Is anyone else on their 2nd pregnancy but waaaay more nervous than with the first?

[Stellae]

I think it's a combo of finding out really really early (I got a positive test Sunday, but won't officially miss my period until Friday)and knowing how common chemicals are, and the fact that my cousin lost her daughter at 7 months gestation and had to deliver her. Either way, I am so much more nervous this time around than with my first!!

I don't feel nearly as excited either, but I think a lot of that is because I don't really have symptoms yet and it's also familiar territory.

Overall I just feel kinda blah and stressed about it :-/. I might go buy a test just to see if the line's darker than it was on Sunday lol.

 

[RebeccaR19]

Yes I am more nervous with this one. It's because I was on birth control at the time. So I am itching for my first appointment. It's on Monday and I will be having an ultrasound. I don't know why I feel so nervous because I am having regular and strong symptoms. So that would indicate everything is normal. But a part of me keeps saying not to get my hopes up.

 

[smawfl]

Yes definitely. I think it's because I know a lot more now about what could go wrong, or what to expect. I ended up having an early scan as I was worried for my lack of symptoms. Luckily all ok.

 

[Rhio92]

Yes! I've been so anxious this pregnancy :/

 

[W22KLB]

Me too, I have loads of bad thoughts, can't get in to c midwife till 19 September which seems like decades away.

I am also dreading birth I know ages to go yet but the thought of doing it again scares the heck out of me.

 

[dom85]

I'm more nervous in a lot of ways with this pregnancy, maybe because last time was unplanned and I was all my own whereas this baby is very much wished for and I have a partner so it would be devastating to both of us if anything bad happened.

Oddly, with my first I had spotting and got bloods and an ultrasound done when I was 6 weeks which I reassured me but this time around that hasn't happened and waiting until the 12 week scan just seems to be taking forever.

I'm also more nervous because I had a horrible labour and delivery last time that ended in a c section so I'm constantly weighing up whether to try for a VBAC or not.

 

[sn0wbunnie]

Me me me! I have an almost 10 year old son & with his pregnancy I was naive & only 19, so I didn't have much to worry about. That pregnancy AND labor was absolutely perfect. I didn't get morning sickness, had no complications, gave birth just fine without meds. But I feel like this time around is much different. I've been feeling awful, have some health complications & I am SUPER nervous about labor!

 

[Rhio92]

Me me me! I have an almost 10 year old son & with his pregnancy I was naive & only 19, so I didn't have much to worry about. That pregnancy AND labor was absolutely perfect. I didn't get morning sickness, had no complications, gave birth just fine without meds. But I feel like this time around is much different. I've been feeling awful, have some health complications & I am SUPER nervous about labor!

Omg this is so much like my situation! With Connor, I was 18 and a bit of an idiot, to put it bluntly. Pregnancy and labour were easy. This time, pregnancy is awful, and I more than anything want a little baby bundle in 30 weeks time!

 

[ay2808]

Me too. My symptoms don't seem so strong this time but I don't know if my memory from before has been warped! Plus I am a lot more aware of mc and mmc and know lots of people who have gone through this whereas I didn't before. And having a lively toddler and physically active job I don't feel I've had time to stop and absorb it even though I found out at 4wks and last time it was 5.5 weeks. I'm probably going to book a private scan for 8/9 weeks for reassurance.

 

[Oswin]

Me too! I agree that part of it is because our first was unplanned, but this is such a desperately wanted, obsessed over, and tried for baby, so if anything went wrong it would be devastating on several levels. Plus I know so much more now about mmc, ectopics, etc!!
I do think I'm just a bit of a neurotic maniac in pregnancy though i recommend an early scan!!

 

[Okela]

Yes! I'm also having horrible dreams almost every night, even though my sympyoms are there and I'm already showing. Uuuggghhh why can't my pregnancies be stress free!

 

[Christinee]

I am more nervous this pregnancy than I was on my first.. But I am a lot older now too. I was 21 with my first and now I am 37 pregnant with my second... You read all this crazy stuff about being older and pregnant that it's got me a little freaked out at times. I have decided to just to stop with all the fear mongering articles and just go with the pregnancy.

 

[Stellae]

I'm so relieved to see so many people in the same boat!!! I'm dreading labor already... and I just missed my period officially today lol! They had to use forceps to deliver my son and he was little, only 5 lbs 12 oz (and not a preemie, which had me soooooo worked up over what I must have done wrong for him to be so little). I'm afraid if the next one is any bigger it'll have to be a c-section. My mom had a similar situation with my oldest sibling and that turned into an emergency c-section, so I'm really scared my next one will end up the same!

 

[MrsA85]

I am very nervous this time because of an early miscarriage a few months ago and a friend who has just had a miscarriage. I am seeing my doctor on Thursday and hopefully beg for an early scan because I think if I see a heartbeat I should be able to relax a bit more. Strangely I am not worried about the birth even though it was quite traumatic last time. Just praying to get to 12 weeks at the moment x