I'm just back form my 12 week scan and have miscarried

[KKSARAH]

So Sorry that you have had to go though this Hun

Wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I know all the emotions will be flooding in, Please dont blame yourself am sure we all have after m/c but this is not the case.

Hope you have someone to talk to, it does help so much, if you want to talk PM anytime

 

[wantababybump]

So sorry for your loss xx

 

[Faerie]

I had the same thing happen to me at a 12 week scan in 2007. I too opted for a D&C, it was the best option for me, I just wanted the baby out of me then. It meant it was all over with quickly and I was able to go on and grieve, it wasn't my first or last mc but the first time I'd got that far and I felt so cheated, not knowing something was wrong.
Personally I was glad that my close friends and family knew, my best friend was with me for the procedure as I was living in a foreign country so no family close by. It was hard having to explain to colleagues why I was having time off when they hadn't known I was pregnant.

It's such a horrid experience, but as you will see from both bnb and talking to people, something that happens to so many women.

 

[bellazucca]

Thank you all for your lovely messages, this site is a great source of support. I'm finding it hard because i know we'll need time before TTC again but my hubby goes away in Feb until May, which seems a long way off and too long for me, think i'd rather try again fairly soon. Obviously for the minute i'm just hoping nature will run its course soon and that i won't need a D&C x

oh hun I am so sorry to hear that. The same thing happened to me in May. I was supposed to be 10 wks but miscarried at 6-7. I let nature run its course and I started miscarrying the day before Mother's Day. Let me just say that if I had to do it over I would have opted for the D&C....not trying to scare you
We also told everyone that we were preggers and then had to tell them otherwise. I'm actually glad we told everyone because we had all the emotional support of everyone.
I personally think trying in Feb. is too soon. I think your body needs to rebuild itself, but that decision is totally up to you.
By no means does it mean you are less of a woman...it just makes you a stronger woman
I know this is an emotional time for you and I'm here if you need anything

 

[sam's mum]

I'm so sorry for your loss x

 

[SJK]

Im so sorry, i know what your going through xxx xxx

 

[Ivoryapril]

I did have a scan at 8 weeks, when baby was 6 weeks old. All was fine but heart must have stopped beating just after, as baby only measures 6-7 weeks (so 8-9 weeks of pregnancy). x

 

[buffycat]

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[sam76]

im so sorry for you loss, i have had 2 m/c but im not giving up xxxxx where all here for u xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[princess_t]

Sorry for your loss. hun

 

[hayley x]

I am so sorry for your loss, look after yourselves, you and your OH will get through this together. Sending you both lots of love xxx

 

[MrsJD]

So sorry for your loss.

XXXXXXXXXX

 

[celine]

Im so sorry for your loss

 

[Widger]

Feeling like you today too - gutted. I was 8.5 weeks and they measured embryo at 6 weeks with no heartbeat. I had earlier miscarriage last time so was hoping that this one was going to stick. It is tough but I'm sure it will be our time next time xx

 

[haaza123]

Really sorry for your loss. You choose which ever option you think best. I personally opted for the erpc when i had a missed miscarriage in may. The hospital told me that i would be in alot of pain if i took the tablet and they said that i would probably end up in a&e anyway as i was 8+5.

to you and your patner.
Thinking of you.
xxx

 

[helen0381]

I am so sorry for your loss and cannot begin to understand what you are going through.

Take care of yourself.

xxx

 

[JASMAK]

So sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[Sweetie]

Sending So sorry for your loss