I need opinions?

[MzChicago]

Hey everybody,

I'm new here and just wanted as much different input as I could get while I still can.

I am 23 years old, DF is 25 and will be 26 towards the end of this year. We have been together for almost 3 years now, and we are planning on getting married this August.

I have no children currently, but DF has a 6 year old son that I love dearly (he does not live with us full-time).

DF and I have a GREAT relationship, he's my soul mate and my best friend. We love each other dearly.

Lately we've been talking so much about having a baby. We've both wanted one for awhile, but we wanted to do things right like put in some time and figure out if this relationship was real and also get married.

I know that I am still young, and sometimes it concerns me because I hear so many people in my ear telling me I'm too young and to wait and it's not worth throwing my life away over just yet.

I also hear things such as how mine and DF's relationship will never be the same, no more alone time, lack of sex, more arguments, more stress, etc. - THESE THINGS FRIGHTEN ME HORRIBLY! I never want to imagine us breaking apart, I only want us to get stronger!

We both want to have children while we have the energy that we do now, and we want to be around for as long as we can for our children. I've also LOVED and wanted children since as long as I can remember. My baby fever right now is OUT OF CONTROL! & it doesn't help that his is just as bad!

We are stable, have our own place, make money, know what we want in life, motivated individuals. I know we'd make great parents.

Just want to know what you guys think about this? Should we wait? Is it really as bad as they say? Will our relationship stay alive?

Any other input is appreciated!
Thank you!

 

[Mrs R]

Don't listen to anybody else, having children is a different experience for everybody. I got married at 22 and had my twins at 26. We enjoyed being married for a while first but that's not for everybody.

Yes having children children is hard work, but it's also the best thing you and ur DP will do together.
Our whole lives revolve around our children, but this has made us stronger as a couple and we love each other more than ever. Yes sometimes things get stressful, but we laugh it off, clean up the mess and get on with it!

If there are things you want to do with your life, such as travel, study etc then try and I would try and get all that in before the babies arrive as those things get harder with little ones around (they're not impossible though).

But only you know what's best for you. I wouldn't change it for the world (although a night off every now and then is nice lol)

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I agree with the above. Having a child is a different experience for everyone. I got pregnant at 24. I won't say it's been a walk in the park. You will argue, mostly cause you're sleep deprived, but if you truly love each other, you'll overcome it.