I hate BF with Big breasts :(

[Abz1982]

I am sat here almost in tears as it hurts so bad right now. I was crying as I fed her earlier to. It is like someone is pulling hot pokers through my nipples .

I have been trying my best to make sure that she is latched on properly, but because of the size of my breasts I cant sodding see my nipples properly, and if I move breast to have a look, it seems to like, break the seal she has on it and then I have to damn reattach her!

I am doing the nose to nipple thing, but again, because of the size of my breasts I cant just quickly bring her on to the breast as one hand has to hold the breast, so the other arm is under her and she rolls her head around excited when she gets fed. And because I have to hold the breast in order to make the nipple somewhere she can be attached, then I am sure she isn't able to take enough of it into her mouth as the skin round the nipple is taught.

I know she is getting milk as I can hear her gulping, but I also hear like little noises, like a click, or 'tut' noise, and the HV said I should hear no noise at all if she is properly latched on.

It doesn't help that my nipples are about the same size as a 5p piece, and her gob only seems to open up to just over a 50p piece area.

I am now thinking I am not sure how long I can carry on with BFing. My nipples are hurting even when not feeding - when i get cold it is VERY painful!
I have checked and she doesn't have any of the symptoms of thrush in her mouth so it cant be that.

I am just fed up of being in pain!!! My nipples, My back - I use the correct position as they show you but it stil really hurts, I can feel it pulling on the muscles and I am sure that its something to do with the c-section as well as if I sit up properly straight it hurts my stomach .

I am just ready to crawl away and hide! DD is now asleep and in the room with her dad whilst I hide here as I need some peace. I have fed her 16 times today. 16 TIMES!!! And she was still hungry so went to bed with a dummy.

 

[sparkswillfly]

maybe you could try nipple sheilds? sorry im not great with advice. hope someone with more experience can answer you better. definitely sounds like shes not latched on properly.

feeding is constant in the early days but it does get easier

 

[Pyrrhic]

You can do it hun. The first weeks are the hardest. I remember being bent over crying on the floor I was in so much pain. I have a G cup, and have always had issues.

If you ever need anything, PM me

You're doing so well

 

[Abz1982]

It just feels like she wants MORE. She was feeding every 3-4 hours then it just changed the past few days. Ok its not so bad as I just spend most of the day in bed as that is the only place my back gets relief when I feed - it just means that sod all else gets done!

I am going to ask teh HV if I have thrush - even tho Emma doesnt have any symptoms.

 

[Pyrrhic]

How old is she hun? They go through growth spurts at 7 days and 3 weeks.

 

[Abz1982]

she is 16 days, but I swear that the past 2 days she has grown as her sleep suits seem more snug on her!!

 

[Sweetie]

This one one of my largest frustrations with bf'ding. I found that I had the same issue with the "clicking" sound too (made me cry to think I wasn't doing it right)

One thing that helped with positioning was to roll a towel under my boob (fold it in half lengthwise and then roll - warming with hot water can help with flow) and that gave me an extra boost to the boob so I could have a hand free for a second to be able to position LO.

I would also sit on the end of the couch with my back to the arm rest and the side I was feeding her from against the couch so I had a bit of extra support for my back, sounds strange I know but it worked for me. I would also put her on a pillow on my lap. It was quite a production but it made a difference.

I found people would tell me to lay down and feed her but I couldn't get positioned correctly to do that. Sometimes I was able to feed her in a football carry style but that was mostly when I was propped in bed with a ton of pillows.

Good luck hon, I know it can be hard

 

[happy&healthy]

My boobs are pretty big too. When we were still in the hospital, the nurses taught my husband how to check the latch--so the first few weeks he was the one that made sure she latched correctly. I also just had her get a big as mouth as possible and then hoped for the best when she latched.

 

[lyndsey3010]

Aw darling I feel your pain I really do as I had a terrible start and was in so much pain all the time. I'm in a g cup club too and have to hold a boob for DS to latch on.

As well as nipple shields you could try the shells to give your nipple protection from clothing as well the elements whilst also allowing air to get to them. I found they helped with nipple healing.

I don't really have any advice other than what the girls on here have already given you, but I can give you all the support in the world as my start was the same as yours and I'm now out the other side and enjoying it at last.

