Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[angel229]

Shelby,

Your girls are absolutely beautiful, I am so glad they are doing well. I can't believe how much hair they have. Can you imagine how much they would have had if you had been term, lol x x

 

[ShelbyLC]

Shelby,

Your girls are absolutely beautiful, I am so glad they are doing well. I can't believe how much hair they have. Can you imagine how much they would have had if you had been term, lol x x

Thank you!

I've been joking that they would have come out with their hair braided down their backs if we'd gone to term!

 

[JustinsMama]

I know this really isn't the place for it, but I wanted to give you guys an update on my girls.

We went to the NICU tonight and when we went to see Tegan, she wasn't there! We were very confused, until the nurses told us that she had been moved to "The Annex", which is the last place NICU babies go before they go home! T is currently weighing 3lbs 0.8oz and on room air.

https://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab294/shelabama/T2small_zpsc267efe7.jpg

Britton is back on the nasal cannula after the nurse and I heard her making an odd noise yesterday while she was breathing. The doctors did a chest x-ray on her this morning, and everything is looking clear, so we aren't really sure what that noise was all about. I don't know her weight today (her nurse hadn't weighed her yet) but yesterday she was 3lbs 1.6oz.

https://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab294/shelabama/B4small-1_zpsa36984d7.jpg


Sorry, just had to share!

Your girls are adorable! Congrats Shelby!

 

[JustinsMama]

Question for you lovely ladies.

Cervix is very thin at this point but not dilated (probably because cerclage is still in). I am having my removal next Monday at 35+4 because they are concerned I will dilate through it if left in place (I dilated early with my daughter). Baby is very low. OB is concerned she will break my water during McDonald cerclage removal. How high is this risk? I can't find any info on it, really.

I want to take it very easy on Sunday, to see if I can get baby to move up a little in the birth canal so he's not so low. Is that a dumb plan? Is that not realistic?

 

[baby_maybe]

I'm not sure on the risks of the sac actually being broken, but personally I'd rather have a low baby if they were to go. If your baby is high when the waters go it can lead to an increase risk of complications like a prolapsed cord, not all that common, but if the baby is low that risk is further diminished as the head effectively plugs the cervix and stops anything else from being down there.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

I know this really isn't the place for it, but I wanted to give you guys an update on my girls.

We went to the NICU tonight and when we went to see Tegan, she wasn't there! We were very confused, until the nurses told us that she had been moved to "The Annex", which is the last place NICU babies go before they go home! T is currently weighing 3lbs 0.8oz and on room air.

https://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab294/shelabama/T2small_zpsc267efe7.jpg

Britton is back on the nasal cannula after the nurse and I heard her making an odd noise yesterday while she was breathing. The doctors did a chest x-ray on her this morning, and everything is looking clear, so we aren't really sure what that noise was all about. I don't know her weight today (her nurse hadn't weighed her yet) but yesterday she was 3lbs 1.6oz.

https://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab294/shelabama/B4small-1_zpsa36984d7.jpg


Sorry, just had to share!

See Shelby! They are beautiful and they were worth it all. How far were u when you had them again?

 

[lch28]

aww hun, thank you so much for sharing your story. first let me say im so sorry you had to go through that. My ex has had so many episodes of this same behavior, controlling, sexually and emotionally abusive, you name it he has said it to me. He isolated me from every single friend i have ever had. I can not believe the way your ex husband acted when your baby girl was in the NICU. how awful and its so inspiring that you held it all together for her. Its really hard when your financially dependent on the abuser, because they constantly use it against you. Your story has most def inspired me =] Does he ever see your daughter, pay child support? I am glad that you found someone who treats you right sweet heart

Ich, where do I start? My husband always tells me to never be afraid to tell your story because my testimony may help someone. You may be that someone. I was married toy first daughters dad and it turned into a living hell. I supported the both of us while I was pregnant and before and after her birth. He was controlling, verbally abusive, sexually abusive, and just nasty to me. He cheated had a short temper and I found out he had another child I didn't know about. My daughter was born at 26 weeks and 6 days. She spent 10 and. Half weeks in the nicu. He was jealous and didn't want me to go see her everyday. Long story short I got enough guts to leave because he got violent and threatened to tke my daughter from me ( as if he could provide for her). I finally divorced him. It got even worse after! I moved back in with mom. I had no money and couldn't provide. God provided. Every time I turned around someone blessed me with clothes or money or food or diapers. Moral of the story, you do what's best FOR YOUR BABY. If he throws money at you, take it and keep moving. He's not doing you a favor, he's contributing to the well being of your baby. He's doing it in a nasty way but take it and keep going sweetie. At some point he will be in child support I hope and that will help a little. If your mom can keep you stay and when you can get part time the full time work. My daughter required a lot of my time because she was so preemie. Things WILL work out for you Hun. I don't push beliefs and religion on anyone but prayer to God helped me and gave me his super strength to go on and I did! My church was so supportive. The members offered to babysit, prayed for us, gave her necessities... It was a miracle. Keep your head up Ich. Your emotional and worried which is Normal!!! Wait until after the baby and just let things stay the way they are now. You're number one priority is the baby and him getting him here safely! ***hugs*** just like I let the stories on here about IC inspire and encourage me, let my relationship with my ex inspire you. If I could do it with a sick baby then I know you can do it with your healthy little one! I'll be praying for you guys and if you want more info just inbox me. Xxxx

