In labour 8cm epidurals are amazing!

[minkymoo]

^^^^ Are you serious??

I was merely making the point that this is a thread about Kira's labour not anybody elses.

 

[hotpinkangel]

I think that to give a horror story like that while someone's in labour and obviously relieved that she's not in too much pain was really out of order. Labour can be a scary time and for that person to add that story was just awful... People should be thinking before posting. Kira, I hope everything's fine hun, and you're sat having cuddles with baby xxx

 

[Peril]

I must agree with the majority on here, Kira was (and hopefully still is) feeling good and positive about her labour. To post a story like that when the horse has bolted just seems cruel to me.

If it was Kira asking for experiences to make a choice or decision then fair enough. But she wasn't, she was stating a fact and probably looking to share her exciting experience with people she has grown to consider support and friends in some cases.

Kira Hun, i hope that your labour carries on being a positive experience for you and good luck xx

 

[newmummy2011]

just to let everyone know, i was only asking and i think there is definately a bit of bitchyness going on here. ! i have never given birth and as u can tell by my signature, im only days, if not hours away. was just asking since i expected labour to be quite draining with or without an epi. so can people get of thier high horse with trying to turn this 'debate' into an argument where its not needed to be!

 

[Mummy to be x]

just to let everyone know, i was only asking and i think there is definately a bit of bitchyness going on here. ! i have never given birth and as u can tell by my signature, im only days, if not hours away. was just asking since i expected labour to be quite draining with or without an epi. so can people get of thier high horse with trying to turn this 'debate' into an argument where its not needed to be!

Get of there high horse?!

 

[newmummy2011]

just to let everyone know, i was only asking and i think there is definately a bit of bitchyness going on here. ! i have never given birth and as u can tell by my signature, im only days, if not hours away. was just asking since i expected labour to be quite draining with or without an epi. so can people get of thier high horse with trying to turn this 'debate' into an argument where its not needed to be!

Get of there high horse?!

its a saying lol

 

[superbecks]

It's true, but I found the epidural slowed my labour. I got one at 8cm with my daughter, but they didn't know I was 8cm already. They checked after they gave it to me. They said had they known, they'd never have given it to me.

But I did throw up...and my daughter came out too quickly, and I ended up with 86 stitches. Vomitting during the pushing stage pushes all the muscles necessary for pushing a baby out, and if you push too hard, which happens when vomitting during labour, you'll end up with a massive tear like I did. As a result, I suffer from coital incontinence now and surgery is the only way to repair that issue. I can't have an orgasm without peeing everywhere, or I have to stop before climax, pee, and then work up again.

Trust me, you don't want to suffer through that.

But the epidural at 8cm slowed my labour. It was an hour and a half after I got it than my daughter was finally born. With my son, I didn't get it. They just broke my water at 7cm, and 3 minutes later, I was 10cm, and 12 minutes after that, my son was born. Had I known, I'd have never gotten the epidural. I don't plan on it this time either.[/QUOT

This is not necessarily because of the epidural. Anybody can vomit during labour, it's quite a common thing, hence the OP not eating at this late stage. Anybody can also push their baby out too quickly and tear........the epidural actually normally has the opposite effect. Also can I just say that having your baby an hour and a half after being 8cm isn't slow at all. They allow an hour for each cm to dilate, then an hour for descent and then an hour to push. So actually it was pretty quick. To the OP, i'm glad your comfortable at 8cm and are relaxed, good luck xxxx

 

[MarchMummy11]

My feet are firmly on the ground, I think we were all simply pointing out that it was a really horrible thing to write when someone is relaxed, calm and about to go through a completely new and scary thing like labour. The added worry of what that woman wrote was just uneccessary.

Lets put it another way...how would you of felt if you were Kira and you were nice and relaxed and happy....and you then saw that post? You're seriously telling me that you would of thought it was fine and would of been greatful for her writing that?

 

[Mummy to be x]

just to let everyone know, i was only asking and i think there is definately a bit of bitchyness going on here. ! i have never given birth and as u can tell by my signature, im only days, if not hours away. was just asking since i expected labour to be quite draining with or without an epi. so can people get of thier high horse with trying to turn this 'debate' into an argument where its not needed to be!

Get of there high horse?!

its a saying lol

I no what it is!

 

[Armywife]

Not a particularly nice story thrown in randomly there when you've just announced that you've had a late epi yourself.....but hoping it's all done with now and you're on

I don't think the story was thrown in randomly. It's important to get a balanced view on things like this and I for one, see no point for censorship. It's a intervention, and as such, women should be aware that things can and do go wrong also. It's weird that the medical establishment plays down that side of things.

OP wasn't asking for advice or experiences, she is in labour and was saying she feels relaxed and good. I think it was an entirely inappropriate place to post that story. Labour is scary enough as it is without hearing horror stories in the middle of it!

For what its worth i had my epi at 8cm and although it only worked a little bit i didn't suffer any lasting side effects from it. Good luck hun!