These are very very trying times. I'm so sorry you're going thru it. I hope you feel better soon, I know that feeling of dreading feeding times oh so well.

to you

 

[Hevz]

maybe you could try nipple sheilds? sorry im not great with advice. hope someone with more experience can answer you better. definitely sounds like shes not latched on properly.

feeding is constant in the early days but it does get easier

Nipple shield are not recommended by breastfeeding experts at all as this doesn't help to correct problems and can cause nipple confusion.


It sounds like you're doing all the right things honey and it takes time and practice. When it's all clicked into place it's the easiest thing in the world but it does take a bit of time usually. I struggled with my 1st and even more so with my 2nd funnily enough but if you concentrate just on breastfeeding and pretend that there isn't an alternative (artificial milk) then it stops you thinking about giving up etc as breastfeeding "needs" to carry on to feed your child (that's what I found worked for me anyway).


I am a 38J/K and I understand where you're coming from completely. Your nipples will be extremely sensitive at 1st as they're not used to feeding a baby and I liken it to friction burn/joggers nipple. Once baby is latched on you may feel uncomfortable for the 1st 20-30seconds but if baby is latched on properly then you shouldn't feel pain after that and as you've mentioned you will hear gulping noises. No matter how good a latch on occasion I find babies sometimes make a clicking noise


If you baby has lots of wet and dirty nappies and it putting on weight then she's getting plenty of milk and you need to relax and trust your body, try not to analise everything and ignore people who say crap like "how do you know if they're ggetting enough"....I always say, well how do you know that 4ozs of milk is the right amount????


I've done the breastmates peer support training so if I can help further then don't hesitate to ask.....good luck babe

 

[Mervs Mum]

^^^What she said. Nipple shields come with a whooooole other set of problems.

You're just in that really tough, tough first few weeks and everything you are saying has been said by BFing mum's hundreds of times before - you are not alone honey so if you need to vent come here - we know how you feed but I promise you it will not last for long xxx

 

[danapeter36]

Hun

With thrush you may not get all the symptoms, we didn't, but that sensation in your nipples is what I had. Defo mention to your HV babe xxx

 

[Abz1982]

I am deffo going to mention it to the HV, as today was just as bad. She was feeding for 5-10 mins at a time and then falling asleep, waking up after about 15 mins and wanting fed again. This went on for FOUR HOURS.

I decided that since my boobs hurt so much at 2pm I would try expressing.................well NOTHING coming out so I feel terrible but I figured she was maybe just doing it as a comfort thing as boobs empty - they even actaully felt kinda flat and empty.

So she began crying and I hate to say it but I left her to it for about 10 mins, then picked her up and cuddled her. She gave me a "why mummy" look and then was out like a light!
And she still is!

And I can feel my boobs start to fill up again...........so I hope she sleeps at least an hour. I have asked OH to come home from work early as I am feeling very very low and need some company .

 

[Mervs Mum]

 

[danapeter36]

Oh honey, sending you hugs xxx

 

[Samantha675]

The first weeks are soo tough, but hang in there. DO NOT worry about things getting done around the house, there will be plenty of time for cleaning and such later. Get your DH to do it. You should just focus on your little girl and yourself.

And I remember the same sensations when I got cold. OMG, it would just make my nipple ache sooo bad I wanted to cry.

 

[asacia]

I find that I get really achy boobs when DS is having a growth spurt. He'll eat more, so I'd pump more, then I'd get achy. When my supply increased to match what he wanted, the aching went away. Perhaps it is similar for you?

 

[lauzliddle]

Hi hun i feel your pain i was very similar to you when i first started i am a size 12 and 36EE (.)(.)s they are also hang south a little and i couldn't see a thing and OH was always at work so i couldn't ask him. it was really hard to start(i got a lot of help from BnB)

The MW give me Kamillosan when i left the hospital and i used to put a little on as soon as LO finished feeding and it helped a lot.

Also as above in the first few weeks babies go through a lot of growth spurts and it can be so hard. If you stick with it you will LOVE the benefits when they come.

I have been going for 4 months now and i still have bad days where he cant quite get in the right position but most days he will find my nipple him-self

Hold on chick you can do it