Is It Common to Always Feel Guilty?

[mamashakesit]

My LO and myself have been living with my parents since she was a month old and I finally got a part-time job and our own place and LO is now attending daycare. This job has been REALLY good for me. I was pretty depressed and hopeless before and just felt really lonely all the time...and was not thrilled about living with my parents at age 33 AT ALL. But now that LO goes to daycare...I feel guilty all the time. I hardly see her in the morning and when we get home, I'm trying to get the house clean (seems to be an impossible feat when I'm working) and I feel like I'm just ignoring her. Then when it's close to bedtime I'm just exhausted and don't have a whole lot of energy to play with her.

Is it just me...or is being a single mother a life sentence of guilt? Maybe things will get better once I get more settled and comfortable in my job...but I feel like I don't see her nearly enough and when I do, I feel like I'm ignoring her so I can get housework done and chores taken care of while I have a chance. Now that I am finally preoccupied, I don't cry over FOB anymore...but my eyes fill with tears when I think of how little time LO and I get to spend together. For the first 10 months we could do anything at any time. Go swimming, to the library...museum...I know I needed to go back to work and I'm glad I did, but I miss her, too!

 

[Snowball]

It is at the moment for me. I feel bad that they are saddled with a father who puts them down the pecking order for his priorities and cared about them enough to get steaming drunk and abandon them in the middle of the night. I feel bad for Louie that his own dad (and his grandmother on the sly) chose someone he barely knew over his right to live and he's only here because of me refusing to go in that clinic.

Sadly I think I'm always going to feel guilty for things FOB should feel guilty for... because he's too hung up on shoving the blame my way to feel guilty himself.

 

[Laura2919]

Its natural to feel a bit guilty, FOB really annoyed me on Monday because it was his day off and he had the girls all weekend but I had an operation on Friday so he could of at least walked the dog. He obviously had other plans. I havent said anything and I dont intend to but finally my mum sees what I mean about priorites.

 

[MissMamma]

It is at the moment for me. I feel bad that they are saddled with a father who puts them down the pecking order for his priorities and cared about them enough to get steaming drunk and abandon them in the middle of the night. I feel bad for Louie that his own dad (and his grandmother on the sly) chose someone he barely knew over his right to live and he's only here because of me refusing to go in that clinic.

Sadly I think I'm always going to feel guilty for things FOB should feel guilty for... because he's too hung up on shoving the blame my way to feel guilty himself.

i could have written this myself :/

i constantly feel guilty too hun, my LO has just started nursery and it kills me to leave her there especially when she cries, then to hand her over to my mum or FOB in the time i do get to see her so that i can get my college work done... i dont think i'll ever not feel guilty!