I feel absolutely alone

[baby.girl]

OH upset me a little, which blew out of proportion because he didn't understand, which in return upset me completely, now i'm sitting here balling my eyes out because i have come to realize that maybe he isn't here for me as much as i hoped...

It seems as tho everytime i'm crying i find myself wishing that he would comfort be and tell me everything is going to be ok, when really he lays there...turns over and makes it seem like "oh god, not this again...damn hormones" When no matter if they are hormones or not, i'm still feeling them at the moment.

I have had anyone my whole life hardly be there for me emotionally...And this is the most crucial point of needing someone...and it should be him. But i feel like hes not even there for me like i had thought he would be...

And because i am so upset, I feel like i have no where to go...i don't want to be here (his house...living here at the moment because my mom kicked me out, she thinks it would be best that him and i are with eachother in this important time of our life). I'm tempted to go sleep in his car even ...

I feel so alone

I'm absolutely terrified that this is how it will be for the next 7 months...and on top of it, i have really bad anxiety problems, and and in times like this, i feel as if i'll have an anxiety attack. The worst part is...I feel like he doesn't even care.

I'm a mess.

 

[Rumpskin]

Hello lovely

Thought I would pop in and say how sorry I am that you are feeling so low. Is your OH pleased that you are pregnant? Maybe he just needs some time to adjust?

Perhaps if he is not listening, you could write him a letter - it also gets any thoughts and emotions off your chest.

I do hope that you both can sort out this situation very soon.

Look after yourself xxx

 

[baby.girl]

Hello lovely

Thought I would pop in and say how sorry I am that you are feeling so low. Is your OH pleased that you are pregnant? Maybe he just needs some time to adjust?

Perhaps if he is not listening, you could write him a letter - it also gets any thoughts and emotions off your chest.

I do hope that you both can sort out this situation very soon.

Look after yourself xxx

Thank you. Yes he is very pleased that we are expecting...that's why i'm so confused. I don't know how to handle it. I never thought that he would be unsupportive. .

 

[anita665]

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. My OH blames hormones every time I cry too (which isn't very often) & he even gets angry at me for it sometimes. I know how you feel. Guys just never seem to know what to do if a woman cries.

 

[Ann-Marie]

Funny things, men !!! It does take them a while to realise fully that they are going to have a baby... After all, you're the one carrying bubs, and feeling sick, and hormonal... Give him time, he'll get there. Try talking to each other about the baby, and maybe he will start to feel it more. Hang in there, the hormonal thing does get better, I promise. Meanwhile, we are all here for you to rant/laugh/cry with

 

[baby.girl]

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. My OH blames hormones every time I cry too (which isn't very often) & he even gets angry at me for it sometimes. I know how you feel. Guys just never seem to know what to do if a woman cries.

Thank you, sorry you have to go through it too. Guys just suck sometimes. They need to be a little more sensitive. . EVEN if we are pregnant. I would do it for him....haha sounds funny, but its true. If the tables were turned or he was down about something outrageous i would still comfort him and be there for him. I just wish he could look into my mind for a day and understand.

 

[baby.girl]

Funny things, men !!! It does take them a while to realise fully that they are going to have a baby... After all, you're the one carrying bubs, and feeling sick, and hormonal... Give him time, he'll get there. Try talking to each other about the baby, and maybe he will start to feel it more. Hang in there, the hormonal thing does get better, I promise. Meanwhile, we are all here for you to rant/laugh/cry with

Thanks. He is really supportive when it comes to the baby and what not. He's super excited and everything, just when i'm upset it seems that he wants to run the other way .

 

[Ann-Marie]

I think womens hormones just scare men... they don't know quite what to do... after all, more often than not we tell them it was the wrong thing to do... I think they just give up

 

[anita665]

They just really don't understand because they deal with their emotions completely differently.... normally by getting angry at someone or something completely unrelated and taking it out on everyone else.

 

[baby.girl]

I think womens hormones just scare men... they don't know quite what to do... after all, more often than not we tell them it was the wrong thing to do... I think they just give up

haha true. He does seem to get very defensive when i cry...kinda strange.

 

[Ann-Marie]

Maybe he feels a bit responsible... after all, he is 50% the reason why you're feeling this way

 

[xXhayleyXx]

Just want to give u a big and say that things will get better just hang in there xx

 

[elles28]

Just sending you some hope things are better for you soon xx

 

[baby.girl]

Maybe he feels a bit responsible... after all, he is 50% the reason why you're feeling this way

Hmm, i guess you're right. I'm not sure tho...this is the most serious thing he's ever had to deal with and he has a bit of a problem being serious in the time of need as it is. So frustrating sometimes grr.

 

[gde78]

Men are rubbish with emotion! They don't know what to do so they get all grumpy and that makes us worse. A viscious circle! We're all here for you honey. Sending you lots of I hope it works itself out x x x

 

[nikky0907]

Maybe he's just not used to you feeling sad...it confuses him.They don't understand how this works...Pregnancy is not just happily having a baby in your body and then pushim him out without breaking a sweat,it's not just happy moments,try telling him that....

 

[leeanne]

Ah, yes, men! Generally men are fix it people too. When they see a woman cry it scares them and they don't know how to fix it. So they get defensive about it.

I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I went in to our bedroom to tell hubby that morning and one of the first things he asks if we can have sex. HUH!? A few hours later, he's on my case about a worker and I started to cry. He got defensive and went and talked to his mom as we lived in the same house as her. I guess he thought he could escape me and get sympathy from his mom. Thank God for her as she came down, hugged me so hard and helped me out. And because of her he realized how much pain I was in physically, etc.

Please do sit down with your OH. You can't keep these feelings in.

 

[Vickie]

I agree with the others, especially leeanne. You need to sit down and have a good talk with your OH, he may not even realize that he's making you feel this way. He's using the hormones as an excuse and thinks it will get better over time--you need to explain to him how you feel and how his treatment of you is making you feel. It does take men much longer to deal with pregnancy than women. I don't think my DH really got that I'm pregnant until he saw the ultrasound at 13 weeks, that's when he finally started getting into my pregnancy and asked me how I felt, and touched my belly etc. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Snowball]

My husband is the same. The other night we had a row and then when we made up I couldn't stop crying because he said some nasty things that upset me. He couldn't have cared less he was just after make up sex Honestly they think that's the best way to solve an argument always dont they?

I just think they struggle to understand how our hormones work and tbh, I think whatever they say or do sometimes we put them immediatey in the wrong anyway (where they should be of course )

I hope you're feeling better soon hun

 

[charlie07]

Hey sweety

You're not alone in feeling like this. I truly don't think that men understand. You have jiggy jiggy and after a while you have a baby, don't think they think about the bit that us women have to go through. Do you have any girl friends you can talk to? I'm mean other than us, girl friends that will give you a hug, a make you giggle and make you feel better? Mine are all in the UK and I miss them terrible.

You're not on your own - for the last few days I have been waking at 4 and 5 in the morning. Not by choice, it just happens. This morning it was 4.30am, I got up, put on a DVD and snozzed. OH woke me up, it was 9.20am, he was annoyed at me, why do I sleep when we get home and wake at 4 in the morning, sort it out!!! Oh yeah, great advice! No understanding at all. See, you're not on your own when it comes to men not understanding. Hopefully, as I am hoping, he will come round and be a little more supporting. I am waiting for the day that my OH comes over, gives me a hug and says, so ..... how you feeling this morning? Simple, I don't ask for much.

Keep your chin up, you will be fine, look after yourself and bump, you are both No. 1 now, everything else comes after you.