine would read it either but worth a try. I guess it doesn't help that you GP is being so crap about it, I was lucky when I went to see mine the first time she gave me the tablets straight away and told me if it wasn't any better in 3 days to call her and when I did she sent me straight up to hospital. Hopefully your midwife will be able to help you as it's really unfair if you can't get some help. I hope your lasagne stays down, I know when I tried garlic bread it was so vile on the way back up, any hot foods just seem to make my stomach heave at the very thought/smell of them, I can't wait to feel better cos I want to go to pizza hut and make a complete pig of myself! Just a wee tip, salt and vinegar crisps can sometimes be good and if you get ones like chipsticks or even cheesy wotsits or quavers they kind of melt so they're not too bad on the way up again. Avoid crunchy sharp crisps, they kill!!
Apples usually stay down for me but I ate one today and it came up again but it really scared me as it got stuck in my throat and I couldn't get it up, eventually it did come up but it was so sore - apples are not good on the way up again. I completely emptied my stomach today so I feel so drained now but I really hope I can have a night where I'm not sick as I'm so fed up with having to clean up the mess after myself - I spilled my bucket today again when I was emptying it, all down the side of the loo and over the floor!
we really do miss out when there are so many pregnant women enjoying their lives with their only complaint being a bit of tiredness etc - I'm starting to get killer backache, baby must be pressing on a nerve but it kills and bending forward throwing up all the time can't be helping.
I was thinking of changing my pram order as we know what we are having and the bugaboo comes in lots of different choices of covers I was thinking of maybe changing the red to the more appropriate colour for the sex, what do you think? Stephen still likes the red and so do I but I'm a sucker for coordinating!! As they have all the colours in stock anyway and we'd keep the charcoal base it should be fine, though I'd have to change car seat too as I ordered it in red too so it all matched. I'm so indecisive, I do know if I change it and bring pram home I wont be able to let our parents see it or they'll know straight away what we are having.

 

[claire99991]

yea you could change your pram i guess and keep it hidden could you keep it hidden or secret the colour if there paying for it, its hard to answer cos your keeping it under wraps what your having i think red would go with a boy or girl but probs more with a girl.

my OH doesnt even know what hypermsesis is if i asked him he would say what!? he doesnt think i have this condition he thinks i just have morning sickness and its all in my head. He is just a really typical man who thinks im there to clean and look after hollie (even though i have a job of 17 hours a week as well)

example of how inconsiderate he is when i was in labour with hollie it lasted 17 hours my contractions were every 2 min from start to finish it was HELL he slept most of the way thru it cos he was bored he also got his dad to bring him sandwhiches up to the hosp and went of to eat them just as my contractions were spiking at 90 on the machine! then after i lied there exhausted throwing up over and over having 18 stitches put into my lady bits and he was on the phone to his dad 'yea it wasnt even that bad' if i could have physically moved of the bed i would have thrown him out of the window.

OK RANT OVER!!! i needed that i might go rant at him now

 

[craftymum]

Oh Claire, your OH sounds exactly like my Dad, he only hears what he wants to hear, my Dad was running around telling everyone I was doing great just cos he came in one day with my Mum and I wasn't lying in bed unable to speak!!
We thought the red would do either too and it is really nice and apparantley the most popular colour in it but they do pinks and blues too so it might be easier for coordinating blankets and sheets if we went for one of those instead.
We could always just get the black reflection car seat I guess

 

[craftymum]

just thrown up again

 

[claire99991]

just thrown up again

awww hugz your docs appt carnt come soon enough

 

[craftymum]

yep tomorrow morning though the way I feel now it's getting the energy to get up and go though. How are you tonight

 

[claire99991]

touchwood ive only been sick once which was this morning and ive had a slice of toast tonight as well, im feeling queasy but not to the point of vomiting yet. xx

 

[NIfirsttimer]

ive been doing your throwing up for you tonight claire.. hope you appreciate it lol!

 

[claire99991]

ive been doing your throwing up for you tonight claire.. hope you appreciate it lol!

i appreciate it, i will do 2moz for us

 

[NIfirsttimer]

god how good would it be if we could do that!!!

on a good note.. ive started drinking raspberry leaf tea this week in preperation for my perfect textbook dream pain free delivery.. and u know wot.. its not half bad to throw up!

only u girlies will appreciate that one ;-)

 

[craftymum]

Bleurgh!! The thought of any flavoured tea always made me wanna hurl, think if I go down that route I'll stick to the tablets rather than the tea.
It really is awful how we think about everything we eat in the way of what it'll be like on the way back up again!
I was really sick last night for about 2 hours, I tried a few of Stephen's chippy chips to see if they stayed down - something different but they didnt, they came right back up along with everything else.
Going to Docs this morning and really can't even be bothered getting up and getting ready, just feel so sore and tired. On the plus though I'm getting my hair cut on Saturday!! First time since beginning of Feb! Hope she doesn't make a mess though as just going to local one rather than my usual one to save me having to travel etc. Suppose it can't be any worse than it is at the minute I guess as it's a sight right now.

Can't believe I'm 5 months pregnant!!

 

[Stilletto_Sam]

Just nipping in to see how the Docs appointment went, Loiuse. I really hope that you got appropriate help this morning.

to all you poor, poor girls. Claire, your OH sounds like a complete ar*e-no offense! I don't know how I would have got to this stage without my Hubs, but I reckon I must just be very lucky.


Hope you have a good-ish day ladies.


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