in need of help

[babyndme]

Im not really a person to open up to any1, cant even 2 the HV. But last night FOB said that he really wanted an abortion, it has really upset me because im totally against abortions as i have lost a child before. Its not the first time he's said it, but when i was pregnant he didnt mention it to me but went around telling evry1 else, even when we were together. I live with my mum and dad, and we hav come 2 a decision that FOB is not allowed anywhere near me or LO, becouse now he's just bulling me, nd im really scared i might go ill!! do you think im doing the right thing? cz im really stressing out over this, havent slept since god knows when, nd dont eat much xxx

 

[lou_w34]

Hun if you dont want an abortion, then dont have one... simple. Its not worth doing something that you will regret later on if life, especially if you dont actually want to do it.

I think your parents are right not to let him near you for a bit, especially if he is trying to bully you into it. You need time to clear your head a bits.

Easier said then done i know, but try not to stress to much, youve made your decision and that should be it. Try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy

 

[babyndme]

sorry, i didnt have an abortion....i carried on with the pregnancy, and now the little boy is here xxx happy and healthy xx

 

[lou_w34]

Ohhh sorry! I got confused and thought you were going to have a second baby

Hmmmm he's being an arse, id just ignore him, and carry on with you lives, if he wants to act like a child then let him. The fact is, your lil boy is here now, and he will just have to deal with that

 

[purpledahlia]

I was a bit confused there aswell, but cleared up now.
I think you dont need him, baby doesnt need him, he sounds like the type to hold it against the baby sub-conciously, the fact he didnt want him. He is here, healthy, happy, loved and cared for, all that baby needs is you!

 

[xxannxx]

I think its completely the right decision to keep him away for a while at least. You have enough to deal with at minute and need to concentrate on yourself and baby, and making sure you are both happy and healthy, and he is definately not helping that. Why would he, and how could he say that, even if he did think it at time, now that LO is here??? He is being a complete idiot, maybe having sometime himself to think will wise him up (although don't hold your breath).

 

[Missy.]

What an awful thing to say! Hun just ignore him, he is being an arse. Just concentrate on that beautiful son of yours and don't even give FOB a second thought, he just isn't worth it. x

 

[Pyrrhic]

So after your son is born, he's told you he would rather have had an abortion?

What an absolutly disgusting excuse for a man. I wouldn't go anywhere near him. You are far better than him, and you do not need someone like that in your life.

 

[babyndme]

Thankyou all 4 the nice replies. My little 1 decided to smile today, witch has made me the proudest mum on earth! And ive realised that ive done evrything right and its only me and the little man to think about! Really happy that i have found this website. And sorry for the confusion at the start lol xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

glad your getting on track, he really doesnt deserve anything your ex after saying that. we are always here if you need a rant!