I don't want to be a single parent :(

[Cazza7]

I have 2 children, they both have different dads, with my daughter I was 18, it was never going to last, I was extremely naive. but with my son, I thought we was going to be forever, untill he left me for someone else.

I am 26 this year, I have dated on and off, but nothing is ever what I want.

my kids see their dads, every week, I work full time.

I am so sick of being so lonely, I am fed up of doing it all alone, I dont want to go to parents evenings alone anymore, I dont want to sit at home each night lonely.

I dont see many friends, I work full time so its having time. I just feel lost at the moment.

Don't get me wrong, me and the kids are so so close, we are like a team, but I am getting to the point now where I feel like I want to settle down properly, find someone to share our lives with properly, I know everyone says my kids see their dads they have them around, but surely you guys understand what I mean, I want someone to share happiness with, things they do.

I just dont feel like i am ever going to find the one lol! x

 

[Proserpina]

I have 2 children, they both have different dads, with my daughter I was 18, it was never going to last, I was extremely naive. but with my son, I thought we was going to be forever, untill he left me for someone else.

I am 26 this year, I have dated on and off, but nothing is ever what I want.

my kids see their dads, every week, I work full time.

I am so sick of being so lonely, I am fed up of doing it all alone, I dont want to go to parents evenings alone anymore, I dont want to sit at home each night lonely.

I dont see many friends, I work full time so its having time. I just feel lost at the moment.

Don't get me wrong, me and the kids are so so close, we are like a team, but I am getting to the point now where I feel like I want to settle down properly, find someone to share our lives with properly, I know everyone says my kids see their dads they have them around, but surely you guys understand what I mean, I want someone to share happiness with, things they do.

I just dont feel like i am ever going to find the one lol! x

Right there with you, hon. It's lonely and it's hard. I don't have anything to say but .

 

[Dezireey]

Sweetie, I was single all through my 30's, okay I didnt have my LO then but I dated and now I am 40, I still have hope. You are so young and have plenty of time to find the right guy ( and you will). Try to focus more on finding new friends rather than a guy friend, things happen that way e.g a new female friend might invite you to a house party and there are men there that will talk to you etc etc. You wont be lonely forever, its all a state of mind, be happy and not care that you are lonely and men will pick up on that positivity and chat you up. People can pick up vibes when you are feeling low or lonely.

A man is meant to just enhance your life not fix it. You sound like an awesome mummy so any guy would be lucky to have you. Just make sure you are happy so that you end up picking the right one, dont go for anyone just because you are lonely.

Hugs xx

 

[Cazza7]

I know you are right, thats what i seem to do, go for people because I am lonely, then they turn out to be bad for me. I just feel like I am getting on a bit, all the friends I do have are getting married, getting mortgages etc, having more babies. I want all that... will give it time, and try enjoy myself why I can xxx

Thank you xx

 

[moomin_troll]

Nothing worse than looking and going on dates because you are lonely...I've been there.
It's difficult doing it alone, but I believe until you are comfortable in raising your babies alone and like your own company, you won't be in the right frame of mind to find someone worth your time.
How long have you been single with your two children?

 

[Quackquack99]

Nothing worse than looking and going on dates because you are lonely...I've been there.
It's difficult doing it alone, but I believe until you are comfortable in raising your babies alone and like your own company, you won't be in the right frame of mind to find someone worth your time.
How long have you been single with your two children?

This i completely agree with. When me and fob split up, i hated the first few weeks not because i missed him but I was lonely and had no company but then i began to enjoy my freedom and then met someone else without even trying or actually wanting it.