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Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour
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So so sorry for your loss Radiance. 
I'll ask everyone this, but Lizzy as well. Why is my cervix weak? When I was first diagnosed, they had no proof that my cervix was weak, and that maybe I was just born with a short cervix. But my cervix is 8 cm (not pregnant), so obviously it's just weak. But why?? I've had no injuries, or surgeries, no miscarriages or prior pregnancies, my mother wasn't on drugs when he was pregnant with me, etc. What could be the reason for it? I cannot stop asking myself this question!
I'll ask everyone this, but Lizzy as well. Why is my cervix weak? When I was first diagnosed, they had no proof that my cervix was weak, and that maybe I was just born with a short cervix. But my cervix is 8 cm (not pregnant), so obviously it's just weak. But why?? I've had no injuries, or surgeries, no miscarriages or prior pregnancies, my mother wasn't on drugs when he was pregnant with me, etc. What could be the reason for it? I cannot stop asking myself this question!
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Sunny I honestly think its just one of those things that has no real explanation other than some people have it and some don't x
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Radiance so very sorry to hear your awfully sad news. Try to take each day at a time & don't put too much pressure on yourself to do too much too soon. My little boy was the only thing that kept me going after I lost Jessie & I expect your children will help you through this hard time too.
Sending you love & healing x X ,
Sending you love & healing x X ,
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Dearest Radiance 
I am absolutely devastated to read your tragic news. I know that all along you were concerned about this pregnancy, that your instincts were ringing alarm bells, but I had hoped for a better outcome for you darlin Take some time, but please come back to us when you're feeling stronger and can contemplate what action if any you wish to take in the future. Love and prayers with you all lovely lady 
I am absolutely devastated to read your tragic news. I know that all along you were concerned about this pregnancy, that your instincts were ringing alarm bells, but I had hoped for a better outcome for you darlin Take some time, but please come back to us when you're feeling stronger and can contemplate what action if any you wish to take in the future. Love and prayers with you all lovely lady
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Hey Sunny - as JM said its often really difficult to identify a reason for IC. There are definite 'culprits', but in most women much of the time there is no prior trauma or congenital issue and their IC simply comes out of the blue, which is why it is such a devastating complication.
I am saddened to see most IC ladies experiencing at least one, if not two second trimester losses before it is diagnosed partly because it goes unnoticed with no obvious cause, and because so many medics still refuse to acknowledge it as a diagnosis until two or more babies have been lost That is an appalling statistic which has to change!
Sorry I can't be any more specific honey. I know how much you probably need to understand the reasons for your preemie experience, and long to avoid it in the future. Rest assured that you can certainly now take action early in any potential future pregnancies, and that the stitch placed early has excellent almost flawless results. Lots of love xxx
I am saddened to see most IC ladies experiencing at least one, if not two second trimester losses before it is diagnosed partly because it goes unnoticed with no obvious cause, and because so many medics still refuse to acknowledge it as a diagnosis until two or more babies have been lost
That is an appalling statistic which has to change!Sorry I can't be any more specific honey. I know how much you probably need to understand the reasons for your preemie experience, and long to avoid it in the future. Rest assured that you can certainly now take action early in any potential future pregnancies, and that the stitch placed early has excellent almost flawless results. Lots of love xxx
Hey Sunny - as JM said its often really difficult to identify a reason for IC. There are definite 'culprits', but in most women much of the time there is no prior trauma or congenital issue and their IC simply comes out of the blue, which is why it is such a devastating complication.
I am saddened to see most IC ladies experiencing at least one, if not two second trimester losses before it is diagnosed partly because it goes unnoticed with no obvious cause, and because so many medics still refuse to acknowledge it as a diagnosis until two or more babies have been lost
Sorry I can't be any more specific honey. I know how much you probably need to understand the reasons for your preemie experience, and long to avoid it in the future. Rest assured that you can certainly now take action early in any potential future pregnancies, and that the stitch placed early has excellent almost flawless results. Lots of love xxx
Lizzy, I'm thankful my doctors were quick to diagnose me. But the extremely short length (.9cm at 19 weeks) was easily diagnostic. At first they did say it could just be a very short cervix, and not necessarily weak. But further ultrasounds clearly showed it was weakening and there was no question about it. But my hospital is very progressive, and unfortunately a lot aren't!
Thanks for the response. I just don't know if an earlier cerclage would help me, and as I'm only 22 and want a lot more children, it's difficult...
