Is 9 to 10 month a sleep regression time?

[calm]

Its kind of happened slowly, but over the last month or so the nights have gotten worse. I'm lucky because after the first 4 months that were hell for many reasons, they started to get more into a sleep at night pattern. The slowly dropped their feeds and by nearly 6 months were sleeping through, with the odd bad night or needing their dummy/soother or a rock. But its just gone downhill, and I'm panicking a bit. I am not good at all when I can't sleep, or when I don't get a rest, who is? I'm getting a lot of help from my mum, but worried and she will soon go on holiday. They are taking a lot longer to put to sleep, before they would go down on their own in their cots, but lately need picking up a lot, and I bounce and rock them. One or both will wake up, and may be up for an hour or two in the middle of the night (this happens maybe twice a week). But usually one will constantly wake and need dummy or some juice. Its very hot here, plus they often get trapped wind and constipation, which I think can bring them discomfort. It probably seems worse than it is because there are two of them. So if one twin has 2 bad nights, and then another twin has 2 different bad night, it seems like every night is bad if you know what I mean. Don't get me going on when they both want me the same night after having woken each other up Does anyone know if this is typical round this age, and if it gets better?

 

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[lisa1980]

I've no idea if it's typical but DS2's sleep has definitely worsened over the last month. He was a pretty good sleeper before but lately he's wanting to feed a lot overnight again and fidgeting and waking himself up lots. Plus he's harder to get to sleep in the evening (naps are still fine though).

He's teething, plus he had a cold, and he's trying to learn to walk. I wonder if this combination of things is to blame.

Hoping it settles down soon. for you - I'm finding it tough so I can't imagine how much tougher it must be with twins. Fingers crossed this phase is short!

 

[Larkspur]

8-11 months seems to be a pretty common period for a big regression, that's the pre-walking regression. There's often another horrific one around 13-15 months too (am just coming out of it myself) and that's the pre-talking regression.

 

[MindUtopia]

Yes, 8-11 months is often pretty rough. It was our hardest time for sleep, apart from the first few weeks. It's because they tend to be doing a lot of developing then (crawling, standing, cruising, maybe even walking) and there's often some teething and then it's prime time for separation anxiety too, which means they wake frequently wanting to be close to you. I found it really exhausting and overwhelming with one! So I can only imagine with 2! It was taking us sometimes 2 hours to get our daughter to sleep in the evening. Before this she'd gone to sleep pretty easily (even if she still woke every 2 hours or so), and then she was waking after like 30 minutes. My husband and I literally cooked/ate dinner in shifts while one of us was trying to get her to sleep. She was also really grumpy and clingy and not herself at all during the day. Then magically, one day around 11 months, she just popped out of it. She became this really pleasant, fun, confident, outgoing, not clingy toddler who just laid down after her milk and went to sleep easily on her own (we've never sleep trained and don't believe in it). It was literally like she plopped out the other side really easy again. So just hang in there. It will pass.

 

[calm]

Thank you everyone, it does make sense. Both are crawling, teething, learning to stand up... I can't put one twin directly in the cot anymore as he just crawls around like a spider, before he would be happy to just look at his lights soother and drift off to sleep. So instead of putting him in the cot, I got them to sleep individually, as they are overtired and keep each other up. Dh had one in another room, it wasn't perfect, but it worked, and at least I didn't get worked up and they didn't get worked up. I also did something else different. Usually we feed them in our arms when its their dinner, liked nursed. But they fall asleep, only to awake when burped, and be more awake when put in cot, so I fed them their bottle in their highchairs as an experiment. Tonight was acceptable so will continue that way and see how it goes. I truly find anything to do with sleep very hard, but we are more or less getting there. Lets see if they surprise me and sleep through, last night they both needed dummy or some juice twice (which meant me getting up four times )

 

[JessyG]

I think there is. Our regression lasted from 6-18 months But if I can remember correctly 9 months was horrendous (tied in with starting nursery too) 13-16 months was bloody awful too. We came out of it. Our girl still isnt the best sleeper but I remember how bad it was that this seems like utter bliss (she comes in our bed from about midnight!)

You will get through it. Gather as much support as you can sleep whenever possible, grit your teeth and power through.

I never NEVER thought i'd sleep again when she turned 1. It will get better. I promise.

 

[mel28nicole]

Currently in one here. Has been going on for over a month. We get a couple good nights then bad again. I'm so over it. I couldn't imagine with twins

 

[calm]

Currently in one here. Has been going on for over a month. We get a couple good nights then bad again. I'm so over it. I couldn't imagine with twins

Sounds just like my life, though I get a couple of bad nights and then a good one. I'm very over it too, not that it seems to matter. Good job they are so adorable to make up for it!

 

[mel28nicole]

Currently in one here. Has been going on for over a month. We get a couple good nights then bad again. I'm so over it. I couldn't imagine with twins

Sounds just like my life, though I get a couple of bad nights and then a good one. I'm very over it too, not that it seems to matter. Good job they are so adorable to make up for it!

Seriously idk what I would do if DD wasn't adorable and I loved the cuddles so much lol. For a while I wanted to blame teeth but still don't see anymore coming in (she currently has 6). Last night I think her nose was kind of stuff but she was up at 10 11 12 1 and then 2-4:30 and up for good at 6:45. Coffee coffee coffee today lol

 

[CaptainMummy]

We are just having life sleep regression, it seems.
Anyone know when that is meant to end?

 

[calm]

It seems that one ends and another begins sadly. But it would be nice to have a bit of sleep between regressions . At least I've got to the point my twins often nap at the same time and I can get a bit of extra sleep during the day

 

[calm]

And I've sang Twinkle Twinkle so many times I must have worn it out!

 

[Perplexed]

Was going to say for dd it coincided with her learning to stand, cruise and major teething. many things were suddenly really hard and it affected sleep a lot. she was never a good sleeper but it got worse and was the longest sleep phase we had.

hang in there, you will come out on the other side!

 

[lauraemily17]

Sadly yes, another sleep regression! Exactly as has already been said. Ds1 went through it & it was truly awful. Ds2 has just started. I haven't actually had any sleep yet tonight...

 

[Zeri]

I was reading about 9 month sleep regression just this morning. My 9 month-old used to fall asleep every night at 8 pm- then be down until about 1 am. Now he doesn't seem to get tired until 11:00 pm! The other night I put him to bed at midnight! His sister is on summer vacation and so she's up late - and he likes to be up playing with her. I realized that it's a big difference from how things were a month or so ago and so I googled it. Turns out there is a 9 month sleep regression. One of the reasons is that babies are learning and processing and developing so much at this age that it makes them a bit 'wired', lol. I plan to start putting him down around 9:30 pm now instead of 8 pm, for now. I read that consistent bedtimes are still important at this age.