I need advice please

[Sophie1205]

My OH is drving me mad. He really doesn't understand that mood swings come along with pregnancy.
He doesn't treat me like I'm pregnant! Ive talked to other girls and they've said how their bf's tell them to chill out and relax and give them massages. Mine doesn't!
I'm 14 weeks pregnant and I've put loads of effort in for my baby. I've quit smoking, I'm putting Uni off for a year (if i can still go next year), I didn't have an 18th birthday party which had already been booked because my mum cancelled it when she found out i was pregnant. I've been spending my EMA on baby things and he just hasnt done anything!!
I asked him to do two things when we found out I was pregnant, to quit smoking, and to find a better job.
We found out 9 weeks ago that i'm pregnant and he hasnt made any effort to do either of those two things!!
Whenever I bring this up it ends up in an argument and I cant afford to be getting angry for my baby's sake.

Someone please help!! I need advice.
Thank you

xxx

 

[alice&bump]

aaw hun im sorry!! my oh was exactly the same - i think they just have to come to terms wth it!! for us iits easier cos we know there's a baby in there, but for the men there's nothing really til the first scan! my oh's so excited now, but i still think its more real for me! he'll come round soon xxxx

 

[Sophie1205]

thanks. yeah weve been for our first scan but its like he still doesnt believe it.
It makes me quite upset. Some people have said it might not hit him untill the baby is born but i cant go on like this throughout my whole pregnancy. Thanks for replying xxxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Its probley gunna take him a while before it truely registers ..
But trust me it can be just as annoying being rapped up in cotton wool by ur OH .. You cant sneeze without him worrying wether that has disturbed the baby or summin lool !!!!!!!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I get told I'm dramatic by my OH when I have an ache or pain.

Men just don't understand pregnancy I don't think!

 

[polo_princess]

I hope he comes around soon!! Have you tried explaining to him how you feel?

 

[ella170]

mine is absolutly useless! when i told him the baby kicked he just said "oh". i don't think it's real to him either, especially as only i've heard the heartbeat- i'm hoping it all sinks in when he sees baby at the scan next week. we normally argue whenever the baby is brought up in conversation! maybe when your OH can feel the baby kick he might start to change

 

[Sophie1205]

aww thanks girls yeah well tonight has been dramatic lol we had a massive row and we've managed to discuss things tonight so im gonna go have another chat to him and *try* and make him understand a bit more.
Thank you for all your help girls
Mucchhhh appreciated

xxx

 

[mommytashaX2]

I had the same type of issue with my bf when we first found out I was pregnant and now that I'm huge and he sees the baby moving and he knows that hes about to be here soon, things have changed. Its hard during the first trimester because thats when it feels like you need the most support and when you don't get it, its annoying!!! But try not to stress. We women always seem like we have to be the stronger ones that sacrifice so much when it comes to these things. Things will get easier and until then, we'll be here to listen when you need to vent. Take care of yourself

 

[Sophie1205]

Thanks a lot that really helped. Yeah hopefully things should get better and he'll start to believe it more as we go on lol.
Thank you very much I love it on here its the only way i can have someone/people to talk to who understand thanks xxxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Hehe .. well you know where always here ...
and at the end ov the day men will men .. or boys haha ...
Apart from that hows pregnancy going ? morning sickness stopped yet ??

xxxxx

 

[Sophie1205]

yeah hehe mine certainly acts 12 even though hes 22 lol.
Ive been quite lucky with morning sickness, i never actually throw up but i feel sick all the time. it comes and goes. i feel awful today but ill most likely be fine i have a repeat blood test on tuesday not looking forward to it at all. i dnt like blood tests.
How about you? Everythin goin ok?

xxx

 

[alice&bump]

haha mine still acts 12 and he's 30!! i think men dont understand at all tho. last night i started crying for no reason aside from hormones and he was like, why you crying? -i dont know. but why? -i just dont know. well stop then. -i cant!! he didnt understand, but the minute i told some of the girls at work they all understood!!

who knew a simple thing like dropping a hair clip or not being able to find your mascara could make you cry?!

 

[Jodie__x]

yeah i hate blood tests too !! give me an injection any day .. but just blood tests !!! hate them!!


Yeah everything's going great !! .. felt baby movement for the first time the other day .. only flutters here and there .. !! yeah you should start to feel alot better in the next couple ov weeks .. i had terrible nausea and morning sickness up 2 15 weeks . then it just stopped all ov a sudden !!! xxx

 

[Sophie1205]

haha mine still acts 12 and he's 30!! i think men dont understand at all tho. last night i started crying for no reason aside from hormones and he was like, why you crying? -i dont know. but why? -i just dont know. well stop then. -i cant!! he didnt understand, but the minute i told some of the girls at work they all understood!!

who knew a simple thing like dropping a hair clip or not being able to find your mascara could make you cry?!

hahaha!!! exactly!! its just little things, or even nothing that can set you off and only girls will understand. I was trying to explain to my OH yesterday about it all and he was like "yeah but surely u can count to ten and calm down" and i was like noooo i cant count to bloody ten and calm down cuz im in a bad mood haha

xxxx

Should hopefully get better and as long as ive got other people that understand its all good

 

[Sophie1205]

yeah i hate blood tests too !! give me an injection any day .. but just blood tests !!! hate them!!


Yeah everything's going great !! .. felt baby movement for the first time the other day .. only flutters here and there .. !! yeah you should start to feel alot better in the next couple ov weeks .. i had terrible nausea and morning sickness up 2 15 weeks . then it just stopped all ov a sudden !!! xxx

yeah injections are over quite quickly but the amount of blood they take out of u is ridiculous lol.

Aww i havent felt any movements at all :S dont know if thats something to worry about? Not even flutters.

Yeah im hoping my feeling sick will go away so i can feel almost normal again

Glad everythings going well =]

xxxx

 

[Jodie__x]

Na theres nuffin wrong with that ! .. Most people dont start to fell anything till 16-20 weeks .. its different for each person though !!

Hope you feel better soon xxxx

 

[alice&bump]

i got told by a doctor the other week that you dont normally feel the baby til 20 weeks!! i was like wtf! he said it was really unusual that i'd felt it at like 16 weeks!

 

[dizzy65]

awe i hope it all works out and he starts doing what u ask soon.. With my bf i havent even found out yes or no yet and he treats me so good cuz he wants the best for our child

 

[Sophie1205]

Awww thats good. Yeah my OH has been gettin better with me telling him what he needs to do kinda thing. Like i just said to him, you never come in and tell me to sit down and you'll tidy up. So we've had a few chats and hes gettin a bit better so hopefully it should carry on that way

xxx