Emmyjean
Mom to 2 Wee Lads
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It sounds like things got heated on both sides. You can't change what happened, what's done is done, so I'd focus on how you can prevent this from happening in the future if I were you.
It sounds like your brother has trouble controlling his emotions and may have anger issues or other underlying stuff going on that's causing him to act out (from the way you described this incident, it's not an isolated thing). I worked with the public for many years in many capacities - I learned that fighting back or defending oneself physically or verbally against assault can seem like the stronger/braver thing to do, but often the smarter thing to do is to walk away from the conflict and either let things cool down or else call someone else for help (police, another person, etc). It's often really hard to exercise that kind of self-control, but it ends better most of the time, trust me.
That said, you shouldn't be constantly put in this position while you're trying to raise a baby. Is there a way your brother can get help or counseling, either from another member of the family or from a professional? He can't be allowed to carry on like that, with you or anyone else. It's not a good environment for a baby, or for anyone else, for that matter. Including your brother. I'm sorry you've got this stress on your plate - best of luck to you!
It sounds like your brother has trouble controlling his emotions and may have anger issues or other underlying stuff going on that's causing him to act out (from the way you described this incident, it's not an isolated thing). I worked with the public for many years in many capacities - I learned that fighting back or defending oneself physically or verbally against assault can seem like the stronger/braver thing to do, but often the smarter thing to do is to walk away from the conflict and either let things cool down or else call someone else for help (police, another person, etc). It's often really hard to exercise that kind of self-control, but it ends better most of the time, trust me.
That said, you shouldn't be constantly put in this position while you're trying to raise a baby. Is there a way your brother can get help or counseling, either from another member of the family or from a professional? He can't be allowed to carry on like that, with you or anyone else. It's not a good environment for a baby, or for anyone else, for that matter. Including your brother. I'm sorry you've got this stress on your plate - best of luck to you!
