Miss_Awesome
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My signature says that we've been TTC since August of 2011, which is true. However, we went without protection of any kind since we got married in April of 2011. Prior to that our ONLY source of birth control was condoms. This is probably why we figured getting pregnant would be as simple as ditching those and going unprotected. Obviously, that didn't happen and we're at 20 months TTC, give or take.
So, DH must have been in some kind of denial or just wanted to make me miserable by not going to get a semen analysis. Finally, after pleading with him every time AF got me and telling him that I will stop talking about it if he goes and gets one, he made an appointment. It was today with his doctor on base (he's military).
The guy ordered the semen analysis for some time next week and spent the rest of the appointment talking about non-TTC stuff like high blood pressure and medicines to treat a problem he doesn't have. I figured that was the end of the story until my DH says he actually spent a majority of the time talking to the nurse before being seen by the doctor. I've been there for other things and had the same experience. Only, this lady told him we're "trying too hard!" and then went on to talk about when SHE became pregnant she was "relaxed" and that's what we need to do. She told him her sisters had trouble conceiving, but lo' and behold, when they "stopped thinking about it, it happened! Just relax!!"
This is the second most annoying thing we've encountered while TTC since my Nurse Practitioner I was seeing for infertility told me "Just relax!" and in the same breath told me, "Just adopt!" Just relax! Just relax! Just--no, I never freaking THOUGHT of that?! It's one thing to hear from fertile friends who just want me to shut up, but a two supposed medical "professionals." WHY are people so insensitive--no, make that stupid?!!?
Thanks, just needed to vent to people who would understand!
So, DH must have been in some kind of denial or just wanted to make me miserable by not going to get a semen analysis. Finally, after pleading with him every time AF got me and telling him that I will stop talking about it if he goes and gets one, he made an appointment. It was today with his doctor on base (he's military).
The guy ordered the semen analysis for some time next week and spent the rest of the appointment talking about non-TTC stuff like high blood pressure and medicines to treat a problem he doesn't have. I figured that was the end of the story until my DH says he actually spent a majority of the time talking to the nurse before being seen by the doctor. I've been there for other things and had the same experience. Only, this lady told him we're "trying too hard!" and then went on to talk about when SHE became pregnant she was "relaxed" and that's what we need to do. She told him her sisters had trouble conceiving, but lo' and behold, when they "stopped thinking about it, it happened! Just relax!!"
This is the second most annoying thing we've encountered while TTC since my Nurse Practitioner I was seeing for infertility told me "Just relax!" and in the same breath told me, "Just adopt!" Just relax! Just relax! Just--no, I never freaking THOUGHT of that?! It's one thing to hear from fertile friends who just want me to shut up, but a two supposed medical "professionals." WHY are people so insensitive--no, make that stupid?!!?
Thanks, just needed to vent to people who would understand!