In My Opinion This Is Insane!

[Aidan's Mummy]

Yeah pushing is a huuuuuge relief
xx

 

[Dragonfly]

I mean I just don't understand why anyone would choose to have a c-section.. my mom had an emergency c-section with me and she still has bladder problems to this day.

Well when I was lying there screaming at 10 cm and my baby wouldnt come out as he was stuck , his shoulders felt like they where about to bust out my bum I had to sign that form It was very traumatic and I went through hell. Its the last option in my hospital and they called in docs as both me and baby where to stressed. If c section hadnt of been offered I dare to think what could have happened. I dont have bladder probs or any from it, perhaps I was just lucky not to but I did take a long time to recover. I am just trying to say when there isnt an option left and your screaming and your other half is in tears and they reccomemnd it as an absolute last but must then what you going to do?? I also was over due and possible pre eclempsia thats why I was induced to. So much for my nice natural birth plan. I was traumatised for months and couldnt even talk about it for crying.

Thats a totally different situation That was the safest way to get baby out.

wasnt sure which she meant as she did say her mum had an emergancy one. Elative they will not do in my hospital.

 

[Alexandra91]

I think it should be completely up to the mother how she decides she wants to give birth, her body, her choice? You shouldnt judge people who want to have a c section as there are personal reasons why they would opt for this. Im going to try and go natural, im really squemish and the thought of being cut open makes me feel sick lol! but i dont think that people who go for c sections are wrong, if thats what makes them feel comfortable then leave them alone!!

 

[annawrigley]

I've heard women say they want a c-section because they dont want their vagina to be loose.

thats a complete myth i was a bit scared of that too but tbh it makes it tighter if anything

It doesn't hurt as much as you'd think. The pushing is a kinda 'nice' feeling anyway and you feel relief when you push.

agreed

 

[msp_teen]

I think it should be completely up to the mother how she decides she wants to give birth, her body, her choice? You shouldnt judge people who want to have a c section as there are personal reasons why they would opt for this. Im going to try and go natural, im really squemish and the thought of being cut open makes me feel sick lol! but i dont think that people who go for c sections are wrong, if thats what makes them feel comfortable then leave them alone!!

I'm not judging them, I'm just stating that I think its kinda crazy to want to have a major surgery which comes with so many more risks! Its different when you have to have one because you don't have a choice, you are doing what best for you and your baby, but when you are just doing it so that you can know the exact date of your child's birth, etc. I don't think its right to be done like that, for the simple fact that your risking have so many things go wrong when you don't have to. I'm not trying to be judgmental I'm just trying to state my opinion.

 

[Jas029]

OK.. I don't mean to sound angry or anything but some of you are CRAZY! "I want a c-section I can handle a little longer recovery time"
I'm not trying to start any arguments but I want you guys to see it from my perspective since I actually had one..
Speaking from experience.. A c-section is a little more then a few extra days in the hospital.. I couldn't sit up on my own for like a WEEK and after that it still hurt soo bad when I tried.. 8 weeks PP I still get pains from sitting up!
The first couple days are a complete nightmare.. You have to remember you would be recovering from a MAJOR surgery.. I had to have help with everything.. And yes I felt like I didn't really bond with Riley.. It was almost 2 hours after the surgery before I finally got to hold him and even then I was still numb from the chest down and couldn't move or comfort him when he started balling in my arms.. I would of much much MUCH rather pushed him out into the world but I wasn't progressing in labor and was stuck at 6cm..
The bonding ofcorse was even worse since Riley ended up in the ICU but I remember having a pillow or something just to hold him because the slightest pressure on my incision was incredibly painful..

Now I'm not saying that giving birth naturally isn't painful.. believe me I was in full-force labor I felt the pain of contractions.. It's just it is alot faster for you to recover..
My mother had my brother naturally and I was a c-section baby so she's gone both ways and she says its the same amount of pain just different places..


Now, for those of you that are scared of giving birth.. that's completely normal! You just have to remember that after you push them out it's a huge relief and (normally) a fairly quick recovery.. Because trying to take care of a newborn and recover from a major surgery isn't easy! I remember having to yell and yell for my parents to come pick up Riley and help me up if I laid down with him.. for weeks it was like that!


Not to mention keep in mind if you go in for a c-section before your body naturally goes into labor your baby might not be ready to come into this world just yet and end up in the ICU (Ofcorse with todays technology they can much more accurately predict how far along you are so that's not to likely but it can still happen)


I'm not trying to cause arguments or anything I just want you to hear my personal experience with having a c-section as it's much more then just longer recovery time..

EDIT: Also, I remember for several days after my c-section I just wanted to ball my eyes out I just wished so badly I could go back and try again and keep trying for a naturally delivery and do it perfectly that time and not have him in the ICU.. It was a very hard time for me and I knew in my heart there is nothing I could of done differently to change how it all went but I still wanted to just go back and try again..
Even to this day I still wished I was able to have him vaginally.

