I hate my boobs!!!

[Mervs Mum]

Sarah - you can get underwire nursing bras recommended by Dr Miriam Stoppard (UK maternity Dr type) but they are not to be used before 12 weeks

Underwire nursing bras

Ryder - it's bonkers isnt it. I think it totally depends where you go. But this is particularly bad as the story above is in the same hospital Golcarlily is going to and where I gave birth to my first AND with the Birth Centre attached to it that I had Hebe in....so even in the same building there is no continuity of care

 

[Sarahkka]

I think it's really hit and miss all over the UK. The consultant lead care seems to attrach a certain 'type' of MW. I was lucky that I was able to opt for MW only care and I think the ones who work on the Birth Centre are a certain 'type' too. Fortunately my type of MW were in the place I was having my baby.
They were bitches upstairs. I dont wanna worry you but dont be push around by them GL. My sister's best mate went into labour on Christmas morning about 4am. To cut a long story short, she got to the hospital (2nd baby BTW) and was examined and was only 1 cm. They told her she could stay if she wanted to which she did and within about an hour things were hotting up. Obviously with it not being her first she had an idea of what to expect. The refused to examine her again saying not long had passed and wouldnt listen to her that she thought something was happening. Eveytime she called them they would roll their eyes. They finally gave her some pethadine (she said they seemed to want her to just shut up) and left her. She told her hubby to get them back and she was gonna push. They reluctantly came back only to find her on all fours giving birth. She had her baby before the pethadine had even kicked in then spend hours out of it when she should have been enjoying her newborn.
They might be brilliant and hopefully they will be but if they arent tell your hubby to make sure they dont push you around.

As it is in Canada. In my birth and babies class, amongst twelve couples, we had at least half the class with unsatisfactory birth experiences. That's in one city.
In Calgary, a huge part of the problem is a shortage of doctors and a lack of continuity throughout the entire prenatal care field. Typically, the doctor who delivers the baby is a total stranger and doesn't have or take the time to become familiar with the patient.
In my case, we went to an excellent clinic - a group of all women doctors who made patient case familiarity and patient wants/needs the priority. Our birth experience was excellent. I really hope our health region moves towards such a model of health care.

Lisa - I just hope I can find those bras in Canada. Hallelujah!

 

[aidensxmomma]

Even in the US, where you have to pay for healthcare through health insurance, it's hit and miss. A lot of the time, if you don't have the "best" health insurance you get a piss poor doctor. That especially proves true for people who are on the Medicaid program (where you get your insurance through the state). I know quite a few people who have had bad experiences with pregnancy/labor/delivery.

So it doesn't seem to have as much to do with the way the healthcare system is run, but just luck of the draw. Kind of a depressing thought.

Anyways, I hope you can make sure that they follow your wishes at the hospital!

 

[mrs shine]

I understand where your coming from..I was GG before pg and am now in an L cup. I hate my breasts too.
I was really apprehensive before labour of the mw/nurses seeing my breasts and also had thoughts that they would be too big to successfully BF.
I was aware of them in the early stages of labour but when I got out of the pool at 6cm dilated I didn't even think about them, I ended up delivering my baby completely starkers. (I only even realised that I did that a few weeks later on) The MW's who helped me BF were all fab, didn't say anything and helped with positioning and latching with the minimum of touching.

Still now I hate them from a body image perspective (they are covered in stretch marks, sag down to my belly button) I can't stand my hubby to touch them or even mention them, and I will be having a reduction in the future although I can't have it until I have finished having children.

I do BF in public and yes it is more tricky to be discreet but you do find ways round it. (if you want any tips i'm more than happy to share) x

But I also love my boobs because they are feeding and nourishing my baby, and he loves them too (he gobbles them up at feeding time and has just doubled his birthweight this week!) I have been trying to wean my LO off my breasts onto bottles in order to help my back pain, but I just can't seem to get there. Despite everything I'm so emotionally attached now to BF my baby I don't know how I'll ever be able to stop!

 

[ryder]

yes MM... its bonkers... Like sarahkk said, there are some bad things in canada, but I've never heard of anything as bad as what i've read on BnB... Im from ontario, and I think that we likely are one of the better provinces for healthcare etc. I know Rae had a horrible experience, but her hospital didnt sound like it was equiped to really offer the type of care etc they should be... But she is in a different province which is quite small. ..

Ive heard of complaints at babygroup about people who felt they werent given enough support for breastfeeding... But we have some very accesible midwives and hv's... so I think a big thing is researching and knowing how to access things.

 

[golcarlilly]

Mrs Shine thanks for your post

 

[Hevz]

I did the same. You can get lovely underwire nursing bras too now.

It's not that they are bossy upstairs at Hx it's just that with it being the Dr's in charge there seems to be more intervention where downstairs they are there but they let you take the lead IYKWIM. They didnt make me wait till exactly 10cm to push. I got to 9 and they said just do what your body tells you - push, dont push it's all ok - and they didnt lay a finger on me. They just watched, waited and guided me when I asked and then they caught her when she came out!

My friend had her baby about 10 days ago upstairs and she stopped BFing at 3 days. The gave her some crap advice in there so just be aware that if you want to do it you can and not everything they say is gospel

?????!!!!
I thought the offical BF line was that underwires can cause blocked milk ducts and all kinds of problems with milk flow and production. That's certainly the offical line here.
If I've suffered through these hideous bras for no good reason, I will NOT be pleased!

Nah....only ill fitting underwired bras could interfere. The wires on a proper fitting bra don't even touch your breasts....they should go underneath

 

[ajarvis]

My absolute favorite nursing bra that I still have from my first son is an underwire one. I only wear the other one when I have to - oh and I got it at Walmart (in Canada) only I couldn't find another one this time when I went to look unfortunately so had to buy a none underwire one