hyperemesis sufferers unite!

[claire99991]

sam - lol no offence taken he is!!!

yea just popping on to see how your appt went at the docs hope all was well

bk to throwing up for me this morning fun fun fun. And work tonight should be intresting. xxx

 

[kathykins]

Hi all,

I was whinging about my sickness on another thread so some of you lovely ladies suggest I come and post here too. I feel a bit guilty cause I'm a lot better than I was since the docs found an anti-sickness tablet that seems to be working, but before that I lost two stone, got signed off work and practically lived at the local hospital being rehydrated. Trouble is, I think I'm now hooked on these tabs cause I've been taking them three times a day for three months now. It's really made my first pregnancy a complete nightmare though (that and my MIL, but that's a whole other thread) so I really, REALLY sympathise with everyone on here and wanted to send you all a massive

 

[Rebaby]

Sorry you've had such a rough time kathykins glad the medication is working so well for you.

As predicted, after my fantastic day yesterday i have had another rough morning I am 'ignoring it' today though, in the sense that i am still eating and drinking and pretending as though i am not going to be sick, because i am fed up of having days where i live off ice lollies in fear of throwing up. It's horrid throwing up actual food, but at least this way i'm not starving as well as nauseas!

Also i am trying to crack on and do a few little bits around the house. OH finishes work at 3pm today and i want to have the place looking a little bit tidier, even if it's just superficial stuff like sweeping the floor rather than unpacking the mass of boxes in the corner!

Had a bit of a strange experience last night, woke up with horrid cramps all in my abdomen and back and my first thought (bearing in mind i was half asleep!) was "i'm in labour!" Yeah sure, at 16 weeks Went to the bathroom and spent the next half an hour on the loo with terrible diarrhea (sorry if that's a bit tmi!) I was gone for so long i felt sure OH was going to come looking for me, but when i got back he was still fast asleep. Don't know what that was about, as i've been pretty constipated lately, it's from one extreme to the other!

 

[craftymum]

Hi everyone well my docs appointment went well she was really lovely to me though she told me that at almost 22 weeks I can probably give up hope of it going as I will probably be like this to the bitter end, she said not to get overtired and let everyone run around after me (louise decides to hoover this morning and could hardly breathe afterwards as it took so much out of me and our living room isn't exactly big)
She told me she can't give me any other tablets as the ones I'm on (cyclizine) are the only ones she will give to pregnant ladies so unfortunately I just have to suffer for another 18 weeks she said my BP was very low 94/69 which could explain the fainting so they did tests to check for anaemia - hope I'm not though as iron makes me worse so I can't even take my vitamins either. She said just stick to bland unsmelly foods and to avoid cooking or being around while people are cooking (I do anyway). On the plus though we got to hear bubs heartbeat and it was a good strong 152, the Doc was all smiles too she said she loves that sound, the nurse was quite concerned as I've only put one pound on since I was 16 weeks and I'm still 2 kilos lighter than I was before I got pregnant (I'm usually an 8-10 and I'm quite tall too so I didn't actually have any weight that I could afford to lose in first place) yet why do I feel so fat?? I don't really look pregnant at all yet I feel like I have this horrible flabby belly and my trousers keep falling down which is so annoying but I'm too small for any maternity trousers to really fit me..oh the joys, I feel shattered now, I told Doc that if I don't drink I might keep something down but as soon as I take a drink I'm chucking up she said unfortunately that's common that fluids can set it off but that I have to keep drinking anyway. I get my blood tests results on Friday so will bbe able to update you all then.

Hi Kathykins, welcome to our world, and rebaby sorry you're having such a bad time too but you are right you do need to still keep eating even if it does make you sick, I do understand though as I went 8 hours on Sunday without eating as I'm just so fed up with throwing up all the time too.
Hope everyone else is having a good day so far, I can feel it coming already, I'm going to be sick again soon and all I ate was toast.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

so now i might have pre eclampsia my urine was ++protein and my BP was very high. have to se the community midwife on friday and dr again monday, she said if its the same on monday then she will send me to hosp, and if ruby is still measuring big they might just go ahead and induce me.. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
will i ever feel ready?