 

[Dragonfly]

Jas I know how you feel. I did feel however that i didnt have a proper birth and wanted to turn back time to have the birth I was suppose to have that was suppose to be nice I had read other mothers talking abot in here. I balled so hard to. I couldnt hodl my baby after as I was being sown up my other half had him for a while. I was so scared thinking it could end in c section and that few mins in between rushing me to get it and docs being called at 12am I was petrified! I didnt like this idea of being cut open. But I felt no pain with the spinal I was given, And the epidural I was given at the start of induction didnt work and I was terrified of them needles going in my back, I had a bad back for 8 months and still get pins and needles where they had that needle. Also got no help fromm nurses who forced me to walk on my own and I couldnt get to the loo once for the pain and ended up peeing my bed. That was degrading and the remarks about how some midwifes had c sections and didnt have as much pain as me. I couldnt hardly walk to the car either, I choked on my drinnk a few times, oh daer god! felt like I was busting stiches and the muscles all sore from labour. breathing was hard. I wish I had of had a normal birth and I hope I have a normal one this time. Everyone is different what they want thats just my side of the story, I really do wish it didnt happen that way but it did and I cant change it. Births never go as planned I hear so wonder what number 2 will be like eeek! Perhaps this time it will go the other way. Quick labour in and out (oh I wish).

 

[Natasha2605]

I suppose each to their own but IMO I think C-sections should only be done when necessary, i.e when the mother and/or child are in danger. As bizarre as it might sound i'm quite looking forward to going into labour and I'm excited to think what I'll get at the end of all the pain and pushing xx

 

[Marzipan_girl]

I agree its best to not judge other mummys choices...its just the start of a looonnngg 18+ years of being judged and made to feel like a bad mother for what WE feel is right for US...and it isn't really anyone elses business!

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

I agree its best to not judge other mummys choices...its just the start of a looonnngg 18+ years of being judged and made to feel like a bad mother for what WE feel is right for US...and it isn't really anyone elses business!

No ones judging you hun.. Just not everyone is agreeing with you and can't see why anyone would want to put them self through it. You said you've gone private so you'll get that choice and that's fine if that's what you choose.. I just can't fathom why you WANT to put yourself through something like that... Everyone is scared of giving birth.. I'm terrified!! I'm the biggest wimp I know when it comes to pain.. Even a blood test is hard for me because I fear the pain of it.. But childbirth is the most natural thing in the world.. I just can't see why anyone would want to go against mother nature if they don't have to.. If you get pregnant.. You give birth.. It's inevitable you can't avoid it.. How you CHOOSE to do it is you're choice.. But that doesn't mean everyone is going to think it's the right choice.. For medical or emergency reasons fine.. For you're own convenience.. Sorry but IMO it's selfish.. I'm not trying to start an argument and I'm not asking people to agree with me but that's how I see it

 

[Jas029]

I agree its best to not judge other mummys choices...its just the start of a looonnngg 18+ years of being judged and made to feel like a bad mother for what WE feel is right for US...and it isn't really anyone elses business!

I'm not judging or saying anyones a bad mother.. I was just saying that if you wanted one to avoid the pain of childbirth was rather stupid because from my personal experience a cesarean is QUITE painful afterwords..
I was just saying that its not the "pain-free" way..

 

[katehappy]

Well when I was lying there screaming at 10 cm and my baby wouldnt come out as he was stuck , his shoulders felt like they where about to bust out my bum I had to sign that form It was very traumatic and I went through hell. Its the last option in my hospital and they called in docs as both me and baby where to stressed. If c section hadnt of been offered I dare to think what could have happened. I dont have bladder probs or any from it, perhaps I was just lucky not to but I did take a long time to recover. I am just trying to say when there isnt an option left and your screaming and your other half is in tears and they reccomemnd it as an absolute last but must then what you going to do?? I also was over due and possible pre eclempsia thats why I was induced to. So much for my nice natural birth plan. I was traumatised for months and couldnt even talk about it for crying

thats completely different though.. you didn't really have choice there. I mean girls actually deciding from the get-go that they're going to get cut.

 

[Love Bunny]

In my opinion I think elective cesarians when they aren't medically necessary are rediculous.

I mean for gods sake man up to childbirth ladies!! Whats the point in having babies if you aren't going to give birth to them!? Its all part and parcel of being pregnant. There are women who would give their right arm to have a natural birth but can't!

I think its incredibly vain that women chose cesarians over natural births when there really is no need.

What would you have done x amount of years ago when there was no other option than to push the baby out?!

Really !!! These women need to get a grip and embrace childbirth for whatever it may bring.

