Im not ready!!!

[winbig82]

Hey all - Is it just me or are the weeks flying by?? I still have so much to do - Im not ready yet, especially in my head - I just cant believe we are having a baby some days, I need longer - Im so scared!! Im gonna be rubbish at all this, i have no idea what im doing or what I need to be doing, what if I do something wrong?? OMG im freaking out!! xx

 

[littleANDlost]

I feel like this already and I’m weeks behind you!! I’m pretty sure it's normal to feel like that, My sister in law begged the hospital after she had her little girl to let her stay in longer and she was to scared to take her home! but we will all get there and be amazing mums. Do you have family and friends around for support? Can you sit down with any of them and just talk about everything that’s worrying you, just getting it off your chest might help? I had a huge panic the other day about bathing the baby. I realised I had no idea how to do this. My OH calmed me down by getting his mum to call me and just talk to me about it. New mums aren’t expected to know everything but we will all learn. Do you have any baby books to read? I know some of these are boring or condescending but it might help you realise you know more than you think? And are you going to be attending antenatal classes? I've heard they’re good at helping first time mums as well.
And of course theres everyone on here who are always here to help lol.

 

[Peanuts_Mom]

Dont freak out.. Women have been doing this since the beginning of time... you'll be a natural

 

[winbig82]

I have loads of support but every now and then I just sit here and panic - Im sure ill feel better when LOs room is ready - We keep doing little bits at a time at the mo due to serious lack of cash...... I think our money problems are also what scares me but there isnt much I can do to change that xx Im deffo going to the classes that have been offered to me I know what you mean, ive seen some real idiots have kids and they have turned out alright so I know I cant do any worse lol xxxx Thanks for the support girls xxxx

 

[bean85]

I wouldn't panic you have lots of time I've bought everything now apart from nursery furniture which I will order next month & am now bored I have nothing to do, it soon drags again so you have plenty of time x

 

[addie140910]

I panic about the fact that we are moving to Korea (in 2 weeks husband is military) We are 2 weeks away from being 20 weeks pregnant, still have not bought anything, aside from diapers, wipes, and a couple of Dr. Browns bottles, and have not gotten a house in korea yet, (it is impossible to do from the stateS) and all I want to do is fix little one a nursery and I can't even do that until we get over there.

I am not so much worried about the baby's care once it is born (aside from the birth, that scares me a little bit.) I have been taking care of children since I was 10 years old, from ages newborn up and so I know how to take care of a little one.

 

[shazland]

I'm the same. Really worried as the nursery isn't anywhere near done yet and I'm 27 weeks now. My DH works so hard and never has the time. I have SPD so would find it impossible to decorate it myself. Cant even go shopping to buy the things I need to get for LO. I wish I knew I was going to get this problem then I would have sorted everything out earlier whilst I still felt healthy. I dont think you can ever be fully ready for your first baby, you just have to go with it. The fact that you are worrying about it says to me you really care and will do a great job.x

 

[Onemoretime5]

It comes so naturally you wont even have to think about it, as for items as long as baby has a place to sleep, clothes to wear, diapers to soil, and bottles to drink out of thats all you really need in the begining. You will all be wonderful mothers

 

[winbig82]

Thank you all *Deep breath* Ahhhh, feeling a bit better now xx Im so glad for this website lol xxxx

 

[AllieCat]

I'm not ready either. My fiance and I are trying to buy a house and we havnt found the perfect one yet. It makes me anxious because we are already overcrowded in our 2 room apt (literally a livingroom and bedroom) and i'd lose my mind if we had to fit a baby in here too. I've had dreams we brought the baby home to the crappy little place I'll feel better when we get a house, i'm ready to be a mother, but i need some space to do it!