Is childbirth THAT bad?

[jozylynn896]

I mean I know its no walk in the park, but everytime I hear about it its described as the most painful experience in the whole world. As an unbearable pain?
Any opinions?

 

[MelM]

I used to find it hard to believe that you could forget about the pain of birth after but it is so true, yes it hurts but I found birthing my daughter one of the most amazing, positive things in this world. I think it helped that I had a very supportive partner who helped me stay strong and an amazing midwife who let me birth it the most comfortable way for me (on all fours) and I managed it all without drugs not even gas xx

 

[mojo86]

I dont personally have any experience yet, but try not to listen to all the horror stories. My best friend says she found having a filling at the dentist more painful than giving birth - we're all different. Since being pregnant I have found women seem to enjoy telling you how horrific giving birth is. One woman I used to work with was telling me how horrendous it is, how ill she felt and how unbearable the pain is - yet she has 5 kids so obviously isnt as bad as she likes to make out.

 

[Dragonfly]

Well everyone says tv make it look worse, but you know what compared to my labours the tv ones looked easy. I do get jealous of easy births when mine where painful and I did shout to be killed in the middle of it. It is painful for me. everyone's pain threshold is different.

 

[solitaire89]

Is childbirth THAT bad? In a word, nope!
It does depend a lot on your mind set and what preparation you do for birth, but I had a pain free and drug free labour and home birth, and found the whole experience amazing. I used Natal Hypnotherapy, which really helped me, and I would recommend it to anyone.

 

[Dragonfly]

Wish I had that sort of money. Good for you.

 

[hels08]

its not bad at all, the intense pain is only at the very end by which point you dont care! i managed to have 2 with only a bit of gas each time. i recommend getting in the bath in labour as the water really helps! good luck

 

[Mazzy17]

I have no experience YET but the only person who has told me about her labour does not take pain very well AT ALL! This woman can stub her toe and go off sick for a week!

Everyone else tells me yes the end part is hard work but once lil Bubba is in your arms you dont give a toot!

 

[solitaire89]

Wish I had that sort of money. Good for you.

it took a lot of saving for before even ttc... Its not like I've got that sort of cash laying about but it was certainly worth everything we gave up.

 

[Eleanor ace]

For me, no. It was painful, I think for a lot of people that's unavoidable. But the pain doesn't last that long, a few hours or at most days, and then you get something amazing at the end. Whereas other painful experiences I've had have served no useful purpose and sometimes dragged on for ages. There are also ways to help the pain- medication and drug free methods- which aren't always an option with other painful experiences.

 

[Mandyblur]

Is childbirth THAT bad?

At the beginning of labour - no its manageable - when it comes to being ready to push - yes it is THAT bad..................BUT it is also over very quickly and as soon as you have your baby in your arms the pain is forgotten INSTANTLY.

So all in all - NO it isn't THAT bad - infact i quite enjoy labour, it amazes me what strength and power my body has. Listen to what your body is telling you to do and keep upright and mobile you'll have labour sussed in no time.

If labour was that bad i wouldn't have had 2 natural births and planning on having another natural birth in 14 weeks time

 

[Charli666]

I have no experience, yet....

But i'm looking forward to my labour and the birth... i figure it wont be forever, it wont be a meaningless pain, and its something my body was designed to do.

 

[Dragonfly]

Wish I had that sort of money. Good for you.

it took a lot of saving for before even ttc... Its not like I've got that sort of cash laying about but it was certainly worth everything we gave up.

I may look in to hypnotherapy. I hate being the only one who had horrible pain in birth. I have a doula this time to.

 

[solitaire89]

I may look in to hypnotherapy. I hate being the only one who had horrible pain in birth. I have a doula this time to.

A doula will help you hugely

I would highly recommend the Natal Hypnotherapy - if you have any questions, feel free to shout me

 

[Irish Eyes]

For me, yes it really is THAT painful. I was induced which I hear makes it worse but at one point I offered to give the MW my baby if she'd only make the pain stop!

 

[phoenix333]

I think everyone is different and probably every labour is different. I always thought I had a high pain threshold. I got on fine to begin with and although painful I coped really well on gas and air.........untill they broke my waters at 7cms. Then that was a whole new level of pain and for me, THAT bad lol, it was definitely by far the worse pain I've experienced and there is no way I would have coped without an epidural (which was an amazing relief). I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of if you feel like you have to resort to pain relief. If my next labour feels anything like as bad as that, I would not hesitate to get one again.

 

[bumblebeexo]

Well..

I got to the hospital after OH made me. I was having contractions every minute but they didn't seem sore enough to be labour.. Yes they did make me wince but I had always imagine them to make me scream! We got to the hospital and the midwife told me she thought I could just go home as I didn't seem to be in established labour and she wasn't keen to check me. I asked to be checked anyways as I wanted an idea of how far on I was so she did.. And I was 7CM!! OH looked very impressed with himself that he had been right to go to hospital!
I had a water birth with gas and air and everything was fine until I came out the pool to push. I couldn't get comfy in the pool, but looking back I wish I had stayed in it. The contractions were on top of each other and I was screaming. I was begging for pain relief but obviously I couldn't get any as LO wasn't far from out! She was born after half an hour of pushing.
So basically, for me labour was fine until the very end. I thought I was doing so well too as I was sitting talking to OH, even texting at one point! I thought I'd escape the shouting but nope!

 

[phoenix333]

Well..

I got to the hospital after OH made me. I was having contractions every minute but they didn't seem sore enough to be labour.. Yes they did make me wince but I had always imagine them to make me scream! We got to the hospital and the midwife told me she thought I could just go home as I didn't seem to be in established labour and she wasn't keen to check me. I asked to be checked anyways as I wanted an idea of how far on I was so she did.. And I was 7CM!! OH looked very impressed with himself that he had been right to go to hospital!
I had a water birth with gas and air and everything was fine until I came out the pool to push. I couldn't get comfy in the pool, but looking back I wish I had stayed in it. The contractions were on top of each other and I was screaming. I was begging for pain relief but obviously I couldn't get any as LO wasn't far from out! She was born after half an hour of pushing.
So basically, for me labour was fine until the very end. I thought I was doing so well too as I was sitting talking to OH, even texting at one point! I thought I'd escape the shouting but nope!

Sorry to be OT but we have girlies born on the same day x

 

[Dragonfly]

I may look in to hypnotherapy. I hate being the only one who had horrible pain in birth. I have a doula this time to.

A doula will help you hugely

I would highly recommend the Natal Hypnotherapy - if you have any questions, feel free to shout me

I dont hold out hope for finding help here, or the money for it. They kinda ignore all your birth plan here and even laughed at my last one, 2cm dilated and I was in agony. I defo need some form of pain management that wont be spinals again.

 

[SophiaEli]

It was an awful experience for me though I was theoretically prepared, BUT I've heard stories of "easy" cases - women had pain not worse than during menses!
To some extent, the childbirth process depends on woman's preparedness and an ability to relax. Though, as always, everything is individual. We all have different levels of pain we can bear. And even the same woman can have different experiences with two children (according to my mother's stories and others too!). I think this is because a child is also a part of the process, so another child leads to another experience, another pace, other sizes...