vmcsherry
preggo mama of 1
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Hello Ladies,
So here it goes!
Im 28 and my DH is 27 and we married in August this year and we have been together for nearly 6 years. Before the wedding we decided we were going to start to try in November. Well it was more like I suggested and he agreed! Unfortunately I was made redundant 3 days after returning to work after the honeymoon . . . I KNOW!!!
My DH now thinks that since Im not working at the moment that we shouldnt even try. As much as I try to explain to him that it could take over a year to conceive he still isnt buying it. He says that he doesnt make enough to support a wife and a baby. I say he does! He makes £1500 a month, we dont have car payments as we own our vehicle outright, we dont have mortgage or pay rent as our lovely 3 bedroom house was given to us by his father as a wedding gift. His personal bills total about £300 a month and mine total about £350. His father pays for heating oil to be topped up every 3 months so we dont have that expense either. We dont have the big bills that most couples have to contend with. On top of everything i found out recently that £200 is deposited every month into his bank account from his fathers! (his family is loaded)
I have always talked about the baby thing, he has never initiated a conversation about having a baby. He acts like it makes him uncomfortable. Even after he proposed, talking about the wedding made him uncomfortable and we couldnt have a proper conversation about it without giggling like 15 year olds. We got the wedding planned none the less and had a perfect day. He actually says now that he loves being married!
Is he using the whole "I cant afford a baby" as an excuse to delay everything because he thinks he isnt ready? As most of his income is disposable I think he isnt ready to give it all up to start a family.
Can someone please give me thier opinion on what they think is going on? Am I crazy for thinking that we could get away with only one of us working?
So here it goes!
Im 28 and my DH is 27 and we married in August this year and we have been together for nearly 6 years. Before the wedding we decided we were going to start to try in November. Well it was more like I suggested and he agreed! Unfortunately I was made redundant 3 days after returning to work after the honeymoon . . . I KNOW!!!
My DH now thinks that since Im not working at the moment that we shouldnt even try. As much as I try to explain to him that it could take over a year to conceive he still isnt buying it. He says that he doesnt make enough to support a wife and a baby. I say he does! He makes £1500 a month, we dont have car payments as we own our vehicle outright, we dont have mortgage or pay rent as our lovely 3 bedroom house was given to us by his father as a wedding gift. His personal bills total about £300 a month and mine total about £350. His father pays for heating oil to be topped up every 3 months so we dont have that expense either. We dont have the big bills that most couples have to contend with. On top of everything i found out recently that £200 is deposited every month into his bank account from his fathers! (his family is loaded)
I have always talked about the baby thing, he has never initiated a conversation about having a baby. He acts like it makes him uncomfortable. Even after he proposed, talking about the wedding made him uncomfortable and we couldnt have a proper conversation about it without giggling like 15 year olds. We got the wedding planned none the less and had a perfect day. He actually says now that he loves being married!
Is he using the whole "I cant afford a baby" as an excuse to delay everything because he thinks he isnt ready? As most of his income is disposable I think he isnt ready to give it all up to start a family.
Can someone please give me thier opinion on what they think is going on? Am I crazy for thinking that we could get away with only one of us working?