Mbergyhaann
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Hello all! I am new to this site, and this forum, so if I have posted in the wrong place, I apologize. But I need some help. I am 25, married for 2.5 years, together for 6, we both have fabulous jobs, a nice home, and a really good marriage. I am posting because I am so ready for a baby, and he is not. Not as in he never wants kids, but he doesn't want to try this second. We recently had a discussion, and he states "I don't want to plan it, I just want it to happen." The reason this statement is an issue is because I'm not on birth control, and we don't use condoms, but we use the ol' pull out method. When I say keep going, he pulls out. So, things "can't just happen" if he doesn't allow them to just happen. I don't want to rush him, but when I try to talk to him he closes up. I need advice on how to approach this responsibly without ruining what we have and making him feel bad. I would like a time line of when he thinks we could really start trying. Is that reasonable? I'm nervous because we have always used the pull method and We've never conceived-- despite others statements of it not being a trusty method of BC. I love him and I want it to be right for both of us. But I'm hurt at the same time, and hold a little resentment because I feel everything we do is on his own timeline-- when he is ready. I don't want to bring children in this world and he not be ready. But I feel as if he's giving me mixed signals, and I need to know how to address this.