hi everyone
although i am not a big poster, i did come onto this section of the forum just before christmas when we lost our baby girl after an amnio at 18 weeks. We were lucky to get pregnant again reasonably quickly and i was due on christmas day however on friday i had bleeding and went into hospital for a scan which showed the baby probably died a week ago ( i was supposed to be 16 weeks) I started having contractions and our baby was delivered at about 4.30 the same day.
I dont know if anyone has experienced 2 second tri losses and can help me make sense of how im feeling. the thing is i feel totally blank. last time i was devestated, i came home feeling real grief and loss of a child but this time i feel blank, nothing! i feel awful and the only time i have cried was when the sonographer told us the baby was dead and then this morning because i feel guilty for not being upset. I dont know if its because i was gaurded through this pregnancy because of last time, or because it was earlier or because last time we were riddled with guilt for having the amnio or because this time we did not see the baby as it was small and not in great condition where as last time we saw our little girl.
i just feel like there is something wrong with me, everyone keeps messaging me saying how sorry they are and how devestating it must feel to go through this again but it just seems to go over my head.
whats wrong with me?
although i am not a big poster, i did come onto this section of the forum just before christmas when we lost our baby girl after an amnio at 18 weeks. We were lucky to get pregnant again reasonably quickly and i was due on christmas day however on friday i had bleeding and went into hospital for a scan which showed the baby probably died a week ago ( i was supposed to be 16 weeks) I started having contractions and our baby was delivered at about 4.30 the same day.
I dont know if anyone has experienced 2 second tri losses and can help me make sense of how im feeling. the thing is i feel totally blank. last time i was devestated, i came home feeling real grief and loss of a child but this time i feel blank, nothing! i feel awful and the only time i have cried was when the sonographer told us the baby was dead and then this morning because i feel guilty for not being upset. I dont know if its because i was gaurded through this pregnancy because of last time, or because it was earlier or because last time we were riddled with guilt for having the amnio or because this time we did not see the baby as it was small and not in great condition where as last time we saw our little girl.
i just feel like there is something wrong with me, everyone keeps messaging me saying how sorry they are and how devestating it must feel to go through this again but it just seems to go over my head.
whats wrong with me?