Hi everyone!
I recently turned 25 and it was almost as if a switch was flicked and broodiness was turned to 'on'! Suddenly it seems to be all I can think about.
Im in a very stable and happy relationship - we've been together since we were 16 - although split up for 3 years while we both went to separate universities and went travelling separately. Since getting back together 3 years ago our relationship has gone from strength to strength.. I know he does want kids - but to him it's something that will happen sometime in the distant future, i've told him I want children before Im 30 but the reality is I think I want them sooner. We both have good jobs but he is keen to leave his to go back to university to study furniture design.. this will take 3 years then who knows how long before he establishes his own business etc!
I feel torn - on one hand I want him to fufill his career dreams - he has said that if i got pregnant he'd feel trapped in his current job. On the other hand - having a family is the most important thing I feel I can do! (I have a good job but have never been career minded).
Sometimes my broodiness threatens to overwhelm me and I have irrational thoughts about stopping taking my pills and not telling him. This scares me as I know that would be the worst idea ever and could possibly even ruin our relationship. At the same time i dont know how to persuade him there will never be a 'right' time to have a baby!!
Sorry for the long winded e-mail. Has anyone been in a similar situation/ had similar thoughts?? any advice much appreciated!! Thank you....
I recently turned 25 and it was almost as if a switch was flicked and broodiness was turned to 'on'! Suddenly it seems to be all I can think about.
Im in a very stable and happy relationship - we've been together since we were 16 - although split up for 3 years while we both went to separate universities and went travelling separately. Since getting back together 3 years ago our relationship has gone from strength to strength.. I know he does want kids - but to him it's something that will happen sometime in the distant future, i've told him I want children before Im 30 but the reality is I think I want them sooner. We both have good jobs but he is keen to leave his to go back to university to study furniture design.. this will take 3 years then who knows how long before he establishes his own business etc!
I feel torn - on one hand I want him to fufill his career dreams - he has said that if i got pregnant he'd feel trapped in his current job. On the other hand - having a family is the most important thing I feel I can do! (I have a good job but have never been career minded).
Sometimes my broodiness threatens to overwhelm me and I have irrational thoughts about stopping taking my pills and not telling him. This scares me as I know that would be the worst idea ever and could possibly even ruin our relationship. At the same time i dont know how to persuade him there will never be a 'right' time to have a baby!!
Sorry for the long winded e-mail. Has anyone been in a similar situation/ had similar thoughts?? any advice much appreciated!! Thank you....