Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Mommy's Angel]

THIS excites the heck outa me! I'm praying the same happens when they take out my stitch. I'd like to go to the full 39wks though I'm REALLY wanting an October baby...but it really doesn't matter when she's born as long as she's to term and healthy right? So I'm just trusting God in the timing.

Today we bought a new minivan! We pick it up tomorrow. Our Santa Fe was causing so many problems that it's become a safety issue. So we went to pick out a used van at an AWESOME price with only 29k miles on it and excellent for a 2008. We got wonderful interest and just got a GREAT deal! We went out to dinner for some pulled pork and now I"m back in the confines for the remainder. lol

SO excited though!

 

[Jule71]

MA- I'm surprised you can't find the rephresh pro B.. I looked on their website and it says it's sold at the most popular places like walmart, etc.. I'll paste the link. You can also order it from amazon. I haven't tried the cranberry pills, but I do drink a lot of cranberry juice (not ocean spray, but the kind with no sugar) and I think it helps. I can't figure out what is going on with my bladder, but remember having the same issue my last pregnancy around this time. I guess we have to keep checking for UTI.
Way to go on the new mini van!! All you need now is a car seat for little Amelia

link: https://www.rephreshprob.com/Content/Where_to_Buy.aspx

Rensben- Yay on making to 36w! Looks like you will have full term baby, that is awesome news!!!

 

[Mommy's Angel]

MA- I'm surprised you can't find the rephresh pro B.. I looked on their website and it says it's sold at the most popular places like walmart, etc.. I'll paste the link. You can also order it from amazon. I haven't tried the cranberry pills, but I do drink a lot of cranberry juice (not ocean spray, but the kind with no sugar) and I think it helps. I can't figure out what is going on with my bladder, but remember having the same issue my last pregnancy around this time. I guess we have to keep checking for UTI.
Way to go on the new mini van!! All you need now is a car seat for little Amelia

link: https://www.rephreshprob.com/Content/Where_to_Buy.aspx

Rensben- Yay on making to 36w! Looks like you will have full term baby, that is awesome news!!!

I'm not sure if we're looking in the wrong place or what but we've tried walmart, walgreens, Target, Wegmans. I almost went to see if they had it in our local organic market. Thanks for the link!

 

[garrickbaby]

Hi ladies,

I haven't posted in a few weeks. I'm now 11+1 and I have a cerclage schedule when I am 12+6. I was told by the doctor today that I will go on modified bedrest right after the cerclage and she told me that I will stay on bedrest until 36 weeks. Hopefully, this will work this time.... I'm glad this doctor is using common sense because the last one i spoke to said that she wouldn't put me on bedrest unless she saw a need, but looking at my history shows a clear need.

Either way, that gives me a week or so to get things together at work. I'm glad I have great benifits at work so I don't have to worry about money/leave.

Anyway, i'll keep you posted, i'm sure for the next 5 months i'll need you guys on baby and bump even more.

 

[sjulias67]

Hi,

Got my medical records yesterday. Haven't got the Chromosome results yet. But here is what the Peri who looked at the U/S has noted:

"Transabdominal scan revealed that the cervix is dilated to 2cm at the level of the internal os. There is a 4cm funnel to the external os. The external os appears to be dilated 1.8cm. Some echos are noted int he funnel-suggestive of blood or bilfilm (inflammatory or infectious material).

The patient was found to be bleeding and had a dilated cervix in labor and delivery. Her temperature as also mildly elevated(99.1). As discussed with the Doctor (other doctor from the group), delivery was recommended.

This is the extract from the appointment - one week from the MS. I had the appointment scheduled earlier and while discharging the doctor asked me to maintain that appointment. The nurse at the office canceled the appointment without informing us that the appointment was canceled. When we go there, the receiptionist says we have no appointment. Good that I had the card with the time and date mentioned, so they booked me for an appointment 30 minutes later. And this is what the Doctor has written in the records for that appointment:

"Lengthy discussion with husband. She came in with dx of inevitable abortion. Again discussed why cerclage contraindicated. I do not think the diagnosis is incompetent cervix but we can certainly either pass a dilator into the cervix in a few months time or obviously monitor for such in the next pregnancy. Chromosomes not back and my or may not be the cause of the MS. I do not see any reason to investigate other causes as this was her first sp ab; advised should try again but made aware preg rate low at her age but sp ab and chromosomal issues go up proportionately. 30 minutes discussion, support given. placenta cultures negative"

After reading this I have been pacing my room up and down numerous times.

