I hate being treated like this...

[Bee Bee]

*sigh* So I got a on Monday and blood was right on the cusp of positive, just barely positive. Tested again at home yesterday and was still . Did a blood test again today and was negative.

My husband was upset but he's also being a bit of a butt to me. He said I was being too emotional when I know how high the chances are for miscarriages. And he says I'm looking for positives and testing too early. My sister says I'm trying too hard and that it'll happen when I stop trying. And all of that just pisses me off. I hate being treated like the stereotypical baby crazed woman. (like the bridezilla of TTC basically)

I have been trying for a year and a half. I knew 3-4 months in that I was struggling with infertility (since I stopped having a period for 6 months, then PCOS diagnosis afterwards) So, first of all, if I want to get pregnant, then I can't just "let it happen" when I let it happen, I stop having periods/stop ovulating.

Second, after no periods for 6 months, I stopped testing monthly. I only test when I am late and that has happened twice (both times were chemicals). I just so happened to test 2 days early this cycle but I am also late today. So obviously I knew something was up. I had the same box of 2 FRERs for a good 6 months.

I don't symptom spot.

I don't get upset when AF comes.

All I do is temp. I don't do OPKs (I get false positives), I don't do CM (Its not accurate for me) , I don't check my cervix (I cant reach the damn thing).

I don't think I am or could possibly be pregnant every month.

And even when I do get a I am fully aware that I might lose it and I try not to get my hopes up. But it still hurts when it comes back negative eventually.

So, when people treat me like I'm being too emotional or that I am trying too hard with TTC; it just really pisses me off. Because that's not me.

 

[TTC 84]

Big hugs Hun , some people just have no idea what it is like, and don't even try and understand . I'm sorry your being treated this way. I have told very few people I'm ttc as I don't want the comments. As for your husband men just don't get it , so try not to stress Hun hard I know . I wish you all the best and hope you get your rainbow baby soon xo

 

[88stone]

Ignore them. You are doing what you can with the situation you have. You are understandably upset. Its only fair that you get to tell everyone or anyone how you feel. Your OH is most likely just upset and can't really understand that you feel it differently cause its your body.
Tell everyone to bugger off and go take a hot bath

 

[lilyesz]

very sad situation.had 3 chemical pregnancy back to back .like you have PCOS and not very regular.but every time i do ovulate i conceive but sadly loose it few days later.for the last one i did a blood test which was negative.my GP just ignored me and indirectly told me it has been false positive.it really piss me off .cried for days to be ignored this much.
i won't stop testing early.if i did i won't know something is wrong.i prefer to know than just be in doubt.

 

[jess.smith]

You're not doing anything wrong. By knowing, you can celebrate (and if necessary, mourn) with ALL of the information. I also test super early, in part because I know I might lose it, and I want all of the happiness I can possibly squeeze out of the situation. Trying is hard. Here's a hug.

 

[Mrs. Atole]

I know how you feel, i got preg finally two years after trying and had a miscarriage. The only advise keep to yourself and when your positive opk comes back then just seduce your hubby lol .. Its hard i know but stay positive and dont put too much pressure on yourself others around you like your sis and husband see that and it makes them feel bad..

 

[AnnieMac2]

I'm so sorry they're making things harder on you than they already are. Also, you don't have to act a certain way or constantly check yourself. It's your body. Test every freaking time you want. You sound so mellow and reasonable, too! How aggravating. In my first and second hand experience, husbands are just sort of inept at handling this. They can't relate. I had to have a brutally honest conversation with my husband and tell him, "don't ever say this again, but you can say that, or just don't talk," etc. And I'm usually non-confrontational). I told him he just makes me feel more alone otherwise. We actually were closer after that. But it really, really pisses me off when women are insensitive. I don't even have words for that. Hang in there. You're not doing anything wrong. You're allowed to think about it and care about it as much as you want. Hugs and wishing you good luck!

Edit: I sounded harsh! I basically meant inept at relating because how could they? and it would be like how I couldn't possibly know the exact right things to say to someone with a terminal illness. My husband is great though and once we got it clear what exactly was hurtful, we were a team again.

 

[jessmke]

I've had two chemicals in a row, and after the first one my husband was a little upset at me for "getting my hopes up" because "you know this could happen early on". I was so mad at him! I told him that when I get in my car every day there's a decent chance that I could get into a car accident, but knowing it could happen won't make it less devastating if it does happen. He agreed and was more understanding the second time I had a chemical.

Sounds like you are handling your situation very well, don't let others bring you down!

 

[InVivoVeritas]

I'm so sorry that you don't have somebody in your life who can understand.

My sister had four accidental pregnancies and has four healthy children. She doesn't understand my experience on any level, and I don't talk to her about ttc.

To me you sound like you're very together and you're coping with a difficult situation extremely well. I know that when I was experiencing loss after loss I was much more of a mess than you.

I wish you did have somebody who understands what you're going through, but for the meantime you can talk to us and we'll understand.