Kiki1993
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Does anyone else? I use to love it but it gets so complicated, I have done NOTHING .. we know we want to get married, we don't know when, where and how etc! We aren't planning anything in stone right now because there is a lot going on in family just now and we are both on temporary job contracts so we can't book until we have money saved completely.
We are going to florida in april 2015 and considered doing it there but nope. Family hated that idea and tbh i want my family there. We have considered gretna, but then once again wouldnt work because the important people arent well enough to travel and i really want them there. We can't afford a big wedding or anything close to that!
Considered the registry office and just a meal after, but even that is a pain when you bring in transport .... DONT get me started on guest list! I am very close to my family, we live on the same street! So I would want all of them there, however althoug OH family is massive, they aren't close but they are very much "why didnt we get invited" type and every wedding is massive on their side .. Also every time we start planning we get "well you have to invite your third cousins best friend" and we really can't afford that... All we want is main family and close close firends at the wedding and then take them for a meal after, once the meal is over they go home and we go to hotel bed, is that cheeky? I'm not sure on wedding etiquette but i dont like the idea of a big reception, it costs lots of money and you invite so many people you barely know and everyone expects a plus one!
So can someone answer these questions for me because im rambling:
1.did you enjoy planning, if not did you start to once you got more organised?
2.is it acceptable to have the wedding, a meal and that is it. Possibly drinks in the hotel bar if thats allowed? (we would have about 35 people most likely)
3.How do you approach the "oh but you have to invite..." and the "oh wheres my invite?!"
Even if we had the money i dont think i would want a reception, but we have so much coming up, moving out hopefully this year, florida next and im guessing the wedding either before florida or during that same year .. it is so confusing, would be easier if it was just your day but somehow it becomes everyone who is invited and want an invite have an opinion We want the wedding done shortly after florida because we would want to start trying about 6 months- a year after wedding and to meet our TTC date we want want to be married the june/july after florida.
We are going to florida in april 2015 and considered doing it there but nope. Family hated that idea and tbh i want my family there. We have considered gretna, but then once again wouldnt work because the important people arent well enough to travel and i really want them there. We can't afford a big wedding or anything close to that!
Considered the registry office and just a meal after, but even that is a pain when you bring in transport .... DONT get me started on guest list! I am very close to my family, we live on the same street! So I would want all of them there, however althoug OH family is massive, they aren't close but they are very much "why didnt we get invited" type and every wedding is massive on their side .. Also every time we start planning we get "well you have to invite your third cousins best friend" and we really can't afford that... All we want is main family and close close firends at the wedding and then take them for a meal after, once the meal is over they go home and we go to hotel bed, is that cheeky? I'm not sure on wedding etiquette but i dont like the idea of a big reception, it costs lots of money and you invite so many people you barely know and everyone expects a plus one!
So can someone answer these questions for me because im rambling:
1.did you enjoy planning, if not did you start to once you got more organised?
2.is it acceptable to have the wedding, a meal and that is it. Possibly drinks in the hotel bar if thats allowed? (we would have about 35 people most likely)
3.How do you approach the "oh but you have to invite..." and the "oh wheres my invite?!"
Even if we had the money i dont think i would want a reception, but we have so much coming up, moving out hopefully this year, florida next and im guessing the wedding either before florida or during that same year .. it is so confusing, would be easier if it was just your day but somehow it becomes everyone who is invited and want an invite have an opinion We want the wedding done shortly after florida because we would want to start trying about 6 months- a year after wedding and to meet our TTC date we want want to be married the june/july after florida.