Support given by her - No support was given. In the records she has written that in the next pregnancy it can be monitored, but while discussing she didn't say a word about it. Made me very much aware that because of my age it will happen again. Asked whether she would order more tests to look into why it happened. She said nothing seems wrong, no test needed.

I do not understand these doctors. The peri and this doctor seems to have decided before talking to me that delivery was the only option. They didn't think about putting me the trandelemberg position and starting antibiotics. I was totally ignorant about what to do and totally petrified of what was going around to think of forcing them to do these things. The temperature was elevated in the first reading but all subsequent readings were normal. They didn't take that into consideration.

Please help me guide my thoughts: Am I taking this all wrong? I don't know.

 

[Susanah]

Hi everyone
I can hardly believe I am writing this...
Im pregnant again and we only just found out. Im 13 weeks and have just booked in for a stitch on the 1st of Aug, when I will be 14+4.
I really cannot believe it. Am very happy and also a little daunted, for a I am now terrified of losing this one.
I have always wanted two, and to have them close together would be incredible. Just scared of something going wrong and daunted by having to go through it all again. But also very very excited.
I have a few worries/problems already!
- wasnt taking folic acid - so am worried about neural tube issues
- was drinking wine a few times a week
- took fluconazole for thrush a few weeks ago and this is not a good idea in first trimester
- had a scan on friday that confirmed the pregnancy and the placenta is right over my scar which my consultant says can be a problem
- currently also have low-lying placenta - which makes the stitch slightly more stressful
- How on earth am I going to do bed rest with a five month old baby!!!!????
- my consultant says I need to take minimum 3 days complete rest and then I can carry on with looking after Charlie as before... but without heavy lifting etc... this seems totally different advice to that which i was given in the first first and second pregnancies whereby 2 wks bedrest minimum was required
- no longer planning to return to work in october and need to get my head around that one - will have completely forgotten how to give an anaesthetic by the time I go back...
eeeek daunted but happy and shocked...
anyway, thats my news and Ill keep you posted. Good luck everyone, esp Rensben in the next few weeks
susanah

 

[KrystalDawn]

Congratulations Susanah!!! I can understand your worries - i hope you get all the care you need!!! Keep us posted xxxx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Congrats Susannah! Sorry I don't have answers for you....I have had BV a lot though and did a google search at one point to find out about Diflucan. While I know it's not good, I've seen a couple of comments where women have said they took it when they didn't know and their babies turned out fine. I don't recommend googling though because it will freak you the heck out! My suggestion is now that you know, move forward and take care of baby as best you can. He or she is a gift and you can't go back...you can only move forward! Congrats again!

 

[KrystalDawn]

RANT
A year ago today my water broke with one of my twins, my little girl Amira. I had no idea what this meant or the complications it would cause...
A week prior to this i was told at a scan that i had placenta praevia (low lying placenta) with my little girl. Yet again i didnt know what issues this could cause and i continued working 8 hours a day plus, standing up. Sometimes i would work day and night. Yet when my water broke and i lost my twins every doctor put the blame on the fact twins are a high risk!!!!!!!!!!! So why was i not told twins were high risk and why was my cervix not monitored and why was i not given swabs! why why why why!!!!!
I feel so educated by researching and surrounding myself with women that have gone through pprom and cervix issues like yourselves and if i knew what i do now i would still have my twins. I would have done things so differently and demanded the care i now know i needed. I trusted the medical staff to look after me and my babies and they let me down. I feel so angry today reliving back to the moment - i was one of those typical nieve pregnant women, never thought anything could go wrong and thought i was having a blissful pregnancy. Yet everything was going wrong inside me and then disaster happened and my water broke. I feel anger at the fact that i was given the natural gift of twins, a boy and a girl and that has been taken away from me. All because i didnt have the care me and my twins needed. I really hope our exeriences and research can prevent other women going through this. x

 

[Mommy's Angel]

RANT
A year ago today my water broke with one of my twins, my little girl Amira. I had no idea what this meant or the complications it would cause...
A week prior to this i was told at a scan that i had placenta praevia (low lying placenta) with my little girl. Yet again i didnt know what issues this could cause and i continued working 8 hours a day plus, standing up. Sometimes i would work day and night. Yet when my water broke and i lost my twins every doctor put the blame on the fact twins are a high risk!!!!!!!!!!! So why was i not told twins were high risk and why was my cervix not monitored and why was i not given swabs! why why why why!!!!!
I feel so educated by researching and surrounding myself with women that have gone through pprom and cervix issues like yourselves and if i knew what i do now i would still have my twins. I would have done things so differently and demanded the care i now know i needed. I trusted the medical staff to look after me and my babies and they let me down. I feel so angry today reliving back to the moment - i was one of those typical nieve pregnant women, never thought anything could go wrong and thought i was having a blissful pregnancy. Yet everything was going wrong inside me and then disaster happened and my water broke. I feel anger at the fact that i was given the natural gift of twins, a boy and a girl and that has been taken away from me. All because i didnt have the care me and my twins needed. I really hope our exeriences and research can prevent other women going through this. x

