Sunshine12
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How soon after baby born would you be happy for in-laws to visit and stay over?
Scenario is that my inlaws stay nowhere near us so if they are visiting they need to stay over ( we cant have them staying in a hotel as there is more than enough room here). Me and OH just had a blazing row because he made an off the cuff comment about how they will want to come up right after baby is born to which I have said not a chance and he is not happy and thinks Im being unreasonable. Ive said to him that I want them to see baby but there is no way that they are coming to visit and stay over, for example, a couple of days after baby is here. He has said that if they ask he is not saying no as it would offend them.
Bottom line is I will put my foot down if it comes to it nearer the time if I have to but I wanted to check if you think Im being unreasonable. There is every chance my mum and dad will pop round because they live must closer by and wont be staying over but I want to make sure Im being fair about it.
Oh and there isnt one set of inlaws there are 2 and his dad is married again so it will be 2 different sets of visitors and 2 different times.
I feel like I have to be in a routine with baby first before I have to start having people staying the night.
Thoughts?? x
Scenario is that my inlaws stay nowhere near us so if they are visiting they need to stay over ( we cant have them staying in a hotel as there is more than enough room here). Me and OH just had a blazing row because he made an off the cuff comment about how they will want to come up right after baby is born to which I have said not a chance and he is not happy and thinks Im being unreasonable. Ive said to him that I want them to see baby but there is no way that they are coming to visit and stay over, for example, a couple of days after baby is here. He has said that if they ask he is not saying no as it would offend them.
Bottom line is I will put my foot down if it comes to it nearer the time if I have to but I wanted to check if you think Im being unreasonable. There is every chance my mum and dad will pop round because they live must closer by and wont be staying over but I want to make sure Im being fair about it.
Oh and there isnt one set of inlaws there are 2 and his dad is married again so it will be 2 different sets of visitors and 2 different times.
I feel like I have to be in a routine with baby first before I have to start having people staying the night.
Thoughts?? x