I get really upset when people kinda guilt/scare me.

[LadyHutch]

Any little thing I do that anyone has heard from the interwebs or their mother's uncle's cousin's wife's brother's best friend that *MIGHT* be harmful to a fetus gets thrown in my face and I just want to raise a huge stink.

"You lost the first one...better do this or not do this to keep this one"

Next person who gives me "friendly" unsolicited advise on how I care for myself and my egg might get punched in the face.

I'm pretty scared already, and I am trying to do the best I can to balance normalcy with extremisms of caution. If I play fool to every suggestion, admonition, judgement, piece of snarky advice, I;ll just lay in bed with my feet up and not move for 9 months. Only eating the blandest of foods, no sex, pillows taped around my entire torso.

Hell yes I am scared and worried. I don't need anyone adding fuel to the fire when I am convinced the best thing I can do is try to treat this as a normal pregnancy, and not scare myself into fits of stress and immobility.

Just needed to vent.

 

[hb1]

"You lost the first one...better do this or not do this to keep this one"

OMG - who on earth would say this - that is just plain cruel!!!!! If anyone had dared say that to me they would have been well aware of my wrath!!

For me after my mc I had researched so much about pg and mc that there was very little advice any non medical type could offer that I wouldn't know more than them anyway but I didn't get anything like that.

I would be very grrrrrr to if I was you!!

Totally ignore these insensitive """""""!!

hx

 

[babywanted]

I agree with hb1 and you, i'd punch them in the face for saying things like that. Just goes to show that if they really understood what happened they'd know the m/c wasn't your fault and probably not preventable.

Good for you treating this new pregnancy as a new pregnancy, that's really hard to do!!

 

[LadyHutch]

Its not easy, especially having them so close together...but I am determined.

I'm cranky and tired today so I am especially susceptible to other people's faux pauxs.

I think most people mean well, they are just idiots. Doesn't irritate me any less.