Oh hunny. So sorry your reliving the past today. I think those of us who've been there can understand. Medical staff at both the Dr.'s office and the hospital let us down as well. The thing is, to relive what happened and what "could have been" is a trail down a road of deep despair. There's nothing that can be done to change the outcome of either of our prior pregnancies but what came from the loss of my son was a deeper understand and knowledge along with a deeper faith and our new little miracle Amelia.

I just keep trying to remind myself through it all that I'm not walking AWAY from Jackson...not forgetting him...I'm actually walking toward him. He's home in heaven and I'll be there someday soon to have an eternity to love him. It's the only thing that gives me peace and helps me to move forward with confidence.

You have that background now and not only can advocate for you and your baby but can help others who are either searching for reasons or are going through it right now. God has given you a gift to help others from a tragic circumstance.

I pray today that you feel a sense of peace and are able to forgive YOURSELF for what took place. It wasn't your fault dear. It was something medical staff should have been more aware of and weren't. In the end it caused our children's lives and made our own a whole lot different. So sorry you even have to go through this!

 

[rensben]

Hi ladies,

37 weeks tomorrow!!!!! Ticker is a bit behind. I have an apt at the hospital to check my cervix tomorrow and I'm hoping it has dilated a bit. I'm convinced my cervix still thinks it is stitched shut and has not come to terms with it's new found freedom! Still, I am happy to be at 37 weeks and have a full term baby. Many hugs to those who have recently written about past losses. There is hope though and I feel so lucky to be where I am today. Love to all!

 

[sham1]

congrats for making it so far Rensben! Good luck x

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Rensben, SO exciting! I know you were hoping to get on with it already but I'm excited you've gotten this far. It honestly brings me hope that I'll get there with Amelia! Are you feeling okay otherwise?!

Please come in and let us know the update after your appointment! I'm looking forward to seeing a pic of this little kiddo!!

Lizzie, I'm just wondering how your doing hun! If you get a sec. please come and post so I know your okay! Thinking and praying for you.

AFM, tomorrow is the appointment with Pediatric Cardiologist. EARLY because I just couldn't deal with waiting until afternoon. We'll BARELY get sleep but I want to either confirm or deny that she has VSD. Praying that what they saw wasn't a hole but a reflection from her ribs and we can move on to greater things.

Made it to 29wks and I'm so excited that 30wks is on Sunday. NOW if I can get to my goal of 36wks I'll be dancing in the streets! Well, I should wait until 29wks for that though.

 

[rensben]

Just got back from my appointment. I am dilated to 2cm so it shouldn't be long now but then again I know some women have gone weeks at 2cm dilated! Will keep you all updated!

 

[KrystalDawn]

WOW How exciting Rensben!!!!! Wishing you lots of luck and pain relief! xxxxx

 

[lizziedripping]

HI ladies - and MA, thanks for asking after me

Firstly, let me just say - Rensben, well done girl!! I just knew you'd get to term. Women are always so doubtful they'll make it, and are convinced that once the stitch is gone they'll immediately deliver - I haven't seen this happen once yet. As for being 2cms dilated, you can coast like that for another few weeks, 2cms at this stage does not mean labour is imminent. I am really thrilled for you.

Susanah - mega congratulations hun!! What a lovely surprise. I totally understand all your fears, you sound just like me - anticipating problems where there probably aren't any, but you just can't help but worry I have been there so many times.

I took flucanazole twice with my first baby, and he was fine. I drank wine before I knew I was pregnant with Evie, and it had no ill effects. As for a low placenta, I understood that this is common in early pregnancy, and it lifts as the uterus/baby grows? Maybe the fact that the stitch is so imminent, and you haven't had chance to ponder these worries is a good thing? Less time to build yourself up into a frenzy over it? I am sure things will be ok darlin' - you know the score now, and that you can take a baby to term. This bub is obviously meant to be xxx

I have been absent on the forums lately becuase I've had a rough time this past two weeks. Miscarriage happened a week last Friday, and it was a shocker! I never expected it to be so traumatic, and the blood loss so much (3/4 pints). I avoided a transfusion by skin of my teeth, but have taken some time to recover.

