If you see people doing things wrong (safety wise) do you tell them?

[hanni]

For example if someone in your family who you weren't particularly close to had photos of their baby in a cot with loose bumpers, blankets and at the wrong end of the cot would you send them a message and tell them? Or when you see people with young babies in forward facing car seats. I'm so ocd about everything to do with safety.

I really don't want to be one of those people as I hate it when people give me unwanted advice but I couldn't live with myself if something happened. Would you mention to someone about safe sleeping or just leave them to their own ways? Or should I just share lots of safety advice on Facebook and hope they notice.
What would you do?

 

[zorak]

Not in those instances no. Safe sleeping advice is given everywhere so itd be odd if the parents hadnt heard.

Re. The forward facing car seat, absolutely not as long as it fell within legal parameters of age etc . I turned my own son FF at 15 months and I'd have been livid if anyone said anything about it. For me it was the safest option. My son is on the 99 th centile for height and he was so uncomfortable rear facing he screamed the place down. It really upset my concentration and I couldn't hear sirens etc so it was far safer for me to have him FF so I could concentrate.

 

[staralfur]

I wouldn't, no. I coslept with my LO for 10 months and a lot of people seem that "unsafe" and I would have been none too pleased had someone commented on it.

FF I might mention if it was a really tiny baby (like under 6 months) but otherwise nope, I assume people make decisions knowing the pros and cons.

 

[Larkspur]

I would only mention in the very rare instance of something being illegal or installed in a faulty manner (eg capsule in a front seat with an airbag).

 

[hanni]

Good point about the co sleeping. I never thought of it like that.
And this baby is 2 months old!

 

[weedle]

Whenever I've said something in the past its never gone down well so I keep my mouth shut now.

 

[CaptainMummy]

I wouldn't, no. Chances are, they already know and are choosing to do things differently.
If a child was in clear danger, or if something was illegal, then yes, Im sure I would, but if they are choosing to not follow what are 'guidelines' I wouldnt bother

 

[calm]

I only tell pregnant friends who are asking questions in general anyway. I haven't encountered anything unsafe but I often shudder at what MIL tells me about when she brought up her own babies, normal in the time though. She still thought I was mad for not holding a newbaby in my arms (she of course wanted to hold the other) as we left from the hospital to go down a busy 30 minute motorway journey I told her about safety but she just looked blank and she thinks I'm a cow that just contradicts her

 

[hanni]

I only tell pregnant friends who are asking questions in general anyway. I haven't encountered anything unsafe but I often shudder at what MIL tells me about when she brought up her own babies, normal in the time though. She still thought I was mad for not holding a newbaby in my arms (she of course wanted to hold the other) as we left from the hospital to go down a busy 30 minute motorway journey I told her about safety but she just looked blank and she thinks I'm a cow that just contradicts her

Your MIL sounds like a hoot! I've had all the eye rolls from my family because I'm a stickler for car seat safety. They just think I'm an over protective new mum. I just point out that there's a lot more traffic these days compared to 20/30 years ago, and cars can go faster.

 

[Rainbow82]

I might be tempted to mention a two month old in a forward facing seat if you can do it sensitively as it's illegal but I wouldn't generally say anything.

 

[sethsmummy]

I didnt know there was a "wrong" end of the cot, blankets are fine, as is either side of the cot they wish to use (not everyone does feet to foot). The forward facing at two months old... yes id be tempted to say something.. or id find a photo or something on facebook regarding something happening to a child ff too soon and share it in hopes they will see it and think twice x

 

[kellyc1987]

I also never knew there was a wrong end of the cot, I do feet to foot but at no particular end of the cot

 

[hanni]

I mean the baby wasn't foot to foot. Just right in the middle of the cot with a loose blanket thrown over him.
I've always been told foot to foot and blankets tucked in. We have to have my sons blankets tightly tucked in or he pulls them over his face 😫

 

[calm]

The blanket thing makes me nervous so we use sacks, I was even nervous to use them at the beginning

 

[Kirsty3051]

My MIL has the same opinion when it comes to travelling in a car. DH travelled home from the hospital in her arms and nothing happened, so it's safe. DH didn't choke on scrambled egg at 6 weeks old so it was okay for her to attempt to feed Luca on the sly at 6 weeks old.

 

[calm]

My MIL has the same opinion when it comes to travelling in a car. DH travelled home from the hospital in her arms and nothing happened, so it's safe. DH didn't choke on scrambled egg at 6 weeks old so it was okay for her to attempt to feed Luca on the sly at 6 weeks old.

She sounds a like mine (if mine had done that with the egg I would have knocked her block off )

 

[Kirsty3051]

I threatened to shove the spoon up her bumhole but I wasn't about to announce that to the world

 

[hanni]

Hahaha brilliant Kirsty!

My MIL hasn't tried anything (mainly because she rarely bothers to see us) but she was insistent I blend up a Sunday dinner and poke a bigger hole in his bottle teat to feed him it at 6 weeks old, because that's when my OH started eating blended up Sunday dinners! And of course it's "never done him any harm!", Apart from his terrible IBS. Yeah, no harm at all. I'm sure that's just a coincidence!

 

[Kirsty3051]

I've had the blended roast dinner conversation at least 50 times now. Seems to be one of her favourites

 

[Cattia]

We always used extended rear facing car seats which are quite unusual, so we got a lot of comments about them which would be when I would tell people how much safer they are. A lot of people looked at me like a nutter and we had all the comments about how it must be really boring for them not to be able to see where they were going etc. I think now the law is changing more people are aware of rear facing. If it's a Facebook friend I'd maybe put something on Facebook. I was very paranoid about everything safety wise with my oldest but now I'm on number three I am more relaxed although I still follow SIDS and car seat guidelines pretty closely.