Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi ladies.

Agi, SO excited! Can't wait to see the baby.

Tinks....oh my heavens was that QUICK! Hello sweet baby!

Congrats to you both!


Shelby, that pic of the girls smiling MADE MY DAY! They are beautiful!

BethNeeBaby, I'm very sorry for your loss. So heartbreaking to hear. One that many of us have been through. Please take time to grieve hunny. I actually didn't start back until a year later. I was completely heart broken and couldn't breathe. It took that year to get some kind of normalcy though it never really IS normal after where we've been. I keep in mind that Jackson Jeffrey isn't dead, he's very much alive in Heaven waiting for ME. I am not walking away but walking TOWARD him in heaven where I will one day hold him again. Love to you sweet friend.

 

[Twinkle 3]

Advice needed ladies ?

I have aches between my legs and I mean uncomfortable aches really in the groin that feels like someone's trying to pull my legs apart. Feeling heavy in my abdomen. My consultant says only worry if I go into labour other Than that just rest and relax.

I find it hard to walk, I waddle like a duck and my other half now puts my socks on for me as I find it uncomfortable to bend over.

I have all the symptoms of sympthisis pubis disorder (SPD aka pelvic girdle pain)

Do you think it could be tht or my cervix being understrain causing my uncomfiness x

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Sound like spd twinkle could be babys head causeing pressure or. Bum try not to worry unless your having tightenings and or back pain that comes and goes

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thanks sweet, it's sounding like spd the more I ready up on symptoms but you never know. My consultant dosnt seem fussed and neither doesmy midwife. I'm just uncomfortable that's all.

Hope your doing well sweet, your amazing for keeping your little one cooking

 

[DAYDAY24]

Ladies what do you think about a baby shower? I was going to ask my doc about when she would think is a good time I can sit up lol

 

[ShelbyLC]

Day - I would think a baby shower would be safe any time now.

 

[DAYDAY24]

Thanks shelby I was just going to have something small at the house so I can still prop feet up on couch.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Day, your 28 wks as Shelby said it's okay anytime. I would think carrying twins may be hard on your back or to walk so you may want to keep it light, but your at a great place right now.

 

[DAYDAY24]

Yea thats why I just was going to have it at my home

 

[chocolatecat]

Back in triage with tightening. Took some cocodamol a couple of hours ago and they've nearly stopped. Just want to get my cervix checked before going home. It's even more busy than last time!
still they're getting to the point where they know who I am now!.
crossing my fingers it's the same as before, and nothing sinister.

 

[Hope2302]

@ day, yep. Now is a good time as you can sit and get comfy. Don't stretch it out maybe for about 4 hrs and back to bed
@ chocolate, fingers crossed for you. Hope everything is fine
@ sweet, hope everything goes well
@ twinkle, getting there. I am hoping its all uneventful for you. What you described like the other ladies have said sounds like spd.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hey ladies I have another question for anyone listening really. I'm a little down in the dumps anyways because as I suspected I'm NOT pregnant. I'm at peace and actually depending on whether I have cysts on the sono tomorrow I may be going right in for another round. That's not what this forum is about so I'll change the subject BACK to my question.

Is there anyone with kids already who DOESN'T have help at home while your on bedrest?

I'm a little upset tonight because a series of events have happened that took most of our emergency fun and savings. That being said, I had guessed that having a nanny come in our home @10.00 an hour for 5 hours a day for 5 days a week would cost us around 1000.00 a month.

We DID have it in our savings until a huge emergency happened and our car expenses took on more than we had planned. (it's a story unto itself at the moment).

So now we know that this is quite an expense for childcare in our home. He was going to cancel my sonogram tomorrow because of the expense and I just bawled my eyes out because I'm 39 in May. To quit now may mean that we won't have anymore kids. I get even more depressed seeing women get pregnant easily ....even those who probably shouldn't be parents that seem to pop them out like it's drinking water only for someone else to raise them.

Not only does it take me longer to conceive but the worry just doesn't end there and goes into the second trimester .....wait for the stitch, pray for the stitch and PTL to stay away, hope no bacterial issues happen, etc. etc.

We ended things tonight with him saying we'll go to tomorrows appointment see what happens and then deal with the financial aspect of a nanny when/if it happens.