 

[claire99991]

so now i might have pre eclampsia my urine was ++protein and my BP was very high. have to se the community midwife on friday and dr again monday, she said if its the same on monday then she will send me to hosp, and if ruby is still measuring big they might just go ahead and induce me.. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
will i ever feel ready?

i read that there is a higher chance of pre eclampisa with hypermesis, if it has to be done hun its best to just get it done for yours and ruby's sake, your never going to feel 100% ready no one does i dont think but as soon as you have your baby in your arms you will be on keep us posted xxx

 

[claire99991]

Hi everyone well my docs appointment went well she was really lovely to me though she told me that at almost 22 weeks I can probably give up hope of it going as I will probably be like this to the bitter end, she said not to get overtired and let everyone run around after me (louise decides to hoover this morning and could hardly breathe afterwards as it took so much out of me and our living room isn't exactly big)
She told me she can't give me any other tablets as the ones I'm on (cyclizine) are the only ones she will give to pregnant ladies so unfortunately I just have to suffer for another 18 weeks she said my BP was very low 94/69 which could explain the fainting so they did tests to check for anaemia - hope I'm not though as iron makes me worse so I can't even take my vitamins either. She said just stick to bland unsmelly foods and to avoid cooking or being around while people are cooking (I do anyway). On the plus though we got to hear bubs heartbeat and it was a good strong 152, the Doc was all smiles too she said she loves that sound, the nurse was quite concerned as I've only put one pound on since I was 16 weeks and I'm still 2 kilos lighter than I was before I got pregnant (I'm usually an 8-10 and I'm quite tall too so I didn't actually have any weight that I could afford to lose in first place) yet why do I feel so fat?? I don't really look pregnant at all yet I feel like I have this horrible flabby belly and my trousers keep falling down which is so annoying but I'm too small for any maternity trousers to really fit me..oh the joys, I feel shattered now, I told Doc that if I don't drink I might keep something down but as soon as I take a drink I'm chucking up she said unfortunately that's common that fluids can set it off but that I have to keep drinking anyway. I get my blood tests results on Friday so will bbe able to update you all then.

Hi Kathykins, welcome to our world, and rebaby sorry you're having such a bad time too but you are right you do need to still keep eating even if it does make you sick, I do understand though as I went 8 hours on Sunday without eating as I'm just so fed up with throwing up all the time too.
Hope everyone else is having a good day so far, I can feel it coming already, I'm going to be sick again soon and all I ate was toast.

im so sorry there is nothing else they can give you to make you feel any better hun, this seems so unfair at least she was supportive though, its no suprising your not ganing any weight with all the sickness how can they expect you to. I hope your having a okish day xxx

 

[claire99991]

Sorry you've had such a rough time kathykins glad the medication is working so well for you.

As predicted, after my fantastic day yesterday i have had another rough morning I am 'ignoring it' today though, in the sense that i am still eating and drinking and pretending as though i am not going to be sick, because i am fed up of having days where i live off ice lollies in fear of throwing up. It's horrid throwing up actual food, but at least this way i'm not starving as well as nauseas!

Also i am trying to crack on and do a few little bits around the house. OH finishes work at 3pm today and i want to have the place looking a little bit tidier, even if it's just superficial stuff like sweeping the floor rather than unpacking the mass of boxes in the corner!

Had a bit of a strange experience last night, woke up with horrid cramps all in my abdomen and back and my first thought (bearing in mind i was half asleep!) was "i'm in labour!" Yeah sure, at 16 weeks Went to the bathroom and spent the next half an hour on the loo with terrible diarrhea (sorry if that's a bit tmi!) I was gone for so long i felt sure OH was going to come looking for me, but when i got back he was still fast asleep. Don't know what that was about, as i've been pretty constipated lately, it's from one extreme to the other!

your very brave to attempt housework i hope that your stays at bay today

 

[claire99991]

oh mi god i feel like ive been ran over by a steam roller or sumthing, i had a bath and washed my hair after throwing up all morning and i honestly mean it took ALL of my energy to do this. Just made me and hollie a tuna sandwhich as my lunch time meal stays down but i feel like i carnt move out of this chair i can feel my eyes closing i need to sleep but i carnt i have no evergy my house seriously looks like a bomb went of and i have to go to work at 4.30 i actually feel really lightheaded as well.

