I'm pregnant with some issues, help?

[Wobbles]

Oh well yeah I was sorta not thinking when I wrote im sorry the correct way of what I emant to say was" Im married, I have two kids" not Married living with 2 kids and hubby.. sorry

What?

Im confused or Im reading this whole thread wrong - You posted a thread saying your father had your 2 kids and the thread was quite lenghty! And how you were scared your Dad would not give you kids back or along those lines.

So now your saying your kids do live with you?

Can someone/anyone correct me in simple terms - Im having a bad day

 

[Moraine]

I don't get it. You were posting in January about how much you wanted another baby, I thought you would be happy?

 

[coccyx]

Are you hoping to get custody back for your 2 children or do you feel they are better with your dad for the time being?

 

[Ann-Marie]

I was in care from a very early age, as were my 2 older half brothers (same Mum), and my 2 younger half sisters (same Mum). At the beginning though, we were passed from pillar to post, with various members of family, while she couldn't make up her mind whether she wanted to be a Mum or not. She didn't have the mental stability, or means, to look after any of us, and the best thing she ever did for us was give us all up. We were made wards of court, and found permanant homes, where thankfully, I have grown up in a stable family environment. It actually was more a case of us being taken away form herm then her giving us up. She ended up trying to poison us. She left my youngest sister in a motorway service station when she was 8 weeks old ( she was born a crack baby, and had to be gradually weaned off drugs). And she kidnapped us form one of the care homes we were in.

I just think we would have been better off if we had gone into care sooner, rather than later. Without all the court cases, and pshyciatrist/social worker visits... and general upset and confusion.

Luckily, I've come out the other end relatively unscarred by all of this. Thanks to a great man, I have to say. But also, because I remember being told by a social worker, when I was 14, that I shouldn't have children, as I would be just the same as my Mother. I've never forgotten that, and believe that I am an even better Mum 'because' of everything, and not 'in spite of it'.
Sorry to go on, but there is a bigger picture here than what you want for yourself. Just my Personal Opinion. Sorry if Ive offended anyone.

 

[Mervs Mum]

Spot on Anne-Marie. My Dad and his 9 siblings had similar childhood to yours. I think one of the reasons my Dad is a fantastic parent because he knows what it means not to be. (if that makes sense)

 

[shadowsilk]

I am not happy with some of the posts I always thought baby and bump was a friendly environment. Thats why I left [removed]
The children ARE not in care. I am rather frustrated that no one can understand fully without being here, but thats life. The children are in custody of my father, and the children's aid worker HAD NO right to interfere the way she did, she didn't know how to address the situation and so she jumped to the conclusion that the kids needed to be in care without properly assessing us. End of story.
Now they are in my DAD'S care because children's aid was fucking around with us. Parden my language.

I am getting the children back come summer, and I am determined and now I do have a plan to get them back so I will be editting this thread, and hopefully finding a way to close it down as I won't be needing any more advice on this topic, thank you to all who've helped me outy, and given advice. Include those who's advice I didn't quite like at the time, I'm sure it'll work out. I'm sorry if I've sounded harsh this time around I'm a bit frustrated is all.

Oh and also to make things perfectly clear.
1. I'm not a drug-person I have never touched the stuff.
2. Neither is the hubby
3. Hubby and I don't drink.
4. I dont smoke cigarettes.
5. We keep our house in an orderly manner.
6. We don't abuse/yell/throw things at/ or hit our kids or hurt them in any way, shape or form.
7. We don't neglect our kids.
8. The reason for children aids being involved is evidently unclear, perhaps someone DID call them? My mother has tried it twice now and children's aid hasn't said anything in regards to taking teh kids, until I got this "new" worker. Sort of suspicious. I was evidently sad, and depressed having moved and whatnot. They noted it, and I hadnt gotten meds for it yet but I ended up on celexa and Now I feel fine.

aka there are no more problems, and I am sure I will do fine. Thanks

 

[leeanne]

First of all, there has been nothing in your thread that has been ill-mannered. People were confused as you did post one thing and then posted another. That's about it. Other than that, people have been more than friendly in posting to your thread and trying to help you.

Sorry you feel thwarted or frustrated. Unfortunately, though, I think you are taking things out of context.

Ok, we understand now your father has them. GOT IT. But that's not the way your first thread was worded.

How can we help but not be confused?

Good luck with everything and hope all works out for you.

 

[shadowsilk]

First of all, there has been nothing in your thread that has been ill-mannered. People were confused as you did post one thing and then posted another. That's about it. Other than that, people have been more than friendly in posting to your thread and trying to help you.

Sorry you feel thwarted or frustrated. Unfortunately, though, I think you are taking things out of context.

Ok, we understand now your father has them. GOT IT. But that's not the way your first thread was worded.

How can we help but not be confused?

Good luck with everything and hope all works out for you.

I donno hun. I'm just really emotional never the less it's not an excuse I know. Im trying not to sound mean.
i'm sorry I do tend to take things out of context sometimes.
I feel like im walking on eggshells for some reason

 

[leeanne]

I donno hun. I'm just really emotional never the less it's not an excuse I know. Im trying not to sound mean.
i'm sorry I do tend to take things out of context sometimes.
I feel like im walking on eggshells for some reason

Maybe it's the nasty pregnancy hormones

Smile, take a deep breath and set your goal. If you want your children back, fight for them with all that you have

It's hard to put oneself in someone else's shoes and it must be very difficult that your children were taken away. But thank God they are in your father's care and not the system.

Is there some way your father can stand up for you? Did he not think it was wrong that the children were taken away from you?

 

[Mervs Mum]

Shadowsilk

I'm sorry you're not happy with some of the replies you had. I just think like Leanne said, that your situation is unclear. Sometime ago you were posting you were actively TTC in the TTC board. You talked about really wanting a baby and then that your husband didnt and asked for advice. You talked about concentrating on getting back your 2 kids first and perhaps getting a puppy at one point. You said you didn't take BCP because they upset your stomach then said you'd we're on BCP and forgot to take it sometimes. Next you are saying you're pregnant and not happy so I think you can forgive people for feeling a little confused.

B&B is a very very friendly environment. To my knowledge no one has ever implied that you or your husband are drug users or such. It's just difficult when someone asks for advice and then the 'facts' keep changing.

I really hope everything works out for you and your family.

 

[shadowsilk]

Maybe it's the nasty pregnancy hormones

Smile, take a deep breath and set your goal. If you want your children back, fight for them with all that you have

It's hard to put oneself in someone else's shoes and it must be very difficult that your children were taken away. But thank God they are in your father's care and not the system.

Is there some way your father can stand up for you? Did he not think it was wrong that the children were taken away from you?

He is there for me and he disagrees with the workers decisions too, thanks for the support.