Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[mme]

Hi mmc - who do you see at Jessops? Are you in the PTL clinic?

Thanks for the responses to my c sections questions, far too early to be thinking about it,but it was on my mind. One of my best friends is getting married 2 weeks before my edd, so I was trying to figure out if I could go (will be 4 hours away) and my new nephew 's christening is 3 weeks after my Edd, so also figuring if I'll feel like sitting in car 7 hours to get there. I like that I'm able to think my baby will be full term, but some days I have no confidence at all.

Anyway all o f that seems irrelevant right now. I Just found out my best friend has cervical cancer. She's still waiting to hear if it's spread and if she'll need a hysterectomy and chemo etc. Crossing all my fingers for her. She doesn't yet have kids,and isn't quite ready,but I think the choice being taken away will hit her hard. I wanted to ask you all for suggestions for what I can do to support her? Distractions,nice things,what to not say....
I'm hoping so hard they leave her uterus and stitch up her cervix, (meaning she might be one of us one day, which is the best I can Hope for ).
Desperate for me to not need bed rest so I can support her through this!

lovely to hear the babies, bumps and stitches are well.

Hi
I'm seeing mr joki under fmu. What about you?
What is ptl clinic?

We are the same with the weddings. My best friend gets married 4 weeks before my dd, hubby's friend the day after my dd and a cousin 4 weeks after my dd. I have not been to a wedding for years and now we have 3 all round my dd

In reply to your friend with the cervical cancer there is not much you can say. Cervical cancer is the reason for my ic. I had to have that much hacked away that there is not enough to play with for stitch. I was lucky though that I can still have children. At the time I was terrified and I'm still under the Jessops for regular colposcopy's even though I have been ok since the op 6 years ago. My hubby tried his best to keep me busy but you can't forget what's going on. Just make her aware that you are there day or night and don't be a stranger. Some of my Friends did not know how to act around me so they kept away when I really could have done with the company.

 

[lch28]

Jonathan is doing well! Im all freaked that im over feeding him though. He has about 26 oz per day - 3 oz every 2-3 hours. if i give him less he is absolutely hysterical. any FF mommy's have any input?

 

[Agiboma]

@Ich babies let you know what they need if he needs more he will let you know, he is taking as much as he needs now so dont freak out just foloow his cues. MY son had growth spurts where he took a lot more and then he started intervals of cluster feeding he literally fed for hours at a go. Babies always let you know what they need, so just go along with it, i found that easiest for me.

 

[sweetbuthyper]

hey all i'm doing ok had a bit of a scare yesterday had some brighht red bleeding went to hospital and got checkd, stitch fine, baby fine and all the cramping i had before the bleed disappeared, they wanted me to stay in however they put me on the maternity ward full of ladys in early labour and i signed my self out, mainly because i felt the stress of being in out weighed any risks of me going home. It took them 3 hours to get a doctor to come see me by which time i had stopped bleeding for over 2 1/2 hours and an hour to get discharged, so i'd not had bleeding for 4 hours nearly when i left,

midwifes been this morning blood pressure slightly lower than usual but is fine, i really stressed with the hospital tho, i was ment to have heparin on the wednesday night, my chart says it was signed for but i never recieved it, asked midwife about complaints shes going to bring me a form but tried to fob me off with they were busy blah blah, and it will have had no effect, well hang on the consultant went to a lot of effort to find my drug card ect after surgery to prescribe the heparin in the first place, if it wasn't needed she wouldn't have bothered, just praying its not had an effect, and a bit teary about it really, i'm wondering if the bleed was because i lost a clot or something that shouldn't have been there midwife has said it wont be and any bleed will be from the cervix or womb ( which apparently if i stayed they would have checked which is bull as they planned to discharge me first thing anyways and mentioned nothing about a scan)

feel like they are trying to fob of me complaining as me just over reacting but anything could have happened if i had clotted and shouldn't have.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Ich you have me worried... That makes me feel like I'm not pumping enough for when missy comes home. Jonathan will let ya know what his tummy needs. Don't worry. How are you feeling?

Tink, countdown time. Hope Audrey is baking well ( I think that's what you said her name was ) . Have you started getting ready for her. Make sure your and daddy's bags are packed. Word of advice, if she has clothes, get those washed and put away. It's a dreadful task I'm facing. Lol do you know how frustrating it is to try and fold a newborn onesie? Lol
Hope all you ladies are well.
Missy is 3 pounds 2 ounces today! A few lose stools they are looking into but it should be ok. Prayers for her fx

 

[Agiboma]

@ Sending missy and your family lots of positive energy, thats my way of praying

 

[Tink_0123]

Prayer, Great news that Missy is putting on weight and doing so well. Hopefully the loose stools stop soon tho! Happy you're doing well too hun!

As far as the my baby prepping progress. I've been very fortunate that my mom has been staying with me permanently since I was placed on bed rest, so she's washed all of the clothes, I've folded them or put them in hangers and she's put them away already. I was trying to iron her dresses the other day while laying on the bed on my side and hurt my back a bit I guess the limited mobility and laying down propped up sideways strained my back.

