I'm just sick of it

[Aidan's Mummy]

I am sick of getting dirty looks, people tutting and me and basically treating me like ive commited some major crime. The other day i was waiting for a bus and i was in the line. And this lady came up behind me and i just glanced at her. She looked at me, and then looked at my bump like it was a piece of shit (sorry about the language) and tutted. So that really made me wana cry but id tryed to ignore it. So i get on the bus and sit down and she gets on and gives me the dirtiest look ever and then when she goes to get off she gives me another looks and says kids these days. . i mean yeah im 16 and that is young and its not liked a planned it, but this lil man growing inside me is my world now and i just dont get why people have to make me feel so wrong for having a baby and make me feel like im nothing.

And today i got a letter from my old school saying they were holding a prize evening, to present us with our GCSE certificates this month. and i do wana go but im put off by the fact that i don't know if i will be able to handel all the stares, dirty looks, tuts and comments from all the parents

Sorry for the rant girls i just needed to get it out
xx

 

[KandKsMama]

Screw them all, do what you want to do and what is right for you and little man. I am not a teen mommy but my sister is/was. She got pg at 15 and had him at 16, he is now 8 and she is almost 25. He was the best thing that happened to her and I dont think she would be the woman she is today without having him. I'd go to the prize evening and just ignore anyone that may have dirty looks or rude things to say. I will try to think up something in my head to comment back to them should they say anything.

 

[lulu0504]

aww hun, ignore them. i know its hard but people wil always find something to criticise, I'd go to the presentation evening and hold your head high that you passed your exams while pregnant. If anyone comments then i'd say "I've passed my exams and am going to give my little man an amazing life full of love and he means everything to me so who are you to comment on my situation?"

 

[ribboninthesky]

Awww hun, sod and ignore the judgemental asses out there.

Stand tall, stand proud and show your bump off!

Just remember the next funny look or comment you get, that it is that person's problem, not yours. Upto them to deal with it, not you xxx

 

[Haaganbumpx]

Aww i feel for you hun, I know that people can be horrid but try to just ignore them, dont let it get to you. Im 18 and my boyfriend is 24, I've got a 6 month old daughter and due in march with my 2nd. My bfs kids ( aged 5 yrs old and 18 months old) also live with us and when im out and about i can tell you ppl give me the dirtiest looks lol as they think look at her but even when i am bothered i just ignore them becoz at the end of the day its ur child and its got nothing to do with them. They're probs just jealous hun XX

Rhianna

 

[princess_bump]

oh sweetie i'm so so sorry you have to put up with horrible ignorant people. i have no experience of being a teen mum but from your posts you are a lovely mature women who is just doing right by your little boy, what more can anyone ask. you hold your head up high and be proud of yourself honey x x x

 

[nightkd]

Some people are idiots. I'd personally say "He was planned"...or "The best little accident I ever had" might be quite good. Don't let them put you off doing what you want to do, because at the end of the day when you're 25 with a happy little 9 year old are they still gonna be tutting at you? Or rather, will you care? They're just narrowminded fools and not worth stressing about.

 

[MummyJade]

Just ignore them huni, you are alot better then any of them put together, just because your young doesnt mean you dont have a clue. you hold your head up high and be proud

enjoy your night xx

 

[polo_princess]

Ignoring them is easier said than done eh Heather? Dont let it get to you, no matter what you do in life people will always disagree or have their own opinions. As long as you are happy then thats all that matters, just remember that.

 

[~ Vicky ~]

Hon, i'm 22 and I get it, and I don't look young for my age either. I've taken to wearing a ring on my wedding finger when I go out to stop people staring

Just ignore them. They're people who have nothing better to do with their lives than pass judgement on others.

 

[alice&bump]

aaw hun! i know its so easy to say just ignore them, but in practise its a lot harder. i've been lucky, i havent had dirty looks and stuff, but when i first found out, a lot of people at work were just like, you silly girl.

the way i look at it is, 50/100 years ago, at your age, you'd have probs 2/3 kids, be married off and noone would think anythin of it. for some reason we now have to go out and get degrees and jobs and all that. but thats not what we all want!!

some people are born to live life for themselves and their careers, and some are born to bring little miracles in to the world. what does it matter if you're 16 or 36? you're gona be a bloody good mummy and give your little boy everythin ou can, and thats all tht matters xxxxx

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Everywhere you go, whether you are 16, 25, 30, 60 etc etc, you will be getting judged by someone for something. Try not to let it get to you, because at the end of the day, no one else's opinion matters, except your own.