Well. to be honest, does it matter when the story got wrote?! everyone on this site has seen a few bad storys from other people from this site. she cant be suffering that much as she is 8CM dilated and on bloody bnb! people come on this site to get info and experiences and a chat. if people want to throw in thier experiences, then let them! if she was that botherd about being in labour at 8cm dilated, the last thing she should be doing is being on BNB!

Thats the point exactly! The epi has worked well for her, she's in labour and now managing to enjoy it and someone decides that it's an appropriate time to post a horror story about late epis?!

The mere fact that you could suggest someone who is in labour and 8cm dilated may not be 'bothered' is beyond ridiculous and simply by making that sort of ignorant comment you have shown me there really is no point reasoning with you so i will leave it there.

There is a time and a place for everything, including sharing bad experiences and this isn't it.

 

[Peril]

just to let everyone know, i was only asking and i think there is definately a bit of bitchyness going on here. ! i have never given birth and as u can tell by my signature, im only days, if not hours away. was just asking since i expected labour to be quite draining with or without an epi. so can people get of thier high horse with trying to turn this 'debate' into an argument where its not needed to be!

Get of there high horse?!

its a saying lol

I no what it is!

I think the intonation is that there is more than one person on their high horse on this thread.

 

[Char.due.jan]

Oh dear! I'm sure Kira won't want to come back and read this!! It was meant to be a support thread for her labour, not a place to post negative experiences especially when shes already had the epi! It would be different if she came on asking for advice but she didn't she came for support!

I'm sure you've had your LO now Kira hope your birth was as you wanted, judging by your OP it was xx

 

[newmummy2011]

OK. nothing i said was intended as 'argumentative' or bitchy etc

 

[charlotte1990]

I also agree with the majority if this was my thread and someone had written that i would now be well and truly s*****g myself. If kira had asked for other peoples experiences that would be another story. Giving birth is a scary time anyway especially with your first you dont need to be reading things like that when you was having such a positive time.
As for been on BnB whilst in labour... i dont see why not like mummytobe said she shared her journey through pregnancy with the women on here shes just letting them know whats going on. If im comfortable enough i will be doing exactly the same.

Anyways good look kira i hope you have your LO in your arms now and you had a perfect labour xx

 

[Fabby]

Kira, iam sure your little girl is now here in your arms. xx

 

[tas1]

Lol love all the hormonal women on here but do agree with everyone else,show your support or say nothing!

Hope all goes well and can't wait to read your birth story x

 

[bibswy]

Hope you enjoyed your epi and had good labour! xx

 

[Kimboowee]

Woooaaahhhh!!!

If you've got nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all?

Glad your epi's working well (I had one at 8cm myself!) and you have your baby soon!

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Holy crap people, I've only made it to page two but if you have an issue with ME and what I posted, take it up with ME, don't post it, spew it and attack me oh so discreetly as to not mention names like I'm not aware you're talking about me, or as if I'm not going to read it and become offended. How about before attacking what I posted, ask me to confirm what I meant and my intentions behind it? Geez.

It's a good thing her doctor told her not to eat because it CAN happen that the epidural can make you throw up during the pushing stage if you get it too late. My story was to explain what happens during the pushing stage if you throw up, that it pushes on the necessary muscles to deliver a baby. My story was to confirm what the doctor said, not to effin scare her.

She should be glad and thankful that her doctor passed on that information to her. I only wish mine had too, so I could have saved myself the pain of recovering and four long years of embarassment.

I hope her labour went well and that she's holding her little baby, and that nothing too dramatic happened, by my god ladies, you should be ashamed of yourselves for blatantly attacking a person for so many pages when she's unable to defend herself. Next time, confirm the intentions behind the post before attacking, send a PM with your concerns over the post or take the damn attack to the debate boards. Grow up.

 

[Armywife]

Holy crap people, I've only made it to page two but if you have an issue with ME and what I posted, take it up with ME, don't post it, spew it and attack me oh so discreetly as to not mention names like I'm not aware you're talking about me, or as if I'm not going to read it and become offended. How about before attacking what I posted, ask me to confirm what I meant and my intentions behind it? Geez.

It's a good thing her doctor told her not to eat because it CAN happen that the epidural can make you throw up during the pushing stage if you get it too late. My story was to explain what happens during the pushing stage if you throw up, that it pushes on the necessary muscles to deliver a baby. My story was to confirm what the doctor said, not to effin scare her.

She should be glad and thankful that her doctor passed on that information to her. I only wish mine had too, so I could have saved myself the pain of recovering and four long years of embarassment.

I hope her labour went well and that she's holding her little baby, and that nothing too dramatic happened, by my god ladies, you should be ashamed of yourselves for blatantly attacking a person for so many pages when she's unable to defend herself. Next time, confirm the intentions behind the post before attacking, send a PM with your concerns over the post or take the damn attack to the debate boards. Grow up.

I have no problem saying i have a problem with what YOU wrote and i wasn't trying to be 'oh so discreet'! I thought i was being quite clear as to what had annoyed me.

There is no excuse for posting what you did to someone who is in labour. It was a thoughtless thing to do and was clearly going to scare her. This is a forum, i'm not going to pm someone everytime i disagree with something that has been said.