i am actully dreading planning my wedding again

[halas]

well if you dont know i was suposed to get married jan 8th but we postphoned it fiancial reason ect well oh keeps bringing up the fact that we should set the date again and he wants it to be in november but i actully dread going through the whole guest dramas again and everything else

firstly i will have to deal with the fact my dad refuses to go to my wedding if his ex wife or her daughter are there i want them there but i have to choose beetween them bc my dad wont co operate i just wish my wedding day could be about me and my oh not him.

then theres the fact that me and oh want a small wedding we cant afford a big guest list and only want close friends and close family there but he keeps getting messages from cousins he dosnt know asking when the wedding is so they can book a flight, i dont know if we are being unreasonable but why an earth are these people inviting themselves to our wedding they might be his relatives but he never met them why should we have to pay a few extra thousand to have people we dont know come to our wedding.

and his mum is difficult to she keeps saying he has to invite all these people he dosnt know they are people she knows i dont think its fair either also she keeps bugging him about the best man she wants his little brothers to be his best man he was planning on having a goood friend of ours be best man but she never shuts up about thinking his little brothers should be best man.

plus sounds horrible but i am actully petrified of marrying into his famiy right now and its actully a scarey thhought for both of us to have his family all fly up for our wedding and be stuck at the reception with then and stuff im sorry i sould horrible its just a dreadful thought lol my engagment party was ovverbearing enough

 

[pinkmummy]

It sounds to me as though your not ready yet hun

Maybe tell OH you want to wait a while longer and speak about it once LO is here as your hormones probably aren't helping

ETA: A wedding is supposed to be something you remember for the rest of your life (for good reasons not bad!) xx

 

[babytots]

Hi hun can understand why you are dreading it when your mother in law to be is being so overbearing. At the end of the day this is your wedding you do it how you and your partner want it not how other people want it. If they don't like it then tell them their presence is not welcome. Well thats what I would do if anyone dared tried to run my big day for me.

I hope you manage to work through it all so you can have the wedding you want. x

 

[lynne192]

if your not ready hun then talk to your OH about it, and if you worried about wedding then elope we were gonna do that lol.