 

[craftymum]

Oh Kat, my friend had pre eclampsia and she had to spend 3 weeks in hospital complete bed rest before they finally induced her so it would definitely be better if they went ahead with it for you and Ruby but I know it's hard as now you have all week to think about it and worry about it, like Claire says no matter when it happens none of us will ever be ready I remember going into labour with Jenna and refusing to go to hospital at first! It is scary but once you have her in your arms it will be wonderful and just think all the sickness will stop too!
Claire you'd be better calling in sick to work as there's no way you should be working when you're like this, we all feel guilty taking time off while pregnant but if we had a tummy bug we wouldn't think twice about phoning in sick. I've been off since the end of Feb and even the Doctor told me I wouldn't be going back as I'm too weak to cope with it. Do you have a physical job? I'm a dental nurse and not one of the lucky ones with a seat either so I'd be on my feet for 8 and a half hours a day and rushing around too, you need to put yourself first as it's hard enough being pregnant but having a 3 year old, a difficult partner and all this sickness to deal with too is too much for anyone to deal with, you need to take it easy and rest as much as you can.

 

[claire99991]

i carnt do this no more i carnt stand feeling so ill 24/7 yet another night starving but unable to eat, puking. I carnt stand being pregnant i know that sounds totally selfish and it is but i just carnt do this for another 7 months i no i have no choice this is just a rant im sorry if i offend.

 

[craftymum]

big Claire, It really is horrible and it's ok to rant, we all feel like that as it's so hard just coping with one day let alone the thought of months of this. I have also lots of times wished that this pregnancy would end too, it's natural to feel like that so don't feel bad for thinking that. Hopefully you will be one of the lucky ones and it will ease of when you reach 12-16 weeks, it really is the worst feeling in the world and not having your partners support really can't be helping you through this. I wish I could tell you it'll all get better soon, hopefully it helps knowing that we all know how you feel and you can come on here and let off steam as much as you need to (I do on a daily basis) as it's so hard trying to talk to people who just don't understand, try to keep your spirits up for your baby and your daughter but if you feel yourself getting really down you should call your midwife or see your GP. I really hope things get better for you soon

I've had a crap day too I've just finished throwing up again, hopefully we all come out of this much stronger than we were before and I think we all deserve easy labours after all this!

 

[Stilletto_Sam]

Claire, you're totally not being selfish. You are sick and depressed and you have every right to feel down aout the whole thing. We all will admit to hating being pregnant at some point, even to the point of not caring if the pregnancy ended, just to get relief. Now I know that's not rational thinking for a pregnant woman, but you have to remind yourself that you're really not well and not thinking straight. There's nothing I can say to you girls to make you feel any better, but just to hope that tomorrow will be different and to hang onto that.

Louise, I'm a bit annoyed that your GP is not prepared to try other medication for you. I have been through three different types on this pregnancy and two in my last (and Ben was born perfectly healthy) This time I was started off on Stemetil, then Cyclazine (which I absolutely hated) then Metoclopromide which seems to have been the best for me. I can't understand her reluctance at all and it's no comfort to tell you that it probably won't go away till you deliver either without offering you some relief. What are you supposed to do for the next 20 weeks? Lie on your settee with no life to speak of? I sincerely and truly do hope that's not the case,and like Claire, I ony pray that tomorrow will be better for you.

Kat. No woman is ever ready for her baby! I am so excited for you that maybe this time next week you could be holding your gorgeous daughter Ruby in your arms and we will all be so envious because you have the nightmare over with!

Rebaby. You take it easy with the settling in, chicka.

Welcome to Kathykins. Don't worry about being on the meds long term. I'm sure your doc wouldn't keep repeating the prescription if there were any doubt. In my last pregnancy I took Metoclopromide for 4 months and it looks like it will be similar this time too, so don't stress too much. What has worked for you BTW?


Love to all and chins up!


XXX

 

[NIfirsttimer]

big hugs claire.. you arent selfish and you wont offend any of us saying that.. we have all felt the same, i know for sure that i did...plenty of times! it really doesnt help that your OH isnt easing your workload.. do you think that there is anything that you can do or say that would help him see how much you need his support right now?
it probably doesnt help that your dr is dismissive too. your partner is prob feeding off of that too. do you have anyone else that could take your wee daughter for a while to let you literally just lie in bed for a day or so. same with work. id say you arent fit for work at all at the min, can you take some time off sick? all the not eating & being sick quickly leaves you totally exhausted, so running about trying to do your normal things will really take it out of you and make you feel even worse. its horrible to feel so helpless & desperate.. i just read your post and my heart sunk cos it reminded me of how bad it really is at the start. you havent reached the point of becomming 'used' to it, and you can still remember how you felt when you were well & energetic, and you have such a long stretch still ahead.. its truly miserable

dont worry about coming on here for a good moan, we all do it and we feel better for it too. it helps to let off some steam, somewhere where you wont offend family / mates etc too....

