I don't really get why everyone has to get their back up when someone quotes an article like this - if you KNOW why kids are fat, you do the opposite? Stop complaining about 'fatso' kids - they aren't your kids. You can exclude your kid from the 'fatso' kid club because you breastfed until 12 months, weaned at 6 months, work 9-5, have a degree and are 25, therefore you don't fall into any of the high risk categories.
My daughter is 18 months old. Sometimes, she goes to McDonalds with my sister. Generally, she has a high fat diet. She eats a lot of dairy products, in fact we include at least one portion of dairy in every meal she has. She has the same thing for breakfast every day.
She won't eat things with lumps in. If we have stew, or anything with some sort of sauce, she won't have it. I started weaning her at 14 weeks. She likes chocolate.
Now I wonder, if you'll judge me by the fact that I am 21, and neither me nor my OH work. Or if you'll take into account that my daughter has a serious disability - in fact not just one, a few. She can't eat lumps because she has Chiari Malformation and will vomit when certain textures are put into her mouth. She has a lot of dairy products because one of her disabilities involves a VERY (I mean about 75%) high risk of brittle bone disease. Our paed told us to start weaning her at 14 weeks because she had very severe reflux. OMG she goes to McDonalds, I must be such a shite mother. Oh, and she was formula fed. From birth. Because I, her humble mother, was in such a state that my milk never even came in. Maybe I should have starved my baby who came very very close to dying from a brain infection so I could breastfeed her, and raise her IQ by four points, and safeguard her against the risk of obesity in later life.
Now do I listen to a bunch of screeching women telling me what I should do, or am I allowed to actually listen to the group of medical professionals, all highly trained in their own field (neurologist, neurosurgeon, paediatrician, dietician, orthopedic surgeon) who all know infinitely more about by daughter and her condition than anyone else does.
And because my kid eats so much 'crap', she must be fat, right? She'll grow up to be a 'fatso' kid. Uhm... She weighs less than the average 10 month old. If she doesn't gain some weight (and yes, we have been told to go to extreme measures now) - she will be fitted with a PEG tube, and each night her stomach will be filled with a fatty, sugary fluid, complete with added vitamins, to help her grow.
Yes, there is research going on. But there is no need to shove things like this down other people's throats. You have your opinion - other people have theirs. No need to cry over it.
Really unnecessary. Of course you should be listening to the drs as your daughter needed to be weaned early due to a medical condition. No-one as far as I could see was arguing with that or suggesting that they knew more than the drs.
It is a very odd attitude to say that people should not be concerned with obese children who are not their own. Where does that stop? Not concerned about people who are elderly because I am not? Not concerned by those who face any particular problem because I am not facing it? Sadly we seem to be moving more to a society where no-one is to care about anyone else because it is 'not their business' and woe betide anyone who dares to offer advice or give their opinion.
No-one was criticising your weaning decisions or your decision to FF. But it seems like you had plenty criticisms to make of others.
Its not an odd attitude - I just know that it ISN'T any my business, and don't like the general attitude of today's society towards other people's raising of their children. The point I was trying to make was that the general population - not a specific person, or even the users of this form (who I by and large love and think are incredibly supportive) - are judgemental to a ridiculous degree. I don't judge others, because its not my place to do that. But some of the statements people make are downright ludicrous. Why should I have to mention that my daughter is disabled and that's why she eats the things she does? Why should anyone have to justify themselves to other people just to stop themselves being attacked?
NIFirsttimer - I wasn't aiming that at you. Regarding the screeching women comment - it does sometimes get a bit screechy on here, but I never said it was screeching in this thread.
You make it your buisness of that child is coming to harm
But I wouldnt see early weaning as a cause for concern
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i dont think anyone is suggesting that other people do it 'wrong' but its about sharing information and getting another point of view.. for example. i was chatting to a mum at our swimming class months ago, and she mentioned that she was doing Baby led weaning, and told me all about the advantages, i admit id not heard of it before, Ruby was still a tiny baby and i had really done any research on the weaning stage. i was shocked, and a bit confused and wondered why everyone else i know fed purees, and what the reasons blw were, so i came home, looked into it, read the BLW book, some traditional weaning books, and the BLW threads on here, and spoke to other people about it, and as i result, im now successfully BLW my daughter! who knows... if that lady hadnt felt it was her place, or her business, to ask how i was going to wean her, and talk to me about why she feels BLW is best for her daughter, then maybe i would never have come across it, and not be doing (and loving) it! My point isnt that i ended up doing it, but just that i became aware of it.. even if i had decided that it wasnt for me,and went down the puree route, surely that would still have been a better made decision because i had made it, being fully aware of the alternatives?
the 'not anyone elses business' thing is a real grey area.
eg.. some of my family think BLW is the most insane thing that they have ever heard... its 'not their business' as in its MY decision to wean my daughter how i want, it IS thier business in that they, like me, want the best for her, and what they believe is best, is puree weaning. they arent making a personal attack on me, but they speak out about it because they love her, and want to be sure im doing right by her.
i would NEVER see a child in McDonalds, and think 'oh god that poor child' and i would NEVER see a young mum and think 'she mustnt know what shes doing' and am actually quite insulted that anyone might think that i would!
yeah... i get the looks too lol..
we order for Ruby from the childrens menu now, and the waiter / waitresses faces are a sketch when they take an order for an 8 month old lol
I've followed this thread from its beginnings and resisted posting as I had a fair idea it would end up like this. But NIFirsttimer what really got my goat was your initial post. Your great big 'thumbup' smilies might as well be a neon light to say we are completely right to wait till 6 months and those of you who do so at 4 months are obviously wrong. Its a bit kind of 'stick that in your pipe and smoke it' to use a local expression.
Perhaps you didn't intend it to come across that way, but its the way I read it. The thing with forums is obviously that there is no tone and sometimes there can be no way of knowing what was really intended. I hoped that it wasn't your intention to give off that vibe, and still do. I hope it was more a way of showing that you are pleased to have had some form of validation that what you are doing is 'right', rather than what others are doing is 'wrong'. (if there is such a thing as 'right' or 'wrong' in this debate).
I think its really sad that mums who take the decision to wean their babies at 4 months, for whatever reason, or who chose to FF over BF are made to feel that they are 'bad mums' when so often this is not the case. I think there is a line to be drawn as to when intervention is necessary and when people really do need to back off and let people make the decisions which are best for them and their families within their own individual circumstances.
as for single young mums, well they should all be sent to a desert island and have their 20 stone giant obese unhealthy mc donalds eating kids taken off them
as for single young mums, well they should all be sent to a desert island and have their 20 stone giant obese unhealthy mc donalds eating kids taken off them
I'm sorry, I cba commenting on anything else, but I just have to say that this made me snort tea
Thank you for a much-needed laugh