pippi_89
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*MASSIVE RANT ALERT*
OH and I got engaged in May and I we were both really excited as we've been together four years, we have two children and in our minds it's about bloody time lol
We were (very good ) friends who sort of fell into an official relationship after I got pregnant. We have never done anything special for just the two of us because we have been a family from day 1, so we both really want a 'proper' wedding. Nothing massive but a ceremony, reception, honeymoon etc. that we can share with family/friend.
We announced it to our family and it seems like we've had nothing but negativity from everywhere!
His mum said 'you'd better not invite more than 10 people, big weddings are stupid' (we both have large families, and both parents are split and re-married so this is impossible!)
His dad said 'you need to buy a house, what's the point if you don't have your own house?' (we are in a very nice house now, nice area, big garden for LOs etc)
My mum, who I am not close to asked when it was, I said a couple of years - she's ignored me since.
My dad said 'ok' and that was it!
And my Grandma, well.....'What a waste of money! You live together so you might as well be married anyway. Why do you want to draw attention to the fact that you have children and you're not already married. Why don't you buy a car instead of wasting money on feeding a bunch of people? You need to do your degree before you think about spending money on anything else! I made my own dress, went to the church and went home again, why should you be any different? You're only doing it because you think it's fashionable and you want to show off.........it goes on and on! And she WILL NOT get off my back about it!
We are thinking a couple of years away yet so we can save the money, so it's not like we are asking anyone to fund it. We are only saving what we can afford so the kids will not go without anything. And like I've said we're not thinking a £25,000 3 day festival!
I'm getting seriously depressed! It's starting feel like getting engaged was the worst plan we've ever had!
Are we being selfish and wasting money? Please someone give me an honest opinion
(sorry. I'm done now lol)
OH and I got engaged in May and I we were both really excited as we've been together four years, we have two children and in our minds it's about bloody time lol
We were (very good ) friends who sort of fell into an official relationship after I got pregnant. We have never done anything special for just the two of us because we have been a family from day 1, so we both really want a 'proper' wedding. Nothing massive but a ceremony, reception, honeymoon etc. that we can share with family/friend.
We announced it to our family and it seems like we've had nothing but negativity from everywhere!
His mum said 'you'd better not invite more than 10 people, big weddings are stupid' (we both have large families, and both parents are split and re-married so this is impossible!)
His dad said 'you need to buy a house, what's the point if you don't have your own house?' (we are in a very nice house now, nice area, big garden for LOs etc)
My mum, who I am not close to asked when it was, I said a couple of years - she's ignored me since.
My dad said 'ok' and that was it!
And my Grandma, well.....'What a waste of money! You live together so you might as well be married anyway. Why do you want to draw attention to the fact that you have children and you're not already married. Why don't you buy a car instead of wasting money on feeding a bunch of people? You need to do your degree before you think about spending money on anything else! I made my own dress, went to the church and went home again, why should you be any different? You're only doing it because you think it's fashionable and you want to show off.........it goes on and on! And she WILL NOT get off my back about it!
We are thinking a couple of years away yet so we can save the money, so it's not like we are asking anyone to fund it. We are only saving what we can afford so the kids will not go without anything. And like I've said we're not thinking a £25,000 3 day festival!
I'm getting seriously depressed! It's starting feel like getting engaged was the worst plan we've ever had!
Are we being selfish and wasting money? Please someone give me an honest opinion
(sorry. I'm done now lol)