Yesterday I was in for a scan to check my uterus was empty, and of course it wasn't so was given misoprostal pessaries to induce contractions - it made me so ill (fluey, achey and shivery). What a long, drawn-out experience. My dh was away for the 'main event', and I had to manage 4 kids amidst all this - it never rains but it pours.............

Anyway, hoping that this is the end of things, and we can move on with our lives whatever the future may hold. I am so pleased to see everyone doing well here - that is heartening. I am so sorry that I have missed so many of your messages, and haven't replied. Please bear with me whilst I get back into things, and get in touch if there's anything you need to know that hasn't already been answered by the wonderful ladies here xxx

 

[Susanah]

Lizzie thanks so much. Your words are spot on (as usual) and yes you are right that NOT having the time to worry is a good thing. I am still scared that the scan on monday will show a miscarriage (due to the bleeding i have had) and ill go the the hospital for a stitch but come home sad. I can't get the image of my consultants face out of my mind, when he was looking at the scan of my stillborn baby after he died in utero and then told me there was no heartbeat. Im stuck on this image in my mind. But then I look at Charlie in front of me and she is a little miracle... maybe we CAN do it again?!?

I feel so much for you. Wish I could I come to leicester and help! Bless you. I wish there was something I could do. Also sorry to hear that you had to go through the medical missed miscarriage management. It makes you feel rotten.
If there is anything I could do to help, please let me know!
Try and focus on getting through the sadness and looking to the future. Will you try for another? Sending you lots of hugs and im so sorry you had to go through this. It shouldnt have happened to you.
xx

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi there Rensben You put a smile on my face. Glad to hear things are going smoothly!

Lizzie, so sorry it all took place like that. It's such an emotional issue anyways, but adding all that took place just makes it so much more intense. Take the time you need to grieve. We'll be here. Let us know how your doing as well when you can. Now that your past the clinical process, the emotional aspect will start to surface. It is a process that's for sure. Each person's is different. I continue to pray for you as you move forward.



AFM: we had our appointment today. I guess it was good. Amelia hasn't been very cooperative with her sonograms. She's breech and doesn't like to move much! They were able to get pictures of the heart though they were quite foggy! Afterwards the Dr. came in and shared with us that he didn't really see anything though there could be something so small they couldn't catch it because of Amelia's positioning.

He said he wasn't concerned at all and that even if it IS VSD, it would be so small it would either fix itself or the surgery would be minimal. The plan is to give her a sonogram of her heart when she's born while at the hospital to be sure there's nothing there.

So, for now I guess there's no concern. It's hard to get excited when there was no real confirmation. I wee bit frustrating but since he wasn't at all concerned, I suppose I shouldn't be. I'm just frustrated because I wanted a big fat confirmation that she DIDN'T have VSD. Nobody will know for sure until she's born potentially another 10wks. Oh goodness! This waiting bit is a pain. I don't mind waiting for Amelia, it's those stupid "possible" diagnosis' that irritate me without any real idea of something is actually there to diagnose. It's annoying.

Anyhoo. I'm moving on and not worrying. Just have to trust in God and His plans. It'll all work out in the end!

 

[sham1]

Lizzie you are so courageous and I admire your strength. I'm sorry this time didn't work out for you but I wish you all the best for the future and stay on here, you have so much knowledge to pass on. All the best for you and your family xxxx

 

[lizziedripping]

Hi Susanah - it's worth mentioning that I have bled in all my pregnancies, and none but this one have miscarried. I had quite a heavy loss with my first and third pregnancies, but the babies were always ok chicken

It is such a shame that we have to be frightened throughout what should be a positive experience, the fear is immense. I would love to have a stress-free pregnancy like most other women..........if only! Let me know how it goes, hoping all is well.

As for us, I think we will try again, and would wait til next yr if we could. However, I am 38 now and feel that time is against us, so we'll probably try again sooner rather than later. Thanks for your words of support, I am feeling better tonight. The pessaries certainly had a bizarre effect - I've never been feverish after any medication I've been given.

MA - Your wonderful faith keeps you positive but I feel sorry that you have this additional worry about Amelia after all that you ahve been through. I suspect the medics are operating caution as is typical, and don't like to be absolute about a diagnosis given the doubt which was there in the first place. I feel however that they are fairly confident all is well, but are "edging their bets" just in case

One thing is for certain, that little darlin is gonna be all the better for staying safe inside her Mommy You are doing a brilliant job, and giving her everything she needs x