I guess I'm frustrated and in tears here because the only ones that have any inkling of what I go through are in this very room. How hard it can sometimes be to conceive but then even harder to keep our children safe to term.

I SO BADLY want just 1 more through conception and this hill that seems to come in the way has really put a damper on my mood. I was just hoping that someone in here is taking care of a toddler while on bed rest without much help at all. My husband will be at work from 2pm until midnight so I'd have to put my little one to bed and give her meals. We're all on one floor so there's no real harsh work. Neither of us have any family close by that can move here to help. So it would be just the two of us with a toddler.

Does it sound doable to any of you? Any input would be appreciated as I think you all know what it's like to be on bedrest with a stitch. I guess I'm hoping beyond hope that this could still be doable if maybe I buy her a toddler bed low to the ground that she could hop in on her own and feed her at my own level.

I need some major encouragement. I'm just so down after this that maybe I'm making more out of the situation than it really needs to be.



Praying for those of you who are in the hospital tonight and those still working to keep those babies in. I think and pray for you all often and am so excited to share in your journey with hopes of VICTORY At the end. Your all AMAZING women.

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Hi Ma no experience just wanted to give hugs and say I'm sure thst its possible to lookafter your littleobe whilst pregnant just make sure there are lots of things that csn keep her busy, a low down bed sounds a good plan snd you could have picnics on your bed or set her up on a child hight table so she can seat herself for meals, I would have thought the Main issue is lifting and carrying her f you do everything possible to eliminate the need unvsure you will be fine

Chocolatecat hope you are Back home now if not I'm on rivelin room 11 if you need a chat

Afm I am definatly allergic to the sheets my fantastic mum is bringing Me new bedding later and then hopfully it'll not be long till the rash goes, in nearly 27 weeks so we now need to keep fingers crossed for a cot at donny so I can be moved closer to home

Congrats in stitch removal hope and on babys to tink and Agi

Sorry your having a hard time Karen hugs
Twinkle hope your pain eases soon

Anyone I've missed sorry and hugs hard to keep up on my phone

 

[Craigswife]

Hi MA, sorry you're feeling blue today. I don't know I can be of much help, but can offer a little advice based in my circumstances. I've got a stitch, but not on bed rest, but have reduced greatly my activities and get lots of 'bed rest' but basically lead on the sofa. I've got a 4yr old, my husband works shifts and although my parents are nearby I don't like to keep asking them for help, until we're st a point where we really need it.
I try and keep a batch of meals in the freezer, my husband makes extra portions and freeze them, so can feed him and myself easily when my husbands at work. I try and do activities with him that mean I can sit down, such as glueing, stories etc. When I have a shower he climbs in with me, this works well. Fortunately here in the uk the Government subsidise nursery fees which means he can attend without tge additional cost, that really helps. The days I'm really struggling we watch DVD's and tv, he thinks its a real treat to watch tv in my bed!!
We seem to get by, ok there are days where I feel guilty and a rubbish mum, but I remind myself it's only for a few more months.

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi MA I'm sorry to hear you have run into a bit if a problem and i hope it all works out for you in the end, which I'm sure it will. I'm a big beliver in what is meant to be will be, God always has a plan for us

I have a 3yr old nearly 4 as you can see from my ticker, it would Be a 100 times easier if I am truthful to be on bed rest with someone looking after her.

I am pretty much in the same situation as you with my OH he works 2pm until 10 so he's out of the house for meal times, bath and bed.

I coped looking after my daughter on my own easily until stitch placement so 14weeks. After I took it a little easier and stopped bathing her (my mum does now) and running around after her too much..she's very hard work and constantly wants to play games, her attention span for each game is about ten minutes, she asks for one thing after another so as you can see she's very demanding and hard work, basically a typical 4yr old

I had no help after my OH went to work until about 18weeks I would just ask my oh to dress our little girl, do us both some dinner then I wouldnt really need to do much until tea time and bath time so it pretty much worked until I got more achey and felt I needed to rest more,

Then at 18weeks till now i have had continuous help in the shape of my mum and OH. So I'm pretty lucky to have the help I have. I did find it hard looking after my daughter alone while on bed rest as with her being so active it was hard to keep up.