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

In my opinion I think elective cesarians when they aren't medically necessary are rediculous.

I mean for gods sake man up to childbirth ladies!! Whats the point in having babies if you aren't going to give birth to them!? Its all part and parcel of being pregnant. There are women who would give their right arm to have a natural birth but can't!

I think its incredibly vain that women chose cesarians over natural births when there really is no need.

What would you have done x amount of years ago when there was no other option than to push the baby out?!

Really !!! These women need to get a grip and embrace childbirth for whatever it may bring.

You hit the nail on the head there!!

Couldn't agree more

 

[Zebra Stars]

in my opinion i think elective cesarians when they aren't medically necessary are rediculous.

I mean for gods sake man up to childbirth ladies!! Whats the point in having babies if you aren't going to give birth to them!? Its all part and parcel of being pregnant. There are women who would give their right arm to have a natural birth but can't!

I think its incredibly vain that women chose cesarians over natural births when there really is no need.

What would you have done x amount of years ago when there was no other option than to push the baby out?!

Really !!! These women need to get a grip and embrace childbirth for whatever it may bring.

you hit the nail on the head there!!

Couldn't agree more

agree 100%

 

[Jas029]

In my opinion I think elective cesarians when they aren't medically necessary are rediculous.

I mean for gods sake man up to childbirth ladies!! Whats the point in having babies if you aren't going to give birth to them!? Its all part and parcel of being pregnant. There are women who would give their right arm to have a natural birth but can't!

I think its incredibly vain that women chose cesarians over natural births when there really is no need.

What would you have done x amount of years ago when there was no other option than to push the baby out?!

Really !!! These women need to get a grip and embrace childbirth for whatever it may bring.

 

[Alexandra91]

saying that you are not judging isnt true, by saying that ladies who opt for a c-section are selfish and wrong is judging! i think we all get enough of that from other people who give their 'opinions' on us being young mums and for us to start on each other over things that are irrelavent to anyone but the mother who is giving birth is silly! People have bad experiences whether they give bith naturally or by c section and if it was really such a terrible thing then it would not be offered! Doctors know what they are doing! I think its sad when a women would love to give birth naturally but cant and I hope i'm not one of them but its 100% mothers choice.

 

[Lauraxamy]

Each to their own really if they're given the choice then they have the right to do what they feel is best. I wouldn't choose to have one but that's because I hate hospitals, needles and the thought of being cut open scares the absolute crap out've me and if some women are like that about natural births I can completely understand and then it's probably best they do opt for a c-section.

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

saying that you are not judging isnt true, by saying that ladies who opt for a c-section are selfish and wrong is judging! i think we all get enough of that from other people who give their 'opinions' on us being young mums and for us to start on each other over things that are irrelavent to anyone but the mother who is giving birth is silly! People have bad experiences whether they give bith naturally or by c section and if it was really such a terrible thing then it would not be offered! Doctors know what they are doing! I think its sad when a women would love to give birth naturally but cant and I hope i'm not one of them but its 100% mothers choice.

It is selfish.. I'm not judging though it's my personal opinion.. If a woman REGARDLESS of age wants to have a c-section just because she doesn't like the thought of being in pain over birth then yes it is selfish. The amount of people I know who have had c-sections because they didn't have a choice (Emergency or for health reasons) is shocking and EVERY ONE of those women said if they had the choice they would have gone for a natural birth because they didn't feel they bonded with their baby intill they were recovered. For someone to choose to put themselves through that and run the risk of not being able to bond for recovery reasons IN MY OPINION is vain and selfish.. If these women are REALLY that scared about giving birth and going through that moments pain for a lifetime pleasure then they should take more care not to get pregnant in the first place and yes I know accidents happen but even so if that's the case they should take every precaution available if their really that "scared"

 

[fantastica]

In my opinion I think elective cesarians when they aren't medically necessary are rediculous.

I mean for gods sake man up to childbirth ladies!! Whats the point in having babies if you aren't going to give birth to them!? Its all part and parcel of being pregnant. There are women who would give their right arm to have a natural birth but can't!

I think its incredibly vain that women chose cesarians over natural births when there really is no need.

What would you have done x amount of years ago when there was no other option than to push the baby out?!

Really !!! These women need to get a grip and embrace childbirth for whatever it may bring.

Sorry for not having read the whole thread...and I do agree with what you've said here...but just to play devil's advocate...you could say the same for different options of pain relief...and bfing v ffing...none of these would have been an option either.

I don't know people's reasons for choosing a section, so gonna try not to judge..don't think i'd personally do it...but surely most people would have a 'reason' for doing so? Is there more risk with a c-section?!

Having said all that i'd possibly elect to have one in the future...but Jacob had shoulder dystocia and I had a few complications afterwards too..guess it would depend on future birthweight etc.