I'm feeling anxious! new here.

[thecurlymama]

Hey guys, I'm Emma. I just turned 16 in December, and I'm going on 16 weeks. I'm starting to get really anxious. My tummy right now just feels full of extra flab, there is no movement, I don't have another sauna-gram for another like, four weeks, and my next appointment is less than exciting. I'm feeling like I want my bump to grow, and I want to know if my little one is a boy or a girl, how he/she's doing and if they're healthy and whatnot.
My boyfriend and I aren't having many problems, but I do find myself pretty clingy and somewhat freakishly obsessed about our "future". Him and I do plan on staying together and raising our little one as a family. I really love him and I feel like we have a strong connection- plus he's been putting up with all my crazy hormones.
I'd just like a little bit of reassurance that these next five months or so aren't going to go by as slow as the first three. I feel like I have so far to go, and like it will never be over. I'm not too scared of giving birth (except for my poor vagina- which is a whole other box a' nails I'd like to talk about) ... what I'm really worried about is spending all this time waiting. I feel like the fact that I'm pregnant won't really become "real" for my guy until I'm bigger and he can feel our son/daughter kicking and moving around inside me.
Any advice on how to pass the time? What does it/did it feel like for you?
Any conversation or response is helpful! thanks. xo

 

[lizmageeful]

Hello! I'm Lizzie, I'm 16, 17 in march and im almost 25 weeks pregnant with my first baby, a little boy! I joined B+B when I was right around 16 weeks, and the time since has passed SO fast. I wasnt even really showing that much until around 18 weeks, but ever since Its been rather obvious! The wait before you know the gender is the worst. Like, ever since I found out it was a boy I've been able to obsess over everything a little more specifically. Picking a name, painting his area/getting stuff ready. Dont worry, I obsessed about the future too. My OH is going into the army after he graduates, so we had this huge fight about whether or not to continue our relationship or get married or what. He's been so patient, and i love that about him. (arnt patient OH's the best?!?!? even if they do occasionally call you hulk-smash on bad days...) Ive kinda just really thrown myself into school stuff. I want to put myself in the best position possible to get my GED or graduate early so i can be there for my baby. Also, I have work as well, so that was a nice distraction. I recommend finding something to do, like a scrapbook or a making a quilt or something. You can make something you need/want for your baby and have a distraction!

 

[jozylynn896]

Best way to pass time is Baby & Bump!
Honestly time has just flied right by!
I'm Kristina, I'm 27 weeks pregnant with my little boy
I'm with my OH too and our relationship is pretty okay right now

 

[magic93]

Hey im Lisa ,19, n 29 weeks with a boy. Itll get better trust me, i think once you pass like 18 weeks it starts to fly by. Ive been alone since 5 weeks so the beginning was sooo slow. I have a wonderful oh, but hes in jail. But that doesnt stop me from obsessing over the future either i always tell him how thingz r guna b when he comes home lol. But anyways jus hang tight things will start goin fast jus keep busy n bnb is great. If you wana talk you can feel free to message me

 

[thecurlymama]

Thanks everybody so much! It really helps to hear about other people's experiences and have somewhere to go to talk- none of my girlfriends have been very supportive lately other than my sister- and she lives really far, far away.
My mom's being really cool about everything but there is the occasional break down-which can only be expected. It's just really cool to know there's people out there who are also having similar experiences to mine.

 

[ClairAye]

Hi! :wave: My name is Clair, I'm 18 and I have a 7 and a half month old son called Jason

My bump came in at 21 weeks really, didn't round out until about 26/27 weeks though and only really started growing in the 30's
I first felt LO at 17 weeks + 5 days but nothing again for a couple weeks, it takes a while, it's normal not to feel LO until you're 20 weeks +

I didn't find out the sex so dunno about that
My pregnancy went really fast! After third tri especially, my last three weeks went crazy fast I spent my time with people as I knew I wouldn't get to see them much after and knitting etc

It also only felt real when I started feeling LO wriggling around etc, also OH felt him kick first around 23 weeks x

 

[littlemommy]

Hi my names Desiree I'm 19 and have a 6month old daughter named Aubrii!

I got a bump at 18 weeks but me and my OH were the only ones to notice it until 25weeks then I got big quick! (Due to a lot of fluid and beginning stages of preeclampsia)

I felt LO kick at 19+3 weeks and she was a wiggle worm!

It became real for my OH when we found out what we were having (2days before I could feel her move) then he started talking to my belly haha

 

[thecurlymama]

my man talks to my belly already and it's barely noticeable! (as you can see in my pic) .... haha but I still feel like he's wrapped up in playing video games with his friends, drinking and smoking weed.... He's considerate about it and I can talk to him about it openly about how I feel but I wish he'd realize that our lives are taking a big turn(for the better!) and he kinda needs to get his shit together.

GOOD NEWS THOUGH! He's finally getting his own place - with his sister and her fiance' but they're both really nice and there's space for the baby and I when that time comes... I'm feeling really relieved. *sigh*

and thank you to everybody for the replies! Keep em commin', I love hearing about new experiences and people

 

[magic93]

Thats good. And he will.. Men are immature at any agee, but I think parenting thing comes later to them. Lol my man used to talk to my belly before I even knew I was pregnant cuz he says he knew I was lol I thought he was crazy! N now he always makes me put the phone to my belly everytime too.