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Do you think jadey has had the baby?? Been really quiet
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Hope all is ok!! Still no sign of yours? X
not yet!!trying some safe induction methods sex/pineapple/walks/pressure points/curry/bouncing
no signs yet - due sat but have doctors appointment tomorrow and they might give me a sweep if I am favourable................otherwise they will book me in for an induction early next week as they won't let me go too far over
have resigned myself to not getting the perfect birth!!- just want to know what it is now- we have kind of agreed on names too
hope I can have pro pess as that was good last time and could be active - just do not want to be tied to bed unless necessary................
how are you doing geordiemammy? How long?
no signs yet - due sat but have doctors appointment tomorrow and they might give me a sweep if I am favourable................otherwise they will book me in for an induction early next week as they won't let me go too far over
have resigned myself to not getting the perfect birth!!- just want to know what it is now- we have kind of agreed on names too
hope I can have pro pess as that was good last time and could be active - just do not want to be tied to bed unless necessary................
how are you doing geordiemammy? How long?
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I'm being induced 9 weeks today 9 days before due date cause I'm high risk unless something changes and they need to bring him earlier it can't come quick enough I'm only on this thread as they were sure I would have ic but surprisingly didn't would of just been the icing on the cake had I have had that too cause of all the other factors
All of you have done so much to keep babies in and now they won't come out that must be so frustrating just shows the stitches work wonders even after taken out and ic should be more recognised within the medical world I honestly think cervical length should be checked on everyone to stop women having to go through a loss sometimes 2 before its investigated its like the gbs test should be widely available to every pregnant woman the test only costs £10 I'm sure if every woman was told they had to pay for that test then they would x
All of you have done so much to keep babies in and now they won't come out that must be so frustrating just shows the stitches work wonders even after taken out and ic should be more recognised within the medical world I honestly think cervical length should be checked on everyone to stop women having to go through a loss sometimes 2 before its investigated its like the gbs test should be widely available to every pregnant woman the test only costs £10 I'm sure if every woman was told they had to pay for that test then they would x
Shanny try the acupressure foot massage, my oh watched a video on YouTube it took two nights of doing it but worked. The first night I triedv it I had string conteactions then the second night I did it I went into labour 
I was thinking about Jadey too, maybe she has had her baby
Gm I completely agree that evry women should have the gbs test and cervical length checked. I wouldn't have lost my little boy last year if they did routine checks. I can't believe somthing so simple as a stitch got me my little Alfie!
I was thinking about Jadey too, maybe she has had her baby
Gm I completely agree that evry women should have the gbs test and cervical length checked. I wouldn't have lost my little boy last year if they did routine checks. I can't believe somthing so simple as a stitch got me my little Alfie!
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It's disgraceful that they won't check until you lose one or more babies I had first trimester losses and I honestly didn't want to put myself through it all again we talked after the last mc and I said enough was enough I had lost 4 in just over a year I put on a brave face but it killed me inside then I ended up pregnant with this little bundle straight after the last loss it was a total shock you have so much worry and stress thinking about what could happen and after I got out of the uncertain bit 12 weeks I started to relax slightly then had a massive bleed at 16 weeks where I was told no way baby could be ok it was then that I sat in hospital and cried and cried to oh saying I most definitely wouldn't be doing it again but he was ok thank god to make women go through that once never mind twice is disgusting and that's why every woman should be checked cause you shouldn't have to go through it if there is measures that can be taken to prevent it!! I take my hat off to you ladies who have tried again after second trimester losses I'm not sure I could do that xx
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Hi ladies, how is everyone?
Sunny I cannot stress enough darlin how well elective stitches can work compared with emergency procedures. Apart from a very few, rare exceptions a stitch placed before 16wks does work and you should feel confident about that in any future pregnancy.
It's terrifying contemplating pregnancy after IC, and you will never feel entirely relaxed but should take comfort from just how many women here have had catastrophic cervical changes only to go on to have successful pregnancies afterwards xxx
Sunny I cannot stress enough darlin how well elective stitches can work compared with emergency procedures. Apart from a very few, rare exceptions a stitch placed before 16wks does work and you should feel confident about that in any future pregnancy.
It's terrifying contemplating pregnancy after IC, and you will never feel entirely relaxed but should take comfort from just how many women here have had catastrophic cervical changes only to go on to have successful pregnancies afterwards
xxx