 

[TashaAndBump]

Everything has already been said... YOU know that you are a good person and will be a fantastic mother. That is all that matters. Go to your results day and hold your head high. So you got pregnant - at least you didn't cop out and get an abortion (no offence meant to anyone who has had an abortion - I'm talking about in this case here, not anyone elses pregnancy experience)... You delt with the responsibility that you had created AND you kept on at school where others might have felt, "Oh well I'm a mum now might as well not have any other plans or ambitions..."

You have so much to be proud of. Don't let other's pass their shit on to you. If they can't accept that accidents happen (it's how we deal with them that counts) then they are not worth a second thought.

Big Stay strong, hun - and keep that head up high!

 

[indianorchi]

I feel so bad for you. I've had quite an easy time of it because although I'm only 18 the pregnancy has made me look more grown up somehow and I think strangers assume I'm older. It is awful how pregnant teenagers/teenage mums are treated though, without knowing anything about your situation people judge you and I think it's disgusting. Would they honestly have more respect for you if you chose to kill your child!?
When I went to pick up my A-level results I was in and out as quick as possible because I could not be bothered to stay there and face either dirty looks and bitchy comments or fake niceness from people who didn't used to care that I was alive.
The people who judge you are idiots, rather than being proud of you for making a decision not to kill an innocent child, and being prepared to sacrifice your youth for him they choose to make judgements because they don't understand. It's pathetic and if I was you I would've said something to this woman!

 

[TashaAndBump]

I've taken to wearing a ring on my wedding finger when I go out to stop people staring

This is actually a good idea! lol

I have had hardly any comments on my pregnancy / being a mum so young... I wonder if it is because I am married and they see either my husband or my wedding ring an assume I am older??

Give it a go, hun let us know how it works out / if it has any effect!

 

[Rach276]

Iv got this all to come im starting to show. Im really not ready for the comments. Im 18 but look younger because im only 4 ft 11 lol. Screw what people think babe just laugh to yourself because they got nothing better to do then pick on an expectant Mum. Your better then them and your going to get you lil boy out of it!

 

[bootyb]

People are jes ignorant fools with little if any regard for how they make us feel. And its jes something there little egos feed on. I have experienced the same when im wit my nieces or my friends little girl. People jes assume that we are crap nd jes want to sponge off the gov. benefits for the rest of our lives. That is absolutely crap! Its hard to ignore i know... but wheneva possible, which i must say is like usually never for me, try to. If not jes speak your mind nd let them know you love your little boy nd he will have the best life u can give him, nd that you aint sorry you are havin him. They are little minded fools.

 

[jillypoop]

aaw hun! i know its so easy to say just ignore them, but in practise its a lot harder. i've been lucky, i havent had dirty looks and stuff, but when i first found out, a lot of people at work were just like, you silly girl.

the way i look at it is, 50/100 years ago, at your age, you'd have probs 2/3 kids, be married off and noone would think anythin of it. for some reason we now have to go out and get degrees and jobs and all that. but thats not what we all want!!

some people are born to live life for themselves and their careers, and some are born to bring little miracles in to the world. what does it matter if you're 16 or 36? you're gona be a bloody good mummy and give your little boy everythin ou can, and thats all tht matters xxxxx

Thank god I'm not the only person that thinks like this! I'm 19 (20 in March) and feel as though I should be put in a "special home" because I'm still technically a teenager and planning (albeit secretly) our wedding, we've chosen names for a boy and girl and so tired of people assuming that because we are younger than other people we are just "stupid kids with a crush". grrrr.

PEOPLE!!!!!! You should wear a long pale outfit with a pearl necklace (i.e. dress like the housewives that are looking down their nose at you) and if someone says something to you, say "Well, I'm in the same position as you, I'm just going to do it better! And by the time I get wrinkles like yours, we'll be living on the moon, you old nosy bat"

Feel free to replace bat with something else......

sorry i have a lot of opinions and am evil today....

good luck

BTW I don't have a problem with housewives, I'm just going for the stereotypes that don't like teen mothers....

pm me if you want to chat xxx

 

[nikky0907]

Go attend the evening hun,it's your night and honestly people who know nothing about you or your life can say all they want if it makes them feel better.

You KNOW you don't have to hide from anyone!

 

[redberry3]

I agree with what everyone has said.

I think, like Alexas Mommy, you will be judged no matter what age you are on one thing or another.

If you are happy, which clearly you are, then that is all that matters. You are taking the proper steps in your life to make sure that little boy is taken care of properly.

Let's face it, people looking at you do not know you and have no right to judge.

go to your night and enjoy yourself!
xxx