 

[lch28]

Lovely, brave, strong Ich - you did the most difficult part when deciding to leave your baby's father. That was far from easy, and something most women in unhappy relationships would struggle to do. If you stop and think about the guts and determination you had in doing that, then maybe you'll see just how strong you are

The other point of course is that if you could make that move for the sake of a baby you haven't even met yet, just think how you're gonna feel about him once he's born. Your love and passion for his safety and well being will surpass any emotional pressure coming from your ex - you will be like a lioness protecting her cub lol. There is no feeling like it, and these emotional wrangles will pale into insignificance

thanks lizzie, that was so very sweet of you. I can not wait to meet my little man. I am 31 weeks yippee!

 

[lch28]

oh shelby, they are just so beautiful. I love seeing pictures of your little girls, they have done so well! and so have you!!

 

[ShelbyLC]

JustinsMama & lch - thank you!

Prayerful - I was 29+5

 

[lch28]

Shelby does OH have light brown hair? i am admiring the color of the girls hair, its so pretty!

 

[ShelbyLC]

Shelby does OH have light brown hair? i am admiring the color of the girls hair, its so pretty!

Actually, his hair is red! Or, it was when he was younger. Now it's kind of faded...and gray...which he says, "It's not gray, it's distinguished."

From last night:

Spoiler

https://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab294/shelabama/B1small_zpsbef30db7.jpg

He was feeding B.

Somehow - not sure how it worked out, but it did - their hair is almost exactly the color his is now. I'm guessing it's a weird coincidence and their color will eventually change more. I'm still holding onto hope that they'll be redheads!

 

[lch28]

awww!!!!! thats such a great picture hun

 

[Hopeful 4 #1]

Shelby how gorg are ur girls!

 

[AmyLouise89]

What's my chances of waters breaking early with elective cerclage & no infection ( just to be safe Dr has me on lots of antibiotics)...he said stitch is definitely not coming out since he double stitched it but we got to watch for labor still..I'm 17 weeks 4 days now..was hoping getting stitch id relax some but still scared to death

 

[baby_maybe]

I was really scared of my waters leaking in the first few days/weeks following the surgery, but it didn't happen. I don't think it's that common to be honest. Just keep a close eye on discharge etc and if there's anything you're concerned about go get checked out just to safe.

 

[lch28]

i think thats pretty uncommon amy, it usually goes very well hun

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

aww hun, thank you so much for sharing your story. first let me say im so sorry you had to go through that. My ex has had so many episodes of this same behavior, controlling, sexually and emotionally abusive, you name it he has said it to me. He isolated me from every single friend i have ever had. I can not believe the way your ex husband acted when your baby girl was in the NICU. how awful and its so inspiring that you held it all together for her. Its really hard when your financially dependent on the abuser, because they constantly use it against you. Your story has most def inspired me =] Does he ever see your daughter, pay child support? I am glad that you found someone who treats you right sweet heart

Ich, where do I start? My husband always tells me to never be afraid to tell your story because my testimony may help someone. You may be that someone. I was married toy first daughters dad and it turned into a living hell. I supported the both of us while I was pregnant and before and after her birth. He was controlling, verbally abusive, sexually abusive, and just nasty to me. He cheated had a short temper and I found out he had another child I didn't know about. My daughter was born at 26 weeks and 6 days. She spent 10 and. Half weeks in the nicu. He was jealous and didn't want me to go see her everyday. Long story short I got enough guts to leave because he got violent and threatened to tke my daughter from me ( as if he could provide for her). I finally divorced him. It got even worse after! I moved back in with mom. I had no money and couldn't provide. God provided. Every time I turned around someone blessed me with clothes or money or food or diapers. Moral of the story, you do what's best FOR YOUR BABY. If he throws money at you, take it and keep moving. He's not doing you a favor, he's contributing to the well being of your baby. He's doing it in a nasty way but take it and keep going sweetie. At some point he will be in child support I hope and that will help a little. If your mom can keep you stay and when you can get part time the full time work. My daughter required a lot of my time because she was so preemie. Things WILL work out for you Hun. I don't push beliefs and religion on anyone but prayer to God helped me and gave me his super strength to go on and I did! My church was so supportive. The members offered to babysit, prayed for us, gave her necessities... It was a miracle. Keep your head up Ich. Your emotional and worried which is Normal!!! Wait until after the baby and just let things stay the way they are now. You're number one priority is the baby and him getting him here safely! ***hugs*** just like I let the stories on here about IC inspire and encourage me, let my relationship with my ex inspire you. If I could do it with a sick baby then I know you can do it with your healthy little one! I'll be praying for you guys and if you want more info just inbox me. Xxxx

Child support? Visit her? Lol yeah right. Not a dollar and he hasn't seen her since she was nine months. When I left him, he left her and its better that way. I'm happy now and so is she

 

[AmyLouise89]

Thank you everyone for the reassurance..my ob said surgery went great so I know I should just relax but its sooo hard lol

 

[lch28]

aww prayerful, how old is she hun?