In-laws!!!

[TashaAndBump]

*hugs*

This sounds like a really tricky and painful situation to have to deal with. I understand you now wanting to cause any arguments, but you are right to want to sort things out now, rather than later, as the longer you leave it the harder it will be.

You need to remember that this is your baby - yours and your other half's - You have the right to raise the baby as you want, and to make it perfectly clear how much support will be appreciated and how much will not.

I reccomend sitting down with your partner and discussing how you feel about all this. If you decide to act (which I think you need to, tbh) you should talk about how you will approach it as a couple. Perhaps as it's his family who are the 'problem' your boyfriend should be the one to tell them that they can come and visit but that you will both be tired after the birth and won't really be up for long visits. That way you can't be accused of being problematic or shutting them out.

I know that you aren't a horrible person and don't want to stop your inlaws from seeing their new grandchild or nephew/neice; you do have the right to take some time for you and your partner and baby to adjust to life as a family together.


Trust me, there are very few women who are up for visitors straight away after the birth - epecially ones who plan on staying with you! And it is perfectly fine for you to say "no". Giving birth and being a new mum is exhausting - make it clear early on that you will need lots of time and space, but that that doesn't mean you don't want them to see your new baby.

I hope things work out well for you, hun - keep us updated

Good luck!

 

[mummy2b]

I spoke to my boyfriend about everything and he has promised me that he is going to speak to his family! I made it clear to him that I do not want all his family following us home and trying to bring our baby up themselves! He agreed with me and I just hope now that they listen to him! I cannot stand his sister as she has made me feel very uncomfertable the whole way through this pregnancy, and I intend to make my point very clear if she doesn't back off!
I am trying to keep calm about their attitude but I just don't get why they are making this so hard for me and my boyfriend! xx

 

[TashaAndBump]

I bet they don't even realise they're doing it.

Be firm.

Good luck! x

 

[maddiwatts19]

Bless you hun!!. You need to do what feels right for you, OH and bubs!. They're probably just jealous! I know my mums going to be the same!. And Paige is a lovely name!! So to them really!! hehe!!
xx

 

[tb42]

i guess lots of woman have this problem and i'm one of them ( you are not alone ). my MIL is very bossy and fussy about every single thing. She's not happy the way we live and every time she comes here she would change what she thinks it's better for us even i told her it's fine for me , what i'm having is ok i don't need the better thing. i mean like my no-name clothes is scruffy and she thinks brand name is better, she even told me to throw some of my clothes away because it's not nice ( her opinion ).We live thousands of mi9les away but she would come here 3-4 times a year and stay 1 month each time which is too much. I'm planning to go home in April when she comes maybe just for a week or so.
we have 2 puppies and she said don't know how we can take care of the baby and the dogs and this house is too small, the kitchen is too small,there's no swimming pool or big garden and the washing machine we have is rubbish. we have baby names already for girl and boy ( i'm only 13 weeks but we thought about this quite a while ago and we're not telling her until the baby's named )
The problem is she thinks everyone's not living the way it should be and she tries to change it, she still thinks of her son as a baby too always says THAT"S MY BOY ( if he does something good ), she keep saying the baby need good stuffs not cheap stuffs, we will need to disinfected everything we use every time we use it and i should clean the house every single day because it's not hygienic.She would pick all the leaves that fall from the plants in the garden ( not joking )
The big problem is whatever you tell her, she doesn;t take any notice, just does what she wants and if you say anything even as nice as possible it would upset her and it's another problem. Well, another news is she's gonna buy a house close to us and she wants to stay here 6 months a year. OH NO!!!!