I feel OLD!! - TTC RANT!!

[suzan]

And I am only 25!!!

First of, my little baby cousin is pregnant. When I knew she was preggo I cried like hell. She was only 16 and a month later turned 17 (Yep, a Jamie Spears here only a married one!). Yep, she is very very very young and married. In our culture it is ok to marry that young. She is now 4 months pregnant with a girl.

And now, what mostly drove me crazy is my other cousin. She is 19 and wants to get pregnant. She has been married for 6 months and now they wana TTC while going to a second honeymoon.

AAAAAAAAAAA I will die if she gets pregnant before me. I will be the old leftover with no bump, no BFP, NADA https://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gif!!!! in the family

Why me.!!!!!!!!! Ok, I am happy for them, but not happy for me

Shouldn't they wait until the old one gets pregnant first?? Like a friend of mine said before, They should follow the rules https://img340.imageshack.us/img340/1934/rulesjs4.gif!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! https://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gifhttps://img167.imageshack.us/img167/704/rantingyx0.gif

For those who dont know what are the rules like a friend of mine said:

1- Date
2- Marry
3- Enjoy your married life
4- When u r ready have babies

They jumped some rules!! they shouldn't have to!!

PS: For those young moms, dont take it personal. This is about my personal life, I am Venting so please let me do that!!!!!!

 

[avistar]

I so know how you feel! My BIL had a baby right away, the first month they tried, and they aren't married...and doubt they ever will be. 25 is still young! Enjoy being with you DH and being able to do things you can't without children. Because once you have them, your life is all about them, and you can't really do all the things you used to when their was just the two of you. I don't regret not having children young! MAN! We have our own cars, house, go on trips when we want...are able to save up money...it is really hard to do that when your 17 with babies. Well, I guess unless you have a trust fund or something....Anyway I am only 24 and ttc but have greatly enjoyed my time with my DH alone and all the hard things we have been able to accomplish together. I agree with your friend. It is nice to be prepared to have children and know that you can support them the way you would like. I know it is hard when everyone in the family is preg and having babies!! I know the feeling too well! I just found out TODAY that my DH cousin is preg...when will the list stop??

 

[suzan]

The list will stop when we find ourselves pregnant. We will stop caring about who is preg and who is not!

Well.. until then, take a deep breath!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Mynxie]

life was never meant to be fair I guess....

 

[suzan]

Yes true!! but is it meant to be miserable for some? I feel that way

 

[Mynxie]

oh i certainly think it's supposed to try us sweetheart xxxxxxx

 

[avistar]

just think suzan when you get that long awaited BFP!!! How more special it will be for you!! Life is full of lessons and tests....You'll make the list!!! Don't lose hope!

 

[justme00]

You guys both just made me feel old. I'm almost 28!

 

[poppy]

28 is positively sprightly - I am the big 3-0!

 

[suzan]

You guys both just made me feel old. I'm almost 28!

Am sorry Please dont feel old. They are the young ones!
But I still feel old!
Sorry again, can't control thinking that way
I just dont know what I am talking about

 

[suzan]

28 is positively sprightly - I am the big 3-0!

poppy!

Ok, now everyone is ranting

 

[avistar]

Everyone is entitled to their feelings! Suzan I can understand where you are coming from with all the young ones already getting started. WE ARE ONLY AS YOUNG AS WE FEEL LADIES!!! I bet you all are hot babies still!!

 

[NeyNey]

Lol, I'm 29 in a couple of weeks!!
I know what it feels like to see all the young ones passing you in the montherhood train...

Drives you bonkers!

 

[FJL]

I'm 25 and I get upset enough when women older than me fall preg easily, let alone younger than me!

My cousin and his gf feel preggas accidently. He is 17, she is 22 I think. They are the last people on this earth ready for a baby. No money, living with parents etc, their poor baby used to sleep in a pram as they had no cot!

Then there is me and DH, been together for 6yrs, married for almost 3 years, happy, stable, ready and so much love to give and we can't get pregnant...its not fair

 

[faith_may]

I know what you mean, if you need anything let me know

 

[Hope22]

You have every right to vent, and certainly chose the right place - if anyone's going to understand how you feel, it's us

It feels so unfair when everyone around you seems to be getting pregnant with absolutely no effort, and you're trying every month, waiting those agonizing two weeks and experiencing disappointment over and over. All I can say is try to be happy for them, but allow yourself to feel upset too (when you're away from them) - don't bottle it up, you have a right to feel sad.

Big hugs

Edit --> oh, and I'm nearly 33 (birthday in January), married almost 11 years now. We've been trying for years, and we're starting to come to terms with the fact that I may never have a healthy pregnancy. It's not easy, believe me I know how much it hurts when friends and family call you to say they're expecting.

 

[justme00]

If it helps anyone feel better I know someone who is 37 and got pregnant with her first child after trying to about 2 yrs. She said she wasn't using any thing to assist in getting pregnant too. Good luck everyone!!