I feel absolutely alone

[x-amy-x]

sending you my love hunny, my partner was the same with me when i was in early pregnancy. I think he was kind of in denial. He also didn't realise i actually felt like i needed him more. He didn't want to feel like he was patronising me.

We had a good talk and he started to treat me better.

Talk to your OH and explain to him how your feeling, he may be feeling a little confused himself.
Hope things get better

 

[Dona]

Its hard understanding men sometimes....chin up. Wait until you both have your little home, he will soon change...

 

[baby.girl]

Ah, yes, men! Generally men are fix it people too. When they see a woman cry it scares them and they don't know how to fix it. So they get defensive about it.

I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. I went in to our bedroom to tell hubby that morning and one of the first things he asks if we can have sex. HUH!? A few hours later, he's on my case about a worker and I started to cry. He got defensive and went and talked to his mom as we lived in the same house as her. I guess he thought he could escape me and get sympathy from his mom. Thank God for her as she came down, hugged me so hard and helped me out. And because of her he realized how much pain I was in physically, etc.

Please do sit down with your OH. You can't keep these feelings in.

that's horrible! . Thanks, yeah i really think that we need to just sit down and talk about it, but lately it seems that he doesn't want to talk about "serious" stuff, because i'm being "hormonal" it seems as if he doesn't think it's serious just because i'm emotional

 

[baby.girl]

I agree with the others, especially leeanne. You need to sit down and have a good talk with your OH, he may not even realize that he's making you feel this way. He's using the hormones as an excuse and thinks it will get better over time--you need to explain to him how you feel and how his treatment of you is making you feel. It does take men much longer to deal with pregnancy than women. I don't think my DH really got that I'm pregnant until he saw the ultrasound at 13 weeks, that's when he finally started getting into my pregnancy and asked me how I felt, and touched my belly etc. I hope you feel better soon.

He's really into the pregnancy and he couldn't be happier. BUT he's not here in the pregnancy when i start feeling emotional.... I mean, he couldn't be more supportive about the actual baby and what not. He usually falls asleep with his hand on my belly, i think it comforts him . I just wish he was here for the whole 9 yards and wouldn't leave me to deal with the crappy stuff on my own

 

[baby.girl]

Hey sweety

You're not alone in feeling like this. I truly don't think that men understand. You have jiggy jiggy and after a while you have a baby, don't think they think about the bit that us women have to go through. Do you have any girl friends you can talk to? I'm mean other than us, girl friends that will give you a hug, a make you giggle and make you feel better? Mine are all in the UK and I miss them terrible.

You're not on your own - for the last few days I have been waking at 4 and 5 in the morning. Not by choice, it just happens. This morning it was 4.30am, I got up, put on a DVD and snozzed. OH woke me up, it was 9.20am, he was annoyed at me, why do I sleep when we get home and wake at 4 in the morning, sort it out!!! Oh yeah, great advice! No understanding at all. See, you're not on your own when it comes to men not understanding. Hopefully, as I am hoping, he will come round and be a little more supporting. I am waiting for the day that my OH comes over, gives me a hug and says, so ..... how you feeling this morning? Simple, I don't ask for much.

Keep your chin up, you will be fine, look after yourself and bump, you are both No. 1 now, everything else comes after you.

Well, my mom thought it would be best if i was with my OH so she kicked me out, and everyone that i really found comfort in (my mom, and sisters) live at that house and i know i'm still welcome over there (of course) and what not but i guess i just feel a little abandoned by the situation...so the only other person really i'm super close with is OH...If i can't talk to him, who am i sapposed to talk with? That's why i came on here, because you all are so great.

That plus you all really get it. I love that. If some of you haven't been in a situation like mine, you really understand or try to at least...and if you don't, you all are great at comforting. Sorry to go off topic.

I have been waking up in the middle of the night several times a night, so i can definately relate to that. Fortunately OH is understanding about that. I hope you are able to get better rest tonight

 

[faith_may]

I'm so sorry you feel bad. Let me know if you need to talk

 

[leeanne]

We are all here for you if you need to chat!

Hey, my mom doesn't live here and the rest of my family are even farther away than my mom. I have one good friend here but, other than that, if I can't talk to my hubby, I really don't have too many people around. I know what it's like to feel alone at times

 

[horrorheart13]

I know exactly how you feel. My OH was like that from the minute I found out. It's just so easy for guys to blame it on the hormones and blow it off rather than just sucking it up and telling us it'll all be fine and giving us a hug. Not all guys are like that, but ALOT are. Don't worry though. I have an anxiety disorder and I felt just like that in the beginning but once I was further along and reality sunk in alittle more for OH, everthing got better. Just give it time

 

[horrorheart13]

Well, my mom thought it would be best if i was with my OH so she kicked me out, and everyone that i really found comfort in (my mom, and sisters) live at that house and i know i'm still welcome over there (of course) and what not but i guess i just feel a little abandoned by the situation...so the only other person really i'm super close with is OH...If i can't talk to him, who am i sapposed to talk with? That's why i came on here, because you all are so great.
That plus you all really get it. I love that. If some of you haven't been in a situation like mine, you really understand or try to at least...and if you don't, you all are great at comforting. Sorry to go off topic.

I have been waking up in the middle of the night several times a night, so i can definately relate to that. Fortunately OH is understanding about that. I hope you are able to get better rest tonight

That's why I'm so glad I found this place! When our OH's are being assholes or when we feel like we have no one else who will understand us we can always depend on eachother here That's what this place was made for!

 

[baby.girl]

That's why I'm so glad I found this place! When our OH's are being assholes or when we feel like we have no one else who will understand us we can always depend on eachother here That's what this place was made for!

exactly . You guys are so great/awesomely wonderful lol