So let me start off by saying, I know this is going to sound silly, but it's a really hard decision for me.. Also, it's very long, no hard feelings if you don't want to read all of this! I moved to Oregon in July 2010, I love it here, I'm in love with the trees and the weather. I'm from Hawaii, born and raised, and yes it's a beautiful place but it's so hot and the island that I'm from is like a barren waste land of nothingness, it's so dull there. There's ONE mall on the whole island which is an hour from my house. I thought I'd never move back, I was excited to settle down in Oregon with my husband and make a life for ourselves, but this pregnancy caught us off guard and we are in a hard place right now, hardest it's been since we moved out on our own.. Anyways, my parents want to do everything to help me out, they offered for us to move back to Hawaii and live with them. It wouldn't be cramped, they own a three story house and the entire bottom floor is a one bedroom, one bathroom, with a kitchen and a living room, plus it has a gorgeous view of the valley and it's own deck/patio area. They are trying SO hard to convince me to move back, they offered to ship BOTH our cars back, which is $1,075 per car they said they'd fence in the backyard for my dog, but she'd probably be so uncomfortable there since it's so warm and she's a husky. Of course she'd live inside, but in Hawaii, most houses don't have A/C and mine is not an exception, so I'm a bit worried about her, plus when you bring an animal to Hawaii, it has to go through quarantine, which is 4-6 months long and I won't be able to see her during that time.. Thats just plain outrageous. I understand they need to make sure new and dangerous diseases aren't brought over, but does it really have to take THAT long?! Even if I moved back now, I'll be like 8 months pregnant by the time she gets to come home! I can't even imagine the stress she'd go through, plus I had to leave her for 3 days and I BAWLED my eyes out when we were driving away and cried every night. My husband isn't too keen on the idea, but he's not talking about it much, he just remembers how miserable I was when I lived there and says that he thinks I'll regret the decision, and part of me thinks he's right. I was very unhappy there, but the situation is different now, this is my family I'm worried about, not just myself and my teenage needs. I am very scared that if I move back, I will never leave again, especially with a LO, but more than that I'm terrified of my poor baby having to go to the schools in Hawaii, my schools were just terrible, I would give an arm and a leg to make sure my child doesn't have to suffer through that awful education.. I know that's a long ways away, but again, I'm scared if I move back I'll never leave... It's hard enough moving an adult couple to the mainland from Hawaii, but a child too? Some good things though is I'd get to go back to my old doctor, who I LOVED, she was amazing. My doggy could go to the beach, she loves water she would die of happiness. I'd get to see my old friends, who I miss so much. I could go to college, my mom said she'd love to babysit for me. We wouldn't have to pay rent or anything (even though I'd still want to, because I'd feel much to guilty if we didn't). I know I could get my old job back, my boss loved me and told me if I ever came back I was always welcome. I know this seems like an easy decision, like I should be thrilled to move to Hawaii and be overly spoiled by my parents. But it makes me feel guilty, they're offering me too much, I feel like I've failed at being an adult and living on my own.. Plus Hawaii was a really miserable place for me, I don't know if I could explain it in a way that people would understand, but I was truly unhappy there.. I just know I need to make the right choice for my family.. I'm just so torn here.. There are way more good things to this, but my husband seems against it and it's such a blow to my pride..