Is it crazy for me to ask to get tested for EVERYTHING after first miscarriage

[Snr052]

I had my first miscarriage at 6 weeks last week and I've been devastated. I am so fearful of this happening again and want to get tested for everything- progesterone levels, blood clotting, auto immune disorders, etc. I have some friends that have these problems and saw them suffer with multiple miscarriages. I dont think its fair to wait until I have multiple miscarriages before they decide they want to test me. I basically argued with the nurse begging for an apt with the doctor to review this. Am I out of line for asking this? Is there any way I can persuade them to test me? I feel that I am the patient and if I want to be tested to prevent going through this again, I should be able to.

Please tell me if I am being out of line as I still might just be sensitive about the situation

 

[WishnandHopn]

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's really hard and perfectly normal to want to know why it happened. I know they don't like to do much investigation after "only" one loss (because sadly having one first tri miscarriage is very common and usually assumed to be chromosomal) but I think it would be perfectly reasonable to ask for some basic hormone testing including progesterone and thyroid hormone. A lot of people have these tests done before they even try to conceive.

I also felt a desperate need to know why it had happened after my loss. I felt like my body had failed me. Since it had taken more than 6 months to conceive, I ended up going for a full fertility workup and did find out via saline infusion ultrasound that I had a sizeable endometrial polyp, which the doctor said could have prevented proper implantation and caused the miscarriage. I think I am more the exception, as most women never get to know why an early loss happened and whether it's something we can fix or prevent from happening again.

I hope you get your sticky BFP very soon!

 

[mimi4]

I am really sorry for yr loss. Women, who have experienced 3 and more consecutive pregnancy losses (recurrent mcs), are usually advised to do some tests to find out the cause. Less than 3 mcs/cp are considered to have been due to chance. There are various reasons why mc occurs as immune issues, abnormal chromosomes (can be discovered using PGS NGS), infections and others. Keep your head up and I am sure yr time will come x

 

[LuBru]

I am going to see an RE tomorrow to discuss what is now my third loss. After my first they didn't seem concerned at all - in fact, since we had also taken more than 6 months to conceive in the first place so the RE said it was a "good" sign. But now that we've had 3 losses the testing is going to begin. ❤

 

[WishnandHopn]

I'm so sorry for your losses Lu. Good luck at the RE, I hope you get some answers. They told me the same thing after my loss. Have you read Coming to Term? It's a good read.

 

[sunshine2014]

I totally understand these feelings! I've had two mmcs, and now a third early mc. After the first one, my OB told me it was just unlucky/statistics - and he was probably right. After my second, I had a DR friend order me a TON of bloodwork to check all of those things to try to determine why it kept happening. All of my results were normal, so it really only told me that I was in fact, unlucky. For the third pregnancy my new OB started me on baby asprin and progesterone right away, and I was able to have a successful pregnancy. I swore it was because of the new meds I took. For my fourth pregnancy, I started both of those again...but it ended at 5 weeks. So I really do believe it's all about chance. It did happen, so I know it's possible...but I think I'm just one of those unlucky ones, who has a 50% chance of it working every time.

So, I wouldn't stress yet. As hard as that is -- and trust me, I know. Having one mc doesn't mean you'll keep having them. It really is such a complicated process, genetically, and it's amazing that so many pregnancies actually *work*. Hang in there, and don't give up...

 

[LuBru]

Thank you sunshine2014 for taking the time to share your story, that is really helpful to hear. And also WishnandHopn - I have heard about Coming to Term, thanks for reminding me about it again. I just put a hold on it at our library. Thank you!!!

 

[Trying4first1]

Sorry for your loss x
After one MC I wouldnt worry as they are normally a one off event due to a chromosomal abnormality.
I have had 4 MC so am now being seen by specialists. But even after my 3rd I tried again after basic testing as I know it is a numbers game. Obviously now I know it's a bit more than that hence why we are under the RMC now.
It's natural to want to know but half of the time you never find out. I still don't know why my body rejected my babies and I may not ever know.
Remember the odds are in your favour. One MC doesn't mean that you will have another.
Take care