I still do things with my daughter such as jigsaws, read books and if you can get your little one sat snuggled down watching the tv with you or reading books for while with you then it will be easier I'm sure you can set up a routine that works for you. I don't really remember how 2yr olds are as it seems forever since my little girl was 2 lol but I'm sure you can find somthing that works

I stopped doing everything when I go too scared to move Im finding it Hard emotionally and physically so I asked for help until I make it to atleast 24weeks then hopefully I can slowly increase my activity when I feel at a safer gestation.

I try and incoorperate my little one in with my routine... For example, I will get her a drink when I have a drink, I will feed her when I eat , I use the bathroom when she needs the bathroom I go to bed when she goes.. Just so I'm not doing things twice

If there is a will there is a way

I think personally I need help from 18weeks to 24 weeks the most, Would it be beneficial for you to have help in the shape of a nanny between the weeks you need help the most? If money allows it?

I'm sure there is many other women though who have coped on bed rest with young children x

 

[Twinkle 3]

Hi MA, sorry you're feeling blue today. I don't know I can be of much help, but can offer a little advice based in my circumstances. I've got a stitch, but not on bed rest, but have reduced greatly my activities and get lots of 'bed rest' but basically lead on the sofa. I've got a 4yr old, my husband works shifts and although my parents are nearby I don't like to keep asking them for help, until we're st a point where we really need it.
I try and keep a batch of meals in the freezer, my husband makes extra portions and freeze them, so can feed him and myself easily when my husbands at work. I try and do activities with him that mean I can sit down, such as glueing, stories etc. When I have a shower he climbs in with me, this works well. Fortunately here in the uk the Government subsidise nursery fees which means he can attend without tge additional cost, that really helps. The days I'm really struggling we watch DVD's and tv, he thinks its a real treat to watch tv in my bed!!
We seem to get by, ok there are days where I feel guilty and a rubbish mum, but I remind myself it's only for a few more months.

I feel like a rubbish mum CW, I'm use to doing everything for my daughter and I have always took her places like to the lake to feed ducks, soft play area or swimming etc and I'm unable to do that now, I feel like she's missing out on me and lots of activities. I'm always layed down or at the hospital and I'm hoping it won't affect her too much, I too keep reminding myself that soon I can do everything with her again and I'm doing the best for our family and this little baby by resting I'm going to make it up to her when the baby is here

 

[wunderful78]

I felt like twinkle the 20-28 week stint of bed rest , I just missed hanging out with my daughter I lifted my bed rest a fair bit after 28 weeks but in saying that I don't vac mop clean shower baths or swim mow lawns nothing like that ... Just take my daughter to lunch or for a ride on her bike at the park , MA I didn't do it alone ... I have her in her school (daycare) 3 days a week the only day she is at home with me is Wednesday and Sunday ... Still now ! I think it's do able but my daughters personality would have made it hard for me to be strict about it , everyone in my family has sacrificed for this baby but that's what family is all about ... Hard for a young one to understand but !

 

[karenh24]

Ladies what do you think about a baby shower? I was going to ask my doc about when she would think is a good time I can sit up lol

Hey day my sister wants to throw me a baby shower but i really wasn't sure what time to tell her as in so far i've said when i get to 30 weeks but not knowing how far i could get makes things a bit difficult lol.i think ur at a good time for a baby shower.enjoy!

 

[karenh24]

Also wish me luck everyone will be going to the hospital later to demand my stitch, i can't go on like this i've got constant migraine from the worry.i had the worst backache of my life last night and actually wondered if things were happening that shouldn't be, but im ok

 

[Craigswife]

Twinkle, your daughter sounds like my son, he flits from one thing to the next, having a short concentration span. I find it quite tiring because I'm constantly trying to keyp him occupied while I'm resting, it is hard. Like you I used to do lots of a activities like swimming, soft play, the park etc. But like you I shall make it up to him.
I do the same with toil eying, drinks etc so I'm only doing the trip once. He loves having a shower with me, so that makes life easier. I've found a local lady that will do my ironing, which also helps and I hate ironing anyway, lol!!

Wunderful, I know what you mean about missing your daughter, I miss the little adventures my son and I would go on, happy memories xx

Karen, good luck for this afternoon, I hope it all goes well. Stay strong in what you want and don't let them talk you out of anything! I'll keep everything crossed for you.