I can't take it anymore!

[SilasLove]

I have started to dread feeding my daughter as I know after that feed that she (and I) will be miserable. First off, she spits-up constantly. She is spitting probably 90% of the day. Every time I turn around I am cleaning up spit-up, changing clothes, etc. I have gotten to where I just let her sit around in just her diaper as the second I put any clothes on her its not very long before they are soaking wet in spit-up. Its not little amounts, or ever moderate amounts. Its like a dang waterfall, puddles of spit-up at a time.

Secondly, she is miserable. She cries when she needs to burp, when she needs to spit-up. She makes these horrible noises at times - as if she is struggling with getting the spit-up, up. I just want a solution to this but no one is willing to accept there might be an actual problem causing her to spit-up like this. Their reasoning is that "some babies just spit-up". Annoys me! When my baby is screaming an hour after she ate there is something that just isn't right. I have tried gas drops, they are really just hit and miss sometimes I think they help and others I am not so sure.

We go through 4+ burp clothes a day, as well as if we dress her its 4-6 outfits a day. I just can't do it anymore. I needed some solutions to this. She is on soy formula, but it makes no difference. I am SICK of it and I feel overwhelmed with it all. I just want feeding time to be pleasant, I really don't want to dread feeding my child.

Also, she had only put on 5oz in 2 weeks when we took her to doctors last and since it was an "ok weight gain" doctor was happy with it. My daughter is over a month old and has not even gained a whole pound from her birth weight. I DO NOT see that as "ok".

I am just to my breaking point I guess. I feel horrible and when I can't do anything for her it makes it worse. I just need something that works, or someone who understands.

 

[Bernie]

Oh hun how horriable for you both i dont know what to say it doesnt sound normal for her to keep being sick that much Could be reflux or the milk shes onHopefully someone will come along soon who can give you advise

 

[OmarsMum]

Hi hun, sounds like reflux & LF formula doesnt really help if she's not intolerent to lactose. LF is runnier than normal formula & if your LO is suffering from reflux she needs thickener in addition to her formula. Take her to the Dr. & insist on some medication for reflux. Mine was suffering from reflux, I didnt mind the spits & throwing up but I was bothered about the pain, once we switched to Anti reflux formula & Dr. browns bottles he wasnt in pain anymore. But there is no magical cure for reflux, DS reflux was under some control at 7 months & he started to eat solids without gagging & throwing up at 9 months. He still have bad days but it's much much better than the early days.

 

[SilasLove]

Hi hun, sounds like reflux & LF formula doesnt really help if she's not intolerent to lactose. LF is runnier than normal formula & if your LO is suffering from reflux she needs thickener in addition to her formula. Take her to the Dr. & insist on some medication for reflux. Mine was suffering from reflux, I didnt mind the spits & throwing up but I was bothered about the pain, once we switched to Anti reflux formula & Dr. browns bottles he wasnt in pain anymore. But there is no magical cure for reflux, DS reflux was under some control at 7 months & he started to eat solids without gagging & throwing up at 9 months. He still have bad days but it's much much better than the early days.

I have talked to her doctor about medicine for reflux but she quickly shot me down as she said she wants to try every other thing possible before putting her on medication. I understand this, but then the only advice she can give me is to move her around to try and get the gas out and other measly little things that I pretty much already do.

 

[OmarsMum]

Hold her upright after every feed for 30 mins, elevate her cot, massage he tummy with warm olive oil before her night feed, & switch to Dr. Browns bottles. Dont lay her down flat while feeding her, try to feed her on a pillow to elevate her upper body while feeding. xx

 

[sparkle05]

Hello

This sound just like my DD who is now 5. I had awful trouble, she never slept was sick all the time and was always in pain. The doctor refused to help me deciding that i should go down the natural route. E.g prop her up when feeding and keep her up right for 30 minutes after, prop up the top of her cot. After a few weeks of this i broke down in front of my health visitor she quickly got me the help that i needed. I saw a different doctor who prescribed gaviscon. I also bought her Dr browns bottles. Things improved slightly but she never really got over it. Things settled around 8 months but she had been so disturbed by the whole thing and her sleeping patterns were so bad by this point that she never slept through the night until she was 3 and continued to be a very fussy feeder.

Do not give up keep going to the doctor see a different one if necessary.Keep a diary of feeding and sickness. I kept a diary for 3 weeks and showed it to my HV. It showed that i was up 12 to 20 times a night with her never sleeping for more than 40 minutes at a time and feeding an ounce an hour then spitting up. Do not take no for an answer make them help you. Me and my DH were delirious with the lack of sleep.

If there is anything that i can help you with then please let me know. I can truly understand what you are going through.

 

[SRTBaby]

I would change your doctor if i were you. We had it really bad with my LO from when he was 2 weeks old, it started very early, here is what we did.

- Bought Dr Brown bottles
- Put Enfacol and Gripe water in his formula
- Never give him a bath after feed, we wait at least for an hour
- We prop his bed so his head is slightly elevated at all times
- and we often hold him with his head elevated, he loves sitting so we hold him in a sitting position all the time.

So far it worked great and he is doing really well now.

 

[peanut56]

I'm having a very similar experience with my baby. I spoke to my doctor about it, and said unless it's "severe" they don't like to treat it. He doesn't consider her case to be severe. I am terrified to feed her in public because she spits up so much (some days a lot worse than others). I'm afraid when other people hold her, I always warn them "she spits up a lot!" and then the whole time they're holding her, I'm so worried she's going to spit up all over them. The other day I was at my new Mom's group, and she was sitting on my knee, facing out, seemingly happy. She then spit up all over herself, me, and the floor. I was so embarrassed. Thankfully it was at my Mom's group, so they were obviously very understanding, but I was still embarrassed.
We use the Dr. Brown's bottles, they have helped a bit. I try to keep her upright, all that stuff, but it doesn't do much. I just recently changed her formula from Nestle Good Start to Enfamil Gentlease (which is supposed to be for fussy and gassy babies)...so far it seems to be helping, but she still spits up (though seems to be not as much, but it's only been 3 days). We give her gripe water and Ovol (though I think the Ovol doesn't seem to be making any difference, so I might try infacol).
My doctor said that she'll just have to grow out of it. They will treat it if it gets a lot worse, but as it stands now, we're on our own.
So I know what you're going through. Hopefully you can find a doctor who will give your baby something for it (if that is what you want). If not, feel free to PM to talk if you want. People are always very sympathetic, but unless you've had a baby who's gone through it, you really don't know how stressful and upsetting it can be.