if BMI is high do they offer c section?

[FemmeEnceinte]

Are you saying you want a c-section? they could refer you for one, but only if you develop complications that mean you need one or if you're adamant that you want one but your recurrent miscarriages don't mean you will need one or automatically be referred for one. You're no more at risk of developing complications than anyone else, so don't worry about that.

As for everything else, it sounds like they've been good at giving you weekly scans and keeping their eye on your so I wouldn't complain too much. That's a lot more than many women in your situation could expect to receive. The scan of your cervix will have been to make sure it is competent I presume (most women who have had an operation to remove some or part of the cervix are monitored for incompetent cervix as a result) but leaving it until 22 weeks wont have put your baby in any danger, you would have had a few signs and symptoms that would have flagged up your incompetent cervix, if you had this, and they would have been able to act upon it (by placing a small stitch in the cervix).

What you need to do is ask questions, if you get flustered and forget them at the time when they ask "any questions?" then write them down and bring them with you, if they don't ask you if you have any questions... tell them that you do. The only way you'll ever know what's going on is if you ask them. If you're not satisfied... keep asking questions, keep pestering until you understand.

thanks- no I dont want one- if I can avoid it! I thought I did at one point but have since changed my mind- Im so unsure about a lot of things like breastfeeding too. I think because of my previous history I have found it hard to actually realise/accept I am having a baby!!!!

That's understandable, you've had a tough time getting here. I guess it's a mixture of not wanting to get your hopes up and not quite believing it too. I wouldn't recommend a c-section, I'd go for vaginal birthing every time if you can help it, especially with your first.

If you ever want anything clarifying, feel free to PM me. The ladies in the breastfeeding forum will be able to convince you to BF! They have such lovely stories and journeys to share! x

 

[lisaboo79]

my bmi is 32, i was a size 14 waist before i got pregnant, but bigger on my top half, no talk of a c-section at all, even though they reckon the baby is gonna be big