RainbowGift
mother of infant twins
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I have a great play yard downstairs and the babies got LOTS of great toys for Christmas. My girl still is not very interested in crawling and my boy can't be contained. Pretty much any time she starts to play with anything he looks up to check it out and then starts excitedly making his way to where she is so that he can snatch it from her. She holds on tight and the back and forth begins.
Up 'til now, I have been singing a little sharing song and it distracts them and one or the other happily ends up with it naturally and they have sort of "decided" to "share". (Yeah, right!) I'm starting to realize this is going to be a HUGE issue with twins and that I need to have the constant and consistent plan/words/family-law in place for every time it occurs.
If I think of them as older, the fair thing would be to say that "your brother wants you to share that toy with him, so you play with it for another minute then you can share it... or you can share it right now" I want to stress being kind and generous with each other. Obviously, right now they are young babies and I need a simple plan that lays a good foundation for the more complex plan of the future..... Should I just distract for now and wait 'til they are able to understand.... I don't really want to just let them work it out themselves and have tugging fights 'til someone wins, but I suspect that is what a lot of people would suggest. I keep thinking there would be a good and simple little action and statement I could make that would set good ground work for future sharing........
Up 'til now, I have been singing a little sharing song and it distracts them and one or the other happily ends up with it naturally and they have sort of "decided" to "share". (Yeah, right!) I'm starting to realize this is going to be a HUGE issue with twins and that I need to have the constant and consistent plan/words/family-law in place for every time it occurs.
If I think of them as older, the fair thing would be to say that "your brother wants you to share that toy with him, so you play with it for another minute then you can share it... or you can share it right now" I want to stress being kind and generous with each other. Obviously, right now they are young babies and I need a simple plan that lays a good foundation for the more complex plan of the future..... Should I just distract for now and wait 'til they are able to understand.... I don't really want to just let them work it out themselves and have tugging fights 'til someone wins, but I suspect that is what a lot of people would suggest. I keep thinking there would be a good and simple little action and statement I could make that would set good ground work for future sharing........