My baby bag is pretty much done, I've put preemie, newborn and 0-3 month onesies and sleepers in there since idk how big she's going to be. I already have the hand mittens, socks, blankets and a few other items in there too. My bag on the other hand is missing a few things, I have a couple of inexpensive sleeping gowns since idk if ill stain them with blood or any fluids lol. I am missing the breast pads and nipple shields, but I think I have everything else, just have to put it in the bag.

 

[Tink_0123]

Ich, hope you and Jonathan are doing well. I saw there's a snow storm close to your area. Hope it doesn't affect you guys! Will keep you and LO in my thoughts.

 

[ShelbyLC]

Prayerful - I only pump 5 times a day now. Once your supply is established, it won't matter how many times/how often you pump.

 

[lch28]

i had very painful twinges in my cervix that used to stop me in my tracks. still made it to 36 weeks

thanks tink! we def got hit pretty hard. OH was out snow plowing till 9 am today!

prayerful im sure you are pumping enough dear ur doing great!!

afm Jonathan was up every 3 hours last night. SOO much better then every hour the night before!

 

[Agiboma]

@tink great your bag is all packed up i still got some things to include in mine.

 

[Tink_0123]

i had very painful twinges in my cervix that used to stop me in my tracks. still made it to 36 weeks

thanks tink! we def got hit pretty hard. OH was out snow plowing till 9 am today!

prayerful im sure you are pumping enough dear ur doing great!!

afm Jonathan was up every 3 hours last night. SOO much better then every hour the night before!

Im glad you and your loved ones are ok.

 

[Tink_0123]

@tink great your bag is all packed up i still got some things to include in mine.

Yep, I said to myself once I reached 30 weeks I would start working on my bags. Some things in there are still subject to change, but every chance I get I go over it and add or remove things. I included different sizes since you never know how big or small babies will be once they come out.

What date is you c-sec scheduled for??

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

Prayerful - I only pump 5 times a day now. Once your supply is established, it won't matter how many times/how often you pump.

Cool, how do you know when it's established? Just curious. It's been 17 days of pumping. I get about 1000 ml or a bit over a day.

 

[chocolatecat]

mme - thanks so much for the advice. Sorry to hear you've been through it, but clearfor 6 years sounds very reassuring!
We still don't know if she'll need a full hysterectomy or if she'll be able to have the traceostomy, I'm so hoping it will be that, and will hopefully then be able to have kids if she wants to. I see Dr Jivraj and had a chat with her about my friend. She was saying she'll send her off to Prof Bennett for a TAC if she does keep her uterus. She was quite reassuring about how great the care at Jessops is. Glad to hear you were happy.
the Ptl clinic is the FMU (I just got into the habit of calling it the premature labour clinic). I was there last time under Dr Anooba, but I just have my weekly scans and see my consultant seperately, takes a lot longer, but it's worth it for the reassurance.

had my anomaly scan on Friday, looking pretty good she couldn't get the heart measurements, so will return in a few weeks. Cervix down to 32 from 45mm, but still just fine. Long way to go, and going to start restricting activity a lot more next week if it goes down again.

Sweetbuthyper - hope you're ok? Thinking about you. If you're not happy at Doncaster, are you able to come across to Sheffield. I know it changes all the time, but Jessops has been really quiet lately apparently.

Hugs to you all.

 

[sweetbuthyper]

i'm doing fine, considered transfering my parents are in sheffield but the consultant has been really great here and the labour ward were mostly good after i lost nathaniel, there just under staffed but its not a good excuss for missing meds ect. will stick it out i think but going to put in a complaint.

hd no cramping or bleeding today and i can walk around alot better since loosing the blood yesterday infact the oh notice a change in mobility the second i lost the blood so think there was a clot or something that was causing the cramps and back pain.

 

[ShelbyLC]

Prayerful - I only pump 5 times a day now. Once your supply is established, it won't matter how many times/how often you pump.

Cool, how do you know when it's established? Just curious. It's been 17 days of pumping. I get about 1000 ml or a bit over a day.

Supposedly, after 6-12 weeks, your supply is established enough to drop pumps. I never went by that. I'd say it's when you're consistently getting the same(ish) amount every day for a while. I knew mine was established when I tried to quit and it didn't work Somehow, it's harder for me to quit than keep going!

 

[chocolatecat]

Glad to hear things are looking good Sweet

I've lost track I'm afraid, do you have a stitch or are you just being monitored?

 

[wunderful78]

7 weeks ago I thought 27weeks was an eternity away ..... Here I am ! Changing my goals from viability to 26 weeks and now I'm on the hunt for 28 weeks ! I'm just so happy

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[Agiboma]

@tink my section is scheduled for March 26 ill be 38 going on 39 weeks.
@Prayerful thats a great amount for 17 days in