Introducing myself here :)

[CaptainMummy]

I have been a single parent for about 5/6 months. Since I was about 7 months pregnant with dd3. I hated the relationship I was in. Everything my ex did pissed me off. I had conpletely fallen out of love with him.for a long time and I couldnt keep on pretending that it was all okay, when I was utterly miserable.

So I am now a single mummy to a just turned 4yr old, a 17mth old and a 3.5 month old. Boy is it hard work!? Some nights i really struggle on my own, I think mostly due to the youngest two being so young and needy, and I get so stressed out at times. tonight, dd3 cried from 4.30pm until she went to bed at 7.30, all the while dd2 continually made a mess/screamed/climbed/hit her sister etc, I had to make dinner, dd1 was left on her own as usual.... that sort of stuff!

sometimes I feel like my kids are miserable, because I dont really spend any quality time with any of them, its always just me running around looking after everyone. I hate it.

I could go on and on, but I think I have said enough.

their dad does see them, but he has to come here to see them because he stays in his mums. He comes over maybe twice a week, on his terms. Picks and chooses as he pleases. Spends most of his time on his phone, or complaining that he is tired or hungry or 'ill'.
I could say so much more, but I will leave it at tthat.
Sorry this was so long (and pointless really!) but i had to vent at least some of my frustrations!

 

[Beanonorder]

It sounds like you're doing the best you can. I only have one at the moment and feel like I'm not giving her the attention she deserves. I'm really nervous about how it's going to be when the new baby arrives.

My dh and I separated and technically working on our issues and hoping for reconciliation. I'm not sure if that is ever going to happen. He also comes around on his schedule and it's really frustrating. He is a good dad but he's definitely not doing his fair share. Which of course makes it harder for me. We live in China so I have no family to help out. My parents are at least coming out when the baby is born.

I hope things get easier for you. In the mean time, vent away on here. Sometimes just getting it out can help.

 

[baileybubs]

Aw I know how you feel hun, I could have written your post but I only have 2. They have a small age gap so sometimes I feel like I'm just running from one to the other.
My ex also works on his own schedule (or at least he did until last week when I finally had enough and told him he starts being constant or not at all coz kids are starting nursery).
He comes to mine coz he lives in a house share and he just sits there all day playing with his phone, he never takes them out and only sees them once a week when he even bothers turning up for about 4 hours.

I've been single for almost 5 months now and I honestly feel so shattered! My daughter has me on my toes all day and won't go to sleep properly til gone 8pm, my son wakes from 11pm at night every couple of hours then we are up for the day at 6am! It's so exhausting not having that other person to just maybe take a turn with a night waking or to stop the toddler climbing on things isn't it?!

Big hugs to you hun, every tells me I'm supermum and one day my kids will know everything I've done for them. And maybe one day we'll get a lie in again and manage to eat a meal/drink a coffee whilst it's still hot!!