Tattoo
Mum of 2 girls
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Ok, first off, this is going to get long, and is little more than me just getting everything off my chest, so please don't feel obligated to read/reply! But if anyone does have any practical advice, particularly on where I might be able to claw back a bit of time to keep my housework up-to-date or find some time for myself, I'd be very grateful!
I'm 33 weeks today and having a rough time of it with this pregnancy. I had mild HG in the first trimester, which lead to time in hospital being rehydrated and, of course, time off work. I'm a primary school teacher at a private school with high expectations, so me having time off for my "morning sickness" (ahem!) wasn't too well received! In second trimester I developed SPD, which has gotten worse and worse. I tried to avoid taking time off, despite the midwife wanting to sign me off. I finally have a physiotherapy appointment (after three referrals!) next week.
Now I'm really struggling. I have a two year old and I'm not keeping on top of everything I need to do at work, and I'm not giving my daughter the time she needs.
Getting us both dressed, fed and out the house by 7:30am is getting harder and harder. She'd prefer to sleep until about 8am, but I have to be at work by then. I get up at 6am every morning, put on the washing, eat breakfast, get dressed, wash up the breakfast things, get DD up, give her milk and fruit or toast or something (cue mum guilt over not giving her a healthy, varied breakfast every morning!), shove her and all my bags in the car, and whizz us both off either to my mum's or to nursery, then on to work. I have to be on site at school for 8 o'clock. I have a teaching student placed in my class at the moment (she finishes on Friday), so I don't have to teach many lessons, which is helping me get up-to-date on my assessments, reports, and subject leader things (I lead English for the school). I work over lunchtime (once I've done the usual duties which are expected in private schools). I dismiss the children at 3:30pm and usually work until 5pm, either marking, prepping for the next day, or writing daily reports for my teaching student.
I get home around 5:30pm. Then it's dinner, spend a bit of time with DD, her bathtime at 7 o'clock. DH puts her to bed while I wash up the dinner things, do a quick tidy up around the house, then start the school work I've brought home with me. This usually takes me until around 9:30pm. Then I'm so tired I just need to have a shower and go to bed!
Today I had a fall because I was rushing. It was already 7:45 and I still wasn't in the car. DD had thrown a tantrum and poured her milk on the sofa. I'd put her in the car (getting hard now, as she's still rear-facing, and lifting her into that carseat is hard!) and was running back into the house to grab my school bags and I tripped over my front step. I went straight down on my belly, onto a hard laminate floor. Of course, being an idiot, I still went into work (my class had a class assembly this morning...). Then someone asked if I was ok...and I burst into tears. The boss sent me home. I'm fine, baby's moving, my back hurts, but I'm not having any awful stomach pain or bleeding or anything. I know I need to rest, but that's hard with a two year old running around (mum dropped her off at home when she realised I wasn't at work today). I've sat her in front of the tv (bad mum alert! Again...) watching Frozen, just so I can sit for a few minutes.
DH isn't much help, because he leaves the house to go to work at 4:30am every morning and doesn't get home until 4pm.
I just don't see anywhere I can gain a bit of time, even to put the vacuum over, or clean the bathroom, let alone have a soak in the bath, or have a swim!
I'm 33 weeks today and having a rough time of it with this pregnancy. I had mild HG in the first trimester, which lead to time in hospital being rehydrated and, of course, time off work. I'm a primary school teacher at a private school with high expectations, so me having time off for my "morning sickness" (ahem!) wasn't too well received! In second trimester I developed SPD, which has gotten worse and worse. I tried to avoid taking time off, despite the midwife wanting to sign me off. I finally have a physiotherapy appointment (after three referrals!) next week.
Now I'm really struggling. I have a two year old and I'm not keeping on top of everything I need to do at work, and I'm not giving my daughter the time she needs.
Getting us both dressed, fed and out the house by 7:30am is getting harder and harder. She'd prefer to sleep until about 8am, but I have to be at work by then. I get up at 6am every morning, put on the washing, eat breakfast, get dressed, wash up the breakfast things, get DD up, give her milk and fruit or toast or something (cue mum guilt over not giving her a healthy, varied breakfast every morning!), shove her and all my bags in the car, and whizz us both off either to my mum's or to nursery, then on to work. I have to be on site at school for 8 o'clock. I have a teaching student placed in my class at the moment (she finishes on Friday), so I don't have to teach many lessons, which is helping me get up-to-date on my assessments, reports, and subject leader things (I lead English for the school). I work over lunchtime (once I've done the usual duties which are expected in private schools). I dismiss the children at 3:30pm and usually work until 5pm, either marking, prepping for the next day, or writing daily reports for my teaching student.
I get home around 5:30pm. Then it's dinner, spend a bit of time with DD, her bathtime at 7 o'clock. DH puts her to bed while I wash up the dinner things, do a quick tidy up around the house, then start the school work I've brought home with me. This usually takes me until around 9:30pm. Then I'm so tired I just need to have a shower and go to bed!
Today I had a fall because I was rushing. It was already 7:45 and I still wasn't in the car. DD had thrown a tantrum and poured her milk on the sofa. I'd put her in the car (getting hard now, as she's still rear-facing, and lifting her into that carseat is hard!) and was running back into the house to grab my school bags and I tripped over my front step. I went straight down on my belly, onto a hard laminate floor. Of course, being an idiot, I still went into work (my class had a class assembly this morning...). Then someone asked if I was ok...and I burst into tears. The boss sent me home. I'm fine, baby's moving, my back hurts, but I'm not having any awful stomach pain or bleeding or anything. I know I need to rest, but that's hard with a two year old running around (mum dropped her off at home when she realised I wasn't at work today). I've sat her in front of the tv (bad mum alert! Again...) watching Frozen, just so I can sit for a few minutes.
DH isn't much help, because he leaves the house to go to work at 4:30am every morning and doesn't get home until 4pm.
I just don't see anywhere I can gain a bit of time, even to put the vacuum over, or clean the bathroom, let alone have a soak in the bath, or have a swim!