claire.. i know we chatted about it earlier, but im the same as sam... i tried 3 different drugs too.. in the end i settled on cyclizine but to be honest none of them really worked for me.. at most the cyclizine kept the sickness at bay for an hour or so, but i was always sick in the end. ur dr is obviously being super super cautious.. but it doesnt really help you right now does it. do you still see the community midwife?

kathykins.. dont worry about the medication. ive been on cyclizine for almost my entire pregnancy, and roo is big & healthy & seems happy in there, and its better to be on the meds than dehydrated and horribly sick the whole time. x

 

[claire99991]

thank you all for your kind words its really made me feel better, just been sick again cos i foolishly had A PIECE of chocolate like 1 square. Oh well im just really missing sitting round the table with my family and eating my meal like a normal person instead i have to leave the room cos of the smell and sit on my owne. Im deffo gonna talk to my midwife when i eventually get a appt they havent even sent me my booking appt yet, i think when i see her i will just brake down and cry and probs not stop haha this is what i can imagine in my head as im so desperate. My sister is coming over thursday afternoon to look after hollie for me for a few hours and then coming over at the weekend to clean my car and my house for me as im just doing basics, i have also cut my days at work from 5 to 3 and they will still pay me for 5 at the min. I think my OH just thinks i have morning sickness he knows im suffering though and he bathed and sorted hollie out for bed tonight as i just couldnt get of the couch to do it.

I have a tummy ache its weird and im a bit worried about it, its central at the bottom of my rib cage feels like constant aching/bruised feeling. Im scared i have a stomach ulcer i havent noticed any more blood though, do you think the constant aching is just pulled muscles from being sick so much? I also have horrible heartburn.

 

[NIfirsttimer]

yep.. its all to do with the throwing up and retching.. we have all had it at one time or another too...
my dr explained to me that it actually takes ur body a big force to make you vomit.. it uses loads of energy, muscles and adrenaline each time, so its only to be expected that when you are doing that several times a day, you will begin to feel it.
my tummy muscles were so sore for ages, and my throat too, not just burnt from being sick but all the muscles around ur throat and neck too. the same with the heartburn, its normal in pregnancy, but 10 times more for us because of the vomitting. your throat and osoephagus are getting burnt by the acid in your tummy each time you have to be sick.
i tried a few antacids, gaviscon is horrendous to throw up so i stay well clear of it, finally found one called altacite that i get on prescription, and its much better. its thinner so goes down easier, and its not half as bad if it comes back up again. might be worth a try, i know sometimes my heartburn gets so bad it makes me sick too, so at least the altacite stops that a bit.

its really good that your OH sorted hollie out tonight.. any help is good, same with your sis. i quickly learnt to accept all the help that was offered. i hated it at first, other people cleaning my house etc, but it beat living in the mess that i couldnt deal with myself!

u know.. going into the dr's or midwife and crying isnt a bad idea. sometimes it takes that for them to see how truly desperate you feel... i know i did it, i begged my dr to do SOMETHING, and he did.. and it took that for him to see how bad i was. if thats what you feel like doing then dont hold it in hun.. u dont get any points for bravery. hope tonight is better for you xxx

 

[kathykins]

Oh Claire, poor you. That just sounds so awful The only thing I could manage when i was so bad was rich tea biscuits, and those were only an occasional thing. I agree with NIfirsttimer though, sometimes going to the docs and crying at them does convince them to get off their backsides. I had this one horrible consultant at the hospital who couldn't wait to get rid of me, kept telling me to "be a bit stronger" and it wasn't until the nurses dragged him down to see me throw up that he agreed to prescribe anything.

Louise, that sounds really unfair that your doc is willing to try any other meds for you. I had four or five before I found metacloprimide that seem to work. Stematil and cyclizine made it worse if anything. Can you ask for a second opnion? They can't just leave you like that surely?

Hope everyone's having a better day today - huge

 

[craftymum]

all the docs in my practice are a older, they've all been there since I was wee, there is a couple of new ones but one of them is so nasty and the other doesn't really do the antenatal thing, the one I'm seeing is just safe guarding as she doesn't like to take any risks where there's a baby concerned, I think when you're this sick anyway there's not really anything that will help. I know when I was in hospital and they gave me zofran it was great but they wont give it out at all over here even in the hospital they only give it you in what they call an emergency setting. Apart from that though my doc was really nice about it when she told me to give up hope she wasn't being nasty about it just trying to tell me not to get my hopes up now. I was really sick again last night, I just can't seem to keep anything down at all I just wish I could go to sleep and wake up after the baby is born and not be sick anymore 5 months of this has really took it's toll on me, it really does leave you feeling so depressed and lonely and miserable.
Claire I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time, I remember trying chocolate too and it was so nice going down but OMG it came up with a vengeance! It splashed up the walls and everywhere - though this is quite a common occurance anyway I'm sure all you ladies know all about this too. It's great that your OH is starting to realise that you are sick and you do need help, and like Kat says take all the help you can get, as you are not able to do it yourself. Sometimes you may feel like you can do something but believe me you're better not too cos I found I really suffer worse afterwards for even trying.
Like you I can't wait to be able to enjoy a meal again, I can't even go downstairs while Stephen is cooking as the smell makes my stomach heave even if I'm just sitting in the living room with the door closed. I'm also vegetarian so strong meat smells always turned my stomach but he bought this garlic chicken from Tesco last week and I swear I couldn't even look at him for 2 days the smell was so strong it really seemed to linger.
The tummy pains worry me too, I actually thought I was going into prem labour one night as they were so sore but as long as there's no bleeding and they do ease off a bit eventually it's ok, tummy pains are normal during pregnancy but we all get them much worse than most due to all the retching and straining, my back is killing me too from leaning over to be sick so much, Kat recommended seeing a chiropracter she said it helped her so I think if mine gets much worse I might also do that cos I can't cope with stomach and back pains for another 4 months and the thought of it getting worse as baby gets bigger stresses me out. It's so unfair that we can't enjoy our pregnancies like most women can, I would give anything to have a normal pregnancy with a bit of mild MS and a few niggles and aches but they do say we have the healthiest babies which is ironic really when you think of the emphasis they put on eating healthily etc during pregnancy, I've had nothing but fruit, toast and cheese sandwiches for meals since I was 6 weeks and yet my baby is doing great in there and growing well. Unfortunately it's us that suffer and I have been told it can take a year or 2 for us to get back to normal health again as we are so depleted of all our nutrients.
Like the other girls say if you need to cry just let it all out, I did on my first trip to the Docs and I think I have cried every day since I've been sick, it is hard and most people can't cope with a few days of food poisoning so we're bound to get down when we are suffering every day. I've gotten so used to it now that I really can't remember what it felt like to be healthy and have energy, I used to come in from work after 6 having been out since 8am and clean my house and make dinner, now I can hardly walk up and down the stairs without needing to sit or lie down. I've been of work completely since the end of Feb and I doubt I'll be back now, only thing is I only get half pay which is crap. If you find it getting too much Claire just get your Doctor to sign you off sick, my GP just asks me now if I need a new sick line when I go in and she told me to forget about work and concentrate on myself and the baby. Is your job physical or can you sit down?
I hope you're having a better day today take care

 

[claire99991]

thanks for the kind words girls

the stomach ache has eased of a little, thru the night the tummy ache turned into nasty cramps followed by diahera (carnt spell that and sorry tmi there) im feeling a little better today mood wise although ive been again this morning, there was nothing in it as i havent had anything to eat or drink today yet i carnt bear to set my stomach ache of again, i have now lost 6lb it seems to be coming of quite quick now and its worrying me a little. I wish i had my midwife appt thru i feel like ive been forgot about. Last week they said i would here over the next couple of weeks so i will start chasing things on tuesday next week i think. I have to drag my bum to town soon as i need to get sumthing in for hollie and OH tea tonight and get her a sandwhich for her dinner.

Oh and tomorow morning my daughter has a induction at her nursery where she starts in september, im worried im gonna be sick in the nursery i have to stay with her tomorow as its just a chance for her to meet teachers and have a look around the nursery. I carnt even face the 20 min walk there so im booking a taxi as OH is working out of town. So tomorow should be a intresting morning. Im also thinking about cancelling my gym membership i carnt see me having the energy to go in this pregnancy and its costing me £50 a month i havent even been since i was 5 weeks pregnant so its just a waste of money.

craftymum i can see why your doctor doesnt want to take any risks and its good she was sympatheic and understanding. Im so sorry your still feeling so ill though and being so sick.

 

[craftymum]

I'm sorry but this is a rant! I am officially fed up with this, after throwing up everything I ate yet again, I feel like I just can't take this any longer. I am now really thirsty but afraid to drink as it'll only make me sick again. I feel so tired - not in a sleepy way just my body is just drained and exhausted and I really just want this to end, it's so unfair, I